I've posted on here about this situation before, not for a long time but some of you may remember. I met a great girl right before I left to play my 2nd year of junior hockey out in Dubuque (August of 05'). We ended up dating all thru that year and into my first year of college which was last Fall. I went out to Iowa State to play hockey, but I blew out my hamstring a week before school started playing softball so that ruined those plans. The whole school year I was quite miserable due to the fact I couldn't do what I had gone there to do, which was play hockey.
Anyways, we ended up breaking up around Feb of this year, but still stayed super close. She would still visit me at school and always talk on the phone/online and such. She came and visited me 2 weeks before school got out and things went pretty well. After she left for those last 2 weeks of school she was telling me how she couldn't wait for me to come home , ect. Well I finished my last final and made my drive back to Illinois. About 15 minutes in, she calls me and tells me how she doesnt think we should talk or see eachother anymore. This was very hurtful to me, and I didn't understand why she would do this. I told her she had changed a ton and what a terrible person she was to say something like that after visiting me/sending me all these texts, ect about being so excited to see me.
Eventually she begged for me to let her back in and forgive her for acting the way she did. I knew that during this time she had started to hangout with a guy who had always wanted to date her. She always talked about her crazy he was and how before her and I met, they'd get close to dating and he would just scare her away by getting wayyyy to into her. This kid caused several problems with me over the course of our relationship, but I refrained from seeking him out or anything to drop the hammer.
Over the past 2 months, she has turned from a sweet great girl to a "party girl" who goes and drinks til 3am 5-6 nights a week. Keep in mind she is @ her first community college and just hanging out with mostly jobless/schoolless people who are heading nowhere in life. A week and a 1/2 ago she started being brief with me and not wanting to really hangout. On her birthday she ended up letting that other kid take her out for dinner and he of coarse bought her a necklace and a pair of earrings.
I loved this girl more than anything, she was so great to me, but over the past month, shes basically treated me like dogshit and moved on randomly to someone from her past that she told me "Kill me if I ever hangout with this kid again," while I was still in school. She was my first girlfriend and the first girl I loved and Im a mess now just trying to get over everything. I don't know what to do and i've been feeling like total garbage. I feel as though I wasted almost 2 years on my life on someone who just turned into a huge piece of garbage in a matter of 3-4 weeks.
I apologize for how long this was, and I doubt many of you even made it this far. I'm 21 and I should be able to handle problems like this, but for some reason im not. Just being able to post this helped me feel a bit better and I appreciate any advice anyone wishes to give me.
thanks much,
tpaine07
Anyways, we ended up breaking up around Feb of this year, but still stayed super close. She would still visit me at school and always talk on the phone/online and such. She came and visited me 2 weeks before school got out and things went pretty well. After she left for those last 2 weeks of school she was telling me how she couldn't wait for me to come home , ect. Well I finished my last final and made my drive back to Illinois. About 15 minutes in, she calls me and tells me how she doesnt think we should talk or see eachother anymore. This was very hurtful to me, and I didn't understand why she would do this. I told her she had changed a ton and what a terrible person she was to say something like that after visiting me/sending me all these texts, ect about being so excited to see me.
Eventually she begged for me to let her back in and forgive her for acting the way she did. I knew that during this time she had started to hangout with a guy who had always wanted to date her. She always talked about her crazy he was and how before her and I met, they'd get close to dating and he would just scare her away by getting wayyyy to into her. This kid caused several problems with me over the course of our relationship, but I refrained from seeking him out or anything to drop the hammer.
Over the past 2 months, she has turned from a sweet great girl to a "party girl" who goes and drinks til 3am 5-6 nights a week. Keep in mind she is @ her first community college and just hanging out with mostly jobless/schoolless people who are heading nowhere in life. A week and a 1/2 ago she started being brief with me and not wanting to really hangout. On her birthday she ended up letting that other kid take her out for dinner and he of coarse bought her a necklace and a pair of earrings.
I loved this girl more than anything, she was so great to me, but over the past month, shes basically treated me like dogshit and moved on randomly to someone from her past that she told me "Kill me if I ever hangout with this kid again," while I was still in school. She was my first girlfriend and the first girl I loved and Im a mess now just trying to get over everything. I don't know what to do and i've been feeling like total garbage. I feel as though I wasted almost 2 years on my life on someone who just turned into a huge piece of garbage in a matter of 3-4 weeks.
I apologize for how long this was, and I doubt many of you even made it this far. I'm 21 and I should be able to handle problems like this, but for some reason im not. Just being able to post this helped me feel a bit better and I appreciate any advice anyone wishes to give me.
thanks much,
tpaine07
