Thank's guys for taking part....I predicted almost everyone's rankings.You guys are no different then then 100 freshman we do this too.And Glen made a point about " from a females perspective". It doesn't make a difference.Abigail is No 1 in most rankings maybe No 2 in a few.Gregory always gets off easy and is ranked the least offensive....I did the same thing most of you all did in the rankings.Until our school nurse Ann who was in charge of these peer weekends shed some light on me.She is retired after 35 yrs as our school nurse..mother theresa,educator,cheerleading coach and a saint because she volunteered her entire life helping children. One of her biggest gripes in life was how Abigail was ranked.Over the years she convinced me to change my ranking...
Most offensive..
Gregory.....
the others Sinbad,Ivan and Slug are inter -changable.
the least at the bottom is
Abigail....
why Abigail....she did it for Love...as bad as that act was..sleeping with a low life..she set lesser values of sex for a greater one..love..I'm sure she was immature ,naive,stupid and then turns hate into enjoyment.she is getting her revenge by laughing...she loses a lot of points because of that but not enough to rank her No 1... one year Ann took out the laughing part at the end to see if Abigail's rankings might improve..they did but by just a few.The question I thought of was ....her being the most offensive ..was it due to the sex with Sinbad or the last lines of the exercise".. as the sun set on the horizon,we hear Abigail laughing at Gregory". That is the last thing we readers hear and its on our minds.
Now Greg gets the E-zee pass.He rejects her.Abigail did the most horrendous thing in her life...had sex with someone else so she could be with you....Greg,get over it.You rejected her...that shows how important she was to you.If you loved her the way she loved you....maybe it doesn't matter as much...couldn't you assure her in someway it was wrong but I love you and realize why you did it.It's going to be hard to forgive and forget but Love dominates if its true love.
One of the questions we have to ask is " does our view of love in our society excuse these types of behaviors".
When we do this exercise with the students they are in groups...so much more is added..about stereotypes,character,values,violence,prejudice,types of behaviors...Ann always makes sure the message about Abigail is that she is wrong too.They all are offensive esp. Abigail....but not No.1....
There are no right or wrong...I changed my rankings over the years...not sure if any of you would change yours seeing my take...and I understand why most of us had Abigail on top...and gregory gets a free ride...everyone can make a good point about there guy being No 1..."our choices are based upon what we choose to believe behind actions.
Ivan...choose not to do anything..
Slug..choose violence
Sinbad..he could of helped but had a price
I always thought that Abigail always was no 1 because of her laughing at the end.But if you take that out of the story she is still no 1...
Thanks for taking part...like I said from the beginning..there are right or wrong.....was wondering if anyone might look at their rankings and change them...i did over the years...thanks again...
?I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.
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