Ok, need some serious advice here

[KotysDad]

This isnt a joke, but this sure as hell seems to be a riddle to me at this point.

Fellows, you ever meet a woman that absolutely grabs every bit of your attention, even when you arent around her?? In most instances, you just suck it up and ask her out, right??....but usually the situations in which you are around her make it somewhat easy to ask her out.....like a co-worker, or someone who lives in your neighborhood that you keep seeing at the grocery store, etc....Well this is a little trickier for me in that this woman is my DENTIST!! I am about to order a truckload of Skittles just so I can develope more cavaties. How in the hell do you ask out your dentist without making a complete ass of yourself in front of her and maybe her assistant if your timing sucks??? Ok, here is the skinny.....

I am 75% certain she isnt married. I am 40% certain she has said and done a few things that my co-workers think might be "signals". I dont want to get into them because I dont want to be swayed away from thinking about asking her out. Some might say they are signals, some might say they arent.....just like my co-workers say.

So tell me ....... How do you go about this???

Do I ask her as soon as I sit in the chair and (if I am totally off-base) then I have a dentist who feels totally awkward and about to stick a sharp drill in my mouth - probably with a nervous hand by now.

Do I ask her after its all over while half my face is asleep and say something like "Ebxuse bme, but bould you be like to may-ba-be go ba out ba with me some-ba-time" ....as I wipe the spit from my chin???

This is one person I will forever kick myself in the ass over if I dont "seize the day" and "take my chance" for once in my life. But she is my dentist....not the easiest person to just up and ask out (whether you are reading or misreading the signals).

Any suggestions??????? :shrug:

 

[SmashMouth]

Very tough one. Maybe tell her your work insurance is changing at work, and you'd like to keep in touch. Ask her if she'd like to have dinner.

 

[TIME TO MAKE $$$]

ask the assistant blindly if she is married/with someone first, then go from there...

 

[S-Love]

tell her you are an Anti-Dentite

 

[fatdaddycool]

Me personally I would walk in, say hello and sit in the chair. As she comes in and makes a little small talk, which if she does have interest whe will most certainly do, you tell her you need to ask her something. It is at this time I would make sure I had a couple of bags of skittles in my pockets. And I would probably try to lighten the very awkward setting which she will also be aware of by saying something like the following.
"What did you want to ask me", she asked as she bent over me to alligator clip a terry cloth bib around my neck.
"Well", I answer sheepishly. " Since I made this appointment with you a couple of days ago", I whispered as she bent over her stainless steel table, I could feel her arm brush up against my thigh. My breath began to get heavy in anticipation of my big moment. "I haven't been able to stop thinking about you, and, well at first I bought all these skittles thinking if I got a toothache.....but then I realized that you are a dentist and are probably turned off by cavities". I was stumbling over my words, but it seemed to be somewhat endearing to her. What was it that was so intoxicating, could it be my honesty? My truthfulness? The ability to be self deprecating yet still be endearing?
"So then I was kind of at a loss, figuring the whole root canal thing was probably a bad way to go, so I was wondering if maybe you would like to have dinner with me tonight, and then maybe dancing, or a show, or heck we can watch the sunset and floss for all that matter as long as you say yes, you will go out with me". I waited for her to answer. The moment itself was replaying in my mind over and over again already. She looked at me quizically and said..........the rest is up to you brother. But that is how I would play it, because no matter what you lighten the mood a little and unless she is dating me already she will say yes.:yup

 

[KotysDad]

LOL anti-dentite....Well if I was before, I definitely am not now.


FDC....that sounds like a great idea. At least if she says no, she will be partially laughing with me instead of totally at me....cuz I dont think I would be able to keep a straight face through that approach...and it would take away some of the awkwardness. My next appointment is in 2 weeks, so I have some time to work on my delivery. lol

 

[THE KOD]

Koty

its just unprofessional to ask her when your sitting in a dentist chair. no way you get anywhere doing that. I think its a unwritten code among dentists.

I dont think there is a chance in hell she will date you as long as your a patient.

Make a change and then give her a call and ask her out. You may get to fill a real cavity.

Hope that helps


Scott King of Dogs

 

[marine]

as un real as it is, I have to agree with Scott on this one. Dont ask her out while you are there for an appointment.

Keep them separated.

Do you walk up to cashiers at the grocery store to ask them out?

Do you file a lawsuit against your mother just cuz you have the hots for your lawyer?

She will undoubtedly be put off if you make this approach during an appointment setting.

I suggest hitting up the assistant and getting the skinny on things before you push further.

 

[KotysDad]

Scott and Marine....you both make good points too. Ugh. I knew this wouldnt be easy.

 

[Doughboy]

Man, I will probably never say this again, but I agree with Scott

Scott - i am just kidding......well maybe not.

 

[THE KOD]

Man, I will probably never say this again, but I agree with Scott

Scott - i am just kidding......well maybe not.

Marine and doughboy, funny very funny


I have always had a way with the babes. What can I say.
Woman are my specialty.

Glad to be of some service in any small way that I can.

If you really wanted to be sinister you could follow her home one time like a stalker. Or if you have any money you could get a private detective to do the dirty on her.

See where she lives, neighborhood, anyone around. Then you go there one Saturday and have a flat tire in front of her house. You walk up to the door with a plan to ask to use the phone. She comes out and you say...........so will you have sex with me now ?

That otta do it.


Scott King of Dogs

 

[TheShrimp]

Here's a few suggestions.

Go in and say, "I need some advice. Maybe you could help me out because you're a dentist. See, I've got this friend who really has a crush on his dentist and he's wondering what the protocol is for asking her out." When you say "friend" make quotes in the air with your fingers so she gets the hint.

If that fails...

Brush twice a day and floss regularly. Dentists loooooove that. She'll be asking YOU out pretty soon.

 

[Blazer]

EDIT

EDIT

Man, I will probably never say this again, but I agree with EDIT

EDIT - i am just kidding......well maybe not.

Doughboy,

You are correct. A dentist is a professional and will not have client/personal relations with the same client. I see 2 options: One, find her gym/happy hour bar/church/whatever and "bump" into her there and ask her out. Two, change dentists and return to her office to ask her out. It's major cheesy ,but it will work.

 

[fatdaddycool]

thats a bunch of crap. Dentists will date a patient. What the hell do you think happens when you marry a dentist? You find another one. Yea don't ask out a hairdresser either, and stay away from the damn nurses. Walk in, tell her that you feel extremely awkward but you couldn't think of any other way to do it that wouldn't involve stalking, or sneakiness, yet you couldn't live with yourself if you never asked. And then ask her to go to lunch that day or the next. My god dude she has to be in her late twenties or thirties right? And you are a father already right? Confidence is very sexy, cockiness is a turn off. But honesty and integrity always, in the long run, get the girl. Give it a whirl. Nothing is easy but if she likes you she will say yes or that she doesn't normally date patients at which time you say "Oh yeah and I need to cancel my appointment, you were saying"? You will be fine, that patient client thing is crap if she wants a man and you want a girl then things always work out.
FDC