Take a look around you, take a good look around you and then decide what in your life is important. I have failed to do this for the very last time. I have recently been trying to prepare myself for the loss of a family member. I learned about 2 years ago that my grandmother has pancreatic cancer, and in December the family was told that she had roughly 5-6 months to live and she has been going down hill fast ever since. So over the past couple of months I have been trying to get ready for this day that I know is coming soon. Well I got even worse news a little over 3 weeks ago. My dad?s youngest brother, my uncle my friend my golf buddy my flying buddy ( he is a commercial pilot ) hell my second father, was told that he had cancer and that it did not look good. He was diagnosed with primary colon cancer and secondary liver cancer. All this time I have been preparing myself for the loss of a loved one and it being hard as hell to do, I got hit with the news of another loved one that has cancer. Well to make a long sad story as short as possible 3 weeks to the day after they told my uncle that he had cancer I watched him leave this world from a third floor hospital room with the rest of my family. I am 29 years old, I have never lost a family member in my entire life other than distant relatives and very old relatives and had to watch my best friend and uncle leave so soon and so horribly. I sat and talked with him a few days before he passed and he told me that he loved me and that he was going to be OK and I told him I loved him and walked out of his room thinking that he was going to get better, the doctors had said that he had a great chance of recovery, only to find that in 2 days he would be dead. I don?t know if you have looked around you and taken inventory lately but I would suggest to any of you that read this to seek out that loved one you have not talked to lately, tell your family you love them, spend some time with the ones that you love. I spent almost every day that I could playing golf, hanging out or just piddling around with my Uncle Richard and I told him how much I loved him and enjoyed spending time together but I would give anything to be able to tell him one more time how great a person he really was and how much I loved him. So slow it down every now and again and tell someone that you care because you never know when they could leave you.
Take a little time today and..........
- Thread starter Bluemound Freak
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I'm sorry to hear the news...I'm not too much older than you and have lost some very close family members and it never is easy. I wish you God's speed on your healing once that time comes where you'll have to deal with your mourning. The old cliche "time heals all wounds" does really work. Hang in there and best of luck...
We all go through these "gut check" times. I have been very lucky as well, in that I haven't lost anyone close to me yet. I don't know if it would be better to have your situation, where you can actually get to say good-bye, or have someone die suddenly. My guess is, I would like to be able to say good-bye.
I hope you have strength in your family, and you can all help each other through.
I hope you have strength in your family, and you can all help each other through.
