Pessimists-Whiners-ect

[DOGS THAT BARK]

Just finished reading article and made me think of some here--so thought I'd put up the highlights to help us deal with them--

a few of my favs in article--
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Positive Ways to Deal with Negative People

The world is full of cynics.whiners and naysayers. Its best to weed negative people out of our lives--eight stratagies to help deal with negative people-


Concede the negative person's point quickly and completely.
What ever he/she complains about-tell him you agree. End of story

Set conversational boundaries
Some people become negative only when certain topics are broached.

Share inspirational stories
Some negative people truely believe success is impossible.

Seperate past from future.
Negative people often are negative because they have suffered past defeats.

Press for solutions
Negative people are good at telling us why our ideas will not work,but very bad at telling how to overcome problem.

 

[Chadman]

I concede you did the right thing in posting this.

 

[Cie]

Concede the negative person's point quickly and completely.
What ever he/she complains about-tell him you agree. End of story

This works well

 

[DOGS THAT BARK]

Scientists Narrow Optimism Area in Brain
Wednesday, October 24, 2007

By SETH BORENSTEIN, AP Science Writer

WASHINGTON ? A person's optimism in the future seems to be controlled by a small front part of the mid-brain, according to a study that used brain imaging.

That area deep behind the eyes activates when people think good thoughts about what might happen in the future. The more optimistic a person is, the brighter the area showed up in brain scans, the scientists reported in a small study published online Thursday in the journal Nature.

That same part of the brain, called the rostral anterior cingulate cortex (rACC), seems to malfunction in people suffering depression, said the study co-authors, Elizabeth Phelps of New York University and Tali Sharot of University College London.

Researchers gave 15 people functional magnetic resonance imaging scans while they thought about future possibilities. When the participants thought about good events both the rACC and amygdala, which is involved in emotional responses including fear, were activated. But the correlation with optimism was biggest with the cingulate cortex.

The same study also found that people tended to think that happier events were closer in time and more vivid than the bad ones, even if they had no reason to believe it, Phelps said.

Psychologists have long known people have an "optimism bias," but the new study offers new details.

When researchers asked the subjects to think about 80 different future events that could be good, bad or neutral, they had a hard time getting people to think negatively, or even neutrally, about the future. For example, when people were asked to ponder a future haircut, they imagined getting the best haircut of their lives, instead of just an ordinary trim, Phelps said.

The study makes sense and pulls together new and different parts of research on optimism and the brain, said Dan Schacter, a professor of psychology at Harvard University who wasn't part of the research.

Having our brains wired to optimism is generally a good thing because "if you were pessimistic about the future you would not be motivated to take a lot of action," Phelps said.
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[JCDunkDogs]

Debbie Downer is alive and well in my office (just like the SNL sketch, I swear). Any subject you want to raise, she will cloud up and rain all over it. Its amazing.

Monday:
"The Holidays are coming," I said.
"Great, I have to fly coach all the way to Denver," she sighed.

Tuesday:
"Isn't the weather beautiful," I offered.
"Yes, my hay fever is driving me crazy," she whinned.

Wednesday:
"The eggplant parmesana is delicious at that new restaurant," I opined.
"I got sick on eggplant parmesana once," she said.

It's amazing.

 

[THE KOD]

Debbie Downer is alive and well in my office (just like the SNL sketch, I swear). Any subject you want to raise, she will cloud up and rain all over it. Its amazing.

Monday:
"The Holidays are coming," I said.
"Great, I have to fly coach all the way to Denver," she sighed.

Tuesday:
"Isn't the weather beautiful," I offered.
"Yes, my hay fever is driving me crazy," she whinned.

Wednesday:
"The eggplant parmesana is delicious at that new restaurant," I opined.
"I got sick on eggplant parmesana once," she said.

It's amazing.

......................................................

Thursday :
"Can I stick my dick in your mouth for about 15 minutes"
"Yes , but it will probably taste bad."


The way to deal with Debbie Downer is have her go down. It works as good as agreeing with her.

KOD

 

[JCDunkDogs]

:mj07:

 

[The Judge]

eight stratagies to help deal with negative people

Do the other three include punching them in the face?

 

[DOGS THAT BARK]

good one Gregg
other 3 were

Turn complaining sessions into stratagy sessions
Use humor
Cross out the problems

Article was in Bottom Line publication by Jack Canfield.

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