Because you all are my brothers.....
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Bart, sorry to hear that. I went through a divorce about two years ago. It's not easy. Sadly, I don't think marriage is a system that works longterm anymore. The stats don't lie.
- Feb 23, 2005
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sorry to hear bart, looks like you got a lot of friends on here to help you through it make sure to reach out to them when you need it
So very sorry to read this, Bart. I've never met you but know from many of your previous posts how many times you included your wife in your writings. You remind me so much of my son. These unexpected circumstances, those that come from completely out of nowhere, take a long while to even register. You have so many good friends in here who have already offered some great advice. Listen to them. Hang in there through the toughest of times. MadJacks is a good place to come and talk when in need. The many of us that don't know you personally still have a shoulder to lean on.
Bart, I know that you're probably hurting. Thats normal. Trust me, this won't be easy for a while, but when you focus on yourself and get things in your life in order the way you want them, you'll be much happier. I haven't been happier since I've been divorced/single (I'm 47 and I was married for 16 years). Don't worry about seeing other women right now. Just focus on yourself. :0074
Regarding today's divorce rate, look at it from this standpoint/analogy. If you had $500k to invest and you went to a financial advisor and he told you he would invest it for you, BUT there was a 50 to 60% chance that you would lose half of your investment, would you do it? :nono:
Regarding today's divorce rate, look at it from this standpoint/analogy. If you had $500k to invest and you went to a financial advisor and he told you he would invest it for you, BUT there was a 50 to 60% chance that you would lose half of your investment, would you do it? :nono:
so because the divorce rate is high you think something is wrong with marriage?
thats like having Secretariat in a race against 9 camels and saying to the owner well you only have a 1 in 10 chance of winning so you are better off not risking it.
you are just assuming the worst of people. every person and every situation is different so to just lump it in with the masses and the 50% divorce rate is ridiculous.
What I'm saying is that the numbers don't lie. Are there marriages that work? Yes, but there are more marriages that are unsuccessful than successful. Things have changed. These aren't the Ward and June Cleaver days anymore.
I don't think I'll be going down that road again anytime soon, if ever. To each their own.
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How is this helpful? Take it to a different thread if you want to talk about the general state of marriage in society. This shit is personal...
I guess it depends on how you look at it. If my advisor said you have a 50% chance of turning that 500k into something that will take care of you for the rest of your life then yeah there's a good chance I would do it. Now if he said there's a 50/50 chance you'll turn that 500k into 600k in 4 years then no.
I took a 50/50 shot with my wife and I'm hoping I'm on the 50 side that takes care of me for the rest of my life.
I'm also more positive about things than most people.
you sound like me :0074
its nice to have freedom and do what you want too...I say live ins are better and if it doesn't work out pack your bags and split, less headaches, my view changed big time after hiring a divorce attorney :facepalm: that will wake your ass up really quick when you get that first bill
- Feb 26, 2001
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It sucks now, but in the long run you'll look back and be happy this happened now rather than 20 years from now.
It sounds like it is a good break-up, count yourself lucky on that.
Or you could look at it this way......
The "Marriage Whammy" gotcha:lol:
It sounds like it is a good break-up, count yourself lucky on that.
Or you could look at it this way......
The "Marriage Whammy" gotcha:lol:
It sounds as if you're at least dealing with the situation decently.
Sucks no matter what but some people seem willing to make a bad situation worse.
I've been dealing with a friend--55 yrs old--who's going through the end of an 18-yr go. He is driving me, and others close to the situation, mfcrazy.
I can't take much more.
Sorry to rant in your thread but I'd just changed my mind about starting my own, more personalized, rant thread when I saw your post.
Like I said...a bad situation could be worse.
my train of thought just got fucked by a(nother) phone call.
I'm doing an experiment with the telephone and the microwave. I think 6 minutes and 66 seconds might just about do it.
Sucks no matter what but some people seem willing to make a bad situation worse.
I've been dealing with a friend--55 yrs old--who's going through the end of an 18-yr go. He is driving me, and others close to the situation, mfcrazy.
I can't take much more.
Sorry to rant in your thread but I'd just changed my mind about starting my own, more personalized, rant thread when I saw your post.
Like I said...a bad situation could be worse.
my train of thought just got fucked by a(nother) phone call.
I'm doing an experiment with the telephone and the microwave. I think 6 minutes and 66 seconds might just about do it.
