Back to the Debacle.. I am fucked Now..

[Woodson]

Nothing wrong with being a mentor big brother. But once you commit, it's all for the boys best interest and not yours.


You must understand that this must be a selfless act and for the 'boy' and all decisions should be based on the boy and his best interest.

Best of luck with whatever you decide.

As for the girlfriend, if she's worth keeping and you can communicate in complete sentences, this should be a non-issue. Don't say the woman's name to many times or that's all your gf will hear.

So, I'm seeing MARY's litte boy. ... I'm meeting MARY @... MARY........ MARY ..... MARY.

I'd say the boys name and leave any correspondence with the woman on the low.

 

[airportis]

shes lied and screwed you over before...how do you know shes even telling the truth about the boy asking about you? why would they boy want to see someone so bad who helped raise him from age 3-5? thats only 2 years and how much could he possibly remember you after 10 years?

i also cant see your current GF being perfectly fine with this. if you are happy now why even bother? not worth the aggravation this decision will most likely come with.

 

[WhatsHisNuts]

You are fucking nuts. Don't let this bitch get in your head. You better stay away. If you do this, this is not going to end pretty. Mark my words.

:iagree:

 

[Morris]

Buy a puppy dude and forget the rest. Sounds like nothing but trouble.

 

[spartan]

Are you going to marry your GF and if you do will you try to have kids with her?
Do you really love your GF and are you planning to stay with her for a while?
If no marriage and not planning for kids then I would say to start to seeing the kid.
Be careful with your ex don't get suckered by her bullshit.

 

[Trampled Underfoot]

I say go for it

Doesn't this say it all?

Stay away!

 

[Woodson]

Buy a puppy dude and forget the rest. Sounds like nothing but trouble.

COMPLETELY AGREE! :00hour

 

[hedgehog]

Doesn't this say it all?

Stay away!

why? this kid needs a father figure in his life, tell your girlfriend upfront your plans, dont do this behind her back. good luck

 

[McVegas]

:mj23:RUN, Forrest, RUN!!!! Just my 2 cents, good luck.

 

[IX_Bender]

Are you going to marry your GF and if you do will you try to have kids with her?
Do you really love your GF and are you planning to stay with her for a while?
If no marriage and not planning for kids then I would say to start to seeing the kid.
Be careful with your ex don't get suckered by her bullshit.

Thats the best advice Ive seen.

If you get involved again with the kid, then tell her its just about helping out a child/adolescent and that its not her and you 1 on 1.

Be honest. Tell her your current situation and Id even insist that you set up some quality time with the boy thru an intermediary, like Big Brothers etc.

 

[The Sponge]

shes lied and screwed you over before...how do you know shes even telling the truth about the boy asking about you? why would they boy want to see someone so bad who helped raise him from age 3-5? thats only 2 years and how much could he possibly remember you after 10 years?
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I think u and Weasel hit the nail on the head. How much could a boy remember at 5 years old? He is curious about the broad that is why his mon thinks he needs a check up from the neck up.