Leland
Don't want to get long winded here (I tend to when asked about Disney) so I'll give you some ideas and hints and if you want more info in certain areas just ask.
1. Go through Disney first and see what they are offering for airfare and lodging. Their package deals which include park hoppers and dining are a good starting point. Compare their airfare with what you can get and remember to make sure their flights are direct. Get as much info from them as possible and use it for when you call a travel agent or if you book online with a travel company.
1 AAA is a great idea brought up by someone earlier in the thread. It might be worth the $50 auto coverage in order to have them as a tarvel agent. You're going to get the same deal that Disney offers most of the time but they trow in some added perks like 10% off dining cards at some restaurants and disposable cameras for the kids, coupons for free stuff. Plus they are in direct contact with Disney and can get your questions answered pretty quickly.
2. Where to stay is personal preference. Your Deluxe resorts are closer to Epcot and Magic Kingdom and offer the monorail as transportation. If you had small kids that neede to nap or diaper changing or neede the "Disney Experience" of being right there, then I would stay at one of these. You'll pay about 4 to 5k for the week without air but that'll include everything but food.
Moderate Resorts about 2.5 to 4k and are a little father away from the MK and Epcot and rely on bus transportation which comes around every 20 minutes.
Value Resorts are all around 2.5 k and are a little farther away from the main areas. Remember that all these resorts are on Disney grounds and come with transportation, it just takes longer to get there.
I've stayed at the Polynesian and Contemporary, The Yacht Club and the Caribbean Beach and I'm going to tell you that for the price the Caribbean offers plenty of value. If you choose this ask for a preferred room and try to stay at the Martinique area. It's the 1st stop on the bus transportation. Your kids will be exhausted by the end of the day and if you need to carry them (you will if you're out after 9 or 10) this will seem like forever coming home. Location is the key but if you don't mind busing it, this is your best bet. If you want convenience of the monorail you'll pay for it.
The kids will be out cold in the room and you'll be able to have a decent conversation with the wife or watch TV without them stirring. Therir brains will be in overload mode.
3 The dining plan is a good idea if you like to have a scheduled breakfast and dinner. However I would recommend you make reservations at the restaurants that you might like as far in advance as you can because the get filled up fast. If not you will be left eating at the regular cafeteria style eateries and that can get old fast. I just got back from the Caribbean and went with another family with 2 girls that were on the dining plan and they made it pay off for them. They had character breakfasts and dinner experiences booked well in advance. It might be worth looking into if you don't mind eating at a certain time and having to stop what you are doing to go there.
We brought a soft cooler in our luggage and bought bread and PB and Jelly, breakfast cereal bowls at the resort general store and saved alot on our meals this way. The best bet was the mug for 12.00 at the general store with unlimited soda and coffee refills for the week, well worth it. Prices are consistent thruout Disney so a water at the general store costs the same at Magic Kingdom.
As for Dinners, be prepared to pay for the nicer places. We went to The Japanese Steakhouse in Epcot that was delicious. They don't kill you but they are a little pricey.
4 There are a couple of books at your local Borders or B&N that could help with what attractions you want to see at the parks. Grab one and set out a plan before hand that is flexible, depending on the weather and everyones mood, and try to keep with it. Pool or relaxation days are great ideas when you are there for the week. Magic Kingdom will take you 2 days to get thru everything you want and Epcot is a full day if you visit the World area. Hollywood Studios is an all dayer as is Animal Kigdom. If you add the Water Parks to your Hopper pass, they could be a good alternative to a relaxation day. Save the last day of your trip for anything you might have missed. Fast Pass is a great feature that lets you make a sort of reservation for a ride if there is a long line.
We are Disney Vaction Club owners and enjoy the place. If you go on the trip and don't like waiting on lines, crying kids and pissed of adults, then this is not a vacation you want to take. If you are still a big kid at heart, you'll want to share this with the kids and give them great memories that they can look back on. The last link below is another option if you want to stay at a Vacation Club property in a studio or 1 bedroom villa. Prices are for lodging only but the site has links for the other goodies you'll need for your stay.
If there is anything else you want to know, little tips or hints about going there, get my email from Jack and I'll be happy to happy to help you.
Good links:
www.mousesaver.com
www.allears.net
www.dvcrequest.com
Have fun planning
Phil
(Thank God I wasn't long winded)