Curfew

[TBONEZ0295]

2 saturday nights ago at 12:30 am I heard my son come in with his friend that was spending the night, I glanced at the clock to see what time it was (12:30) I yelled down the steps your late.........WHY?????? He walks up the steps knocks on my door and asks to come in................He now informs me that the police are down stairs in my living room.................WAITING TO TALK TO ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well of course I jump out of bed and there they were 2 cops in my living room.................They ask me if this is my son ????? and his friend???????? and then inform me that they are breaking curfew:shrug: They ask me to sign a paper which I should have never done!!!!!!!!! So they can release them to my care...........so I am thinking OK whatever!!!!!!!!!!!

The cops leave and my son and his friend go on to telling me they were walking home and right around the corner from my house, but these 2 cops insist that they get in the back of the wagon and my kid said they drove the long way to my house ...............anyway the boys tell me that they made sure to slam the van doors in order to wake up a few neighbors I GUESS I don't really care about my neighbors anyway, but today I get a notice in the mail from the police dept. it states the location of where they were , THEY TOLD ME THE TRUTH they really were just 2 minutes from home, and the time on this violation notice is 12:11 am ..................................What the hell is this sh*t?????? If he gets another "violation" "I" will be fined!!!????? I don't know if its just me or what , but I didn't even know about a "legal" curfew :shrug: I guess this is a good thing for kids , but 11 minutes and only 2 mins. from his house ..................am I the only one who didn't know of this law????????? The last thing I want to see in my living room at 12:30am at night is the police.............

 

[taoist]

...hey sugar, (no offense Ray because my concrete belongs in the driveway... ) I put my pops through plenty of this crap when I was a youngun.


...just hope that he grows up, graduates magna cum laude from college and goes on to law school. mom will be proud...and the ex-gf will be kicking herself in the ass....

 

[bubbas1]

Seems to me that you should be more pissed at your son than the police for doing there job. Would he have been late if he would have made it home at 12:13am without the police stopping him?

They get out of the van and slam the doors to wake up a few neighbors and you dont care about that??:shrug:

Seems to me that you are more of a friend to your son than a parent. (That is just an observation not a slam against you because I dont even know you)

They have a curfew around here but my son never even comes close to it because I wont let him. Its 12am school nights and 2am weekends. I can see why the govt had to put them in place because when I am working nights you wouldnt believe all the kids I see running around the streets at 1am on a school night. They had to do it because of all the parents that dont give a rats azz where there kids are in the middle of the night. (That was not directed at you)

For me, when I tell my son to be home at a certain time he better be in the house then or pay the price. Usually grounded for awhile. I tell him that the time is by my clock in the house not the one on his watch. (He tried that before) He hasnt been late comming in the house for a long time now. At least 2 yrs.

 

[TBONEZ0295]

YES 13 MINUTES LATE not that big of a deal to me considering that he is a good kid and its only 13 minutes????

Not even in the least do "I" care what my neighbors think!!!!! or anyone else for that matter, I know what kind of kids I've raised not to mention they already hate us anyway LOL between the garage band and the footballs being thrown in the street out front, by about 10 other boys! Some of my neighbors need to stick there noses back in there front door and worry less about what me and my family are doing and more about where there dog is taking a dump befor I mousetrap it

I would definately say that I have a VERY happy medium between both parenting and frienship, I know when to be a friend and when to be a parent! I expressed my thoughts to an adult forum , I didn't quite come off like that to my son

Philadelphia's curfew is 10pm weeknights and 12am weekends As I stated in my present post I didn't even know about ANY legal curfew so it only being 11 minutes, ya think they could have given the kid a warning or realized that I had NO knowledge of the curfew???

I may have come off a bit defensive SORRY just my nature!!!!!! I take alot of pride in how my children are raised !!!!! My 17 year old son was scared to death and was worried his school or football coach would find out and he would be thrown out of school, or football so I know I'm doing something right!!!The police when questioning him didn't believe he was telling the truth and HE WAS . Bubbas1 for what its worth I think you may want to reconsider ONLY being a parent to your kid / kids In todays world children really need a listening ear and some one they know they can count on NO MATTER WHAT How do you think I know who lil kim, and EVE are LOL .My heart screams with happiness when they approach me with the trials and tribulations of teen hood because I know I have accomplished the relationship I was trying to achieve and believe me with 4 of them I hear it all!!!! Don't get me wrong, my girlfriends call me SARG. LOL they know the rules and show me the respect I demand but they also know they can come to me . Its far to often I see or hear of kids being scared to death of there parents and they don't tell them anything (not saying thats you of course) but For what its worth I now have this citation hanging on the refrigerator and it will work to my advantage for the other 3 kids that will follow my oldest I DOUBT ANY OF THEM WILL EVEN BE 2 minutes late from now on although claiming that I am on top things how did I not know about curfew?????? WELL I KNOW NOW!!!!!!!!!!! BTW about the bold , I was trying to space in between your comments , it didn't work out so I cut and pasted and this is how it came up!!!!!!!

 

[bubbas1]

I believe there is a huge difference between being a parent to a child and being there friend.

The way I raise my son is to learn that there is a consequence for everything he will do in life. Whether it be good/bad/right or wrong. He is also to give adults respect. He dosent have to like the person at all but he has to respect there position as an adult. In turn he will get the same back from them. One example is that he is never allowed to call an adult by there first name only. It has to be Mr. Firstname or Miss Firstname. Most everyone that he does this for has told him at first that he dosent have to do that but he will tell them yes he does because it is a sign of respect. I have seen this many times and you can see the immediate difference on how they treat him and other kids his age. He is 16 now and it still makes a world of difference.

I hear you about neighbors minding there own business. I have a old man that lives across the street thats always peeping out the window and trying to stick his nose where it dont belong. The difference is I wouldnt allow my son to pull a stunt just to aggrevate him.

My son has never had a problem telling me the good and bad things that go on everyday in his life. Just because I listen to him dosent make me his friend/buddy/pal.

He knows exactly where I draw the lines and knows not to cross them.

It all boils down to different houses/different rules. As long as the end result is the same it dosent matter. As long as they grow up to be responsible adults and end up with a great family and job.

 

[TBONEZ0295]

Bubas1 - I think we may be on the same page .................but since your a dad and I am a mom I may use the word friend a little more loosely !!!!!!!!!!!

Sounds to me that you are a good Dad , Respect is HUGE in my house as far as raising kids ................

HAPPY PARENTING!!!!!!!!!!

 

[IntenseOperator]

The police have units here in Chicago that spend half of their time looking for curfew violators. I think it's even earlier here than in other cities. They track all the numbers.

They have stat's on all this stuff concerning the percentage of crime involving and against the youth is committed and at what time.

You don't want your good son to be involved in a bad situation as a result of timing.

The bottom line is, it's the law.

If you want to fight city hall, go ahead.

 

[TBONEZ0295]

The bottom line is, it's the law.

If you want to fight city hall, go ahead.

I never said I was against it:shrug: What I said was I was not "aware" of it!!!!!!!!

maybe the next time you read a thread and make a comment you should read it thoroughly

but at this point this whole post of mine has been spent defending myself but maybe its because I get to involved and the initial post turned into a book!!!!!!!! The one question I asked AT THE END was am I the only one who didn't know about this "law?"

from the sounds of it I guess I am!!!!!!!

so off I go to city hall ,to fight for my kid to be able to stay out and run wild threw the neighborhood at all hours of the night and change the LAW that I wasn't even aware of I'll keep you guys up to date on how I make out GEEEEEEZZ!!!!!!!!

 

[IntenseOperator]

not trying to poke you

I love kids

as long as they are someone else's



On another note...

I bet your kid knew the law