Curtis Martin is a man

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So I grew up in a pretty bad neighborhood. But the household that I lived in was even worse. I had a father who I love him dearly and he's passed and gone on, but he was my guy before he died. But when I was 5 years old, I remember watching him torture my mother, I mean, literally. I don't necessarily have notes, so I'm going to bare my soul and just bear with me.

But I remember watching him torture you. He had my mother locked in the bathroom. Had her sitting on the edge of the tub, and he turned on all the hot water and stopped the tub up so that the hot water would eventually flow on her legs. He dared her to move. As the hot water flowed up and started going on her legs and going on her feet and she would flinch a little bit, he would rush into the bathroom, take her hair and burn it with a lighter. He would come back out, watch her some more, she'd move again, and he would go in there with a cigarette and put cigarette burns all over her legs which she still bares to this day. I've seen him beat her up like she was a man. I've seen him throw her down the steps. I've witnessed this woman go to they got a bet on whether I'm going to cry or not. So I'm going to hold it in.

I've watched my mother get punched in the face, have a black eye and then go to work with make up on just to support our family. I've watched this. She did everything to raise me and in hindsight when you're a kid and your mother's tough on you, you don't necessarily understand why. I used to think it was because my dad was so tough on her that it would just naturally make her tough on me.

I heard a saying one time that says, ?Hurt people, hurt people.? And my mother was dealing with so much hurt and pain, and I know that she had to take some of that out somewhere. Mom, I'm so grateful that I was there for you to even take some of that pain out on, because you deserved it.
 

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probably the best inductee speech of all time and heart wrenching

Curtis Martin gained a lot of respect from me :0074
 

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Can't imagine being able to say your dad was your boy after watching those things. Curtis has a big heart and he obviously got that from his mother. For her to be able to "bring my dad food before he died" was too much for me.

I can honestly say I wouldn't have been able to forgive my dad and surely wouldn't have helped him if I was his mom.

I spent years not talking to my dad for just leaving my mother. If he would have tortured her or even laid a hand on her I'm sure I wouldn't have had a big enough heart to forgive him.

I applaud Curtis and his mother for being good people. We need more like that in sports and just in life in general.
 

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I can honestly say I wouldn't have been able to forgive my dad and surely wouldn't have helped him if I was his mom.

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Me either. That is why I say CMart is a man. I definitely should have added that CMart's mother is a hell of a woman.
 

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I dont understand why women stay with men like this?



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I missed his speech sounds like it was awesome...

I will say this, when he was a rookie in 1995 I won fantasy football because of him :0074
 

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don't get how he opened the speech up with how much he loved his father and how he was his guy
 

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Seems he was simply being honest.

maybe he had a different relationship with his dad, but it's hard for me to understand how you could call a guy like that his guy, especially in front of his mother(i'm assuming she was there?)..i don't mean to make a big deal out of it, just
don't get it

good for him though, what a fucking shitty way to grow up
 

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So I grew up in a pretty bad neighborhood. But the household that I lived in was even worse. I had a father who I love him dearly and he's passed and gone on, but he was my guy before he died. But when I was 5 years old, I remember watching him torture my mother, I mean, literally. I don't necessarily have notes, so I'm going to bare my soul and just bear with me.

But I remember watching him torture you. He had my mother locked in the bathroom. Had her sitting on the edge of the tub, and he turned on all the hot water and stopped the tub up so that the hot water would eventually flow on her legs. He dared her to move. As the hot water flowed up and started going on her legs and going on her feet and she would flinch a little bit, he would rush into the bathroom, take her hair and burn it with a lighter. He would come back out, watch her some more, she'd move again, and he would go in there with a cigarette and put cigarette burns all over her legs which she still bares to this day. I've seen him beat her up like she was a man. I've seen him throw her down the steps. I've witnessed this woman go to they got a bet on whether I'm going to cry or not. So I'm going to hold it in.

I've watched my mother get punched in the face, have a black eye and then go to work with make up on just to support our family. I've watched this. She did everything to raise me and in hindsight when you're a kid and your mother's tough on you, you don't necessarily understand why. I used to think it was because my dad was so tough on her that it would just naturally make her tough on me.

I heard a saying one time that says, ?Hurt people, hurt people.? And my mother was dealing with so much hurt and pain, and I know that she had to take some of that out somewhere. Mom, I'm so grateful that I was there for you to even take some of that pain out on, because you deserved it.


Thanks for posting this.
 

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maybe he had a different relationship with his dad, but it's hard for me to understand how you could call a guy like that his guy, especially in front of his mother(i'm assuming she was there?)..i don't mean to make a big deal out of it, just
don't get it

good for him though, what a fucking shitty way to grow up

because he was just a kid when his dad died....he said it in his speech.....

at 5 years old most kids do love their dad....

he most likely didnt understand the abuse at the time....until looking back on it
 

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because he was just a kid when his dad died....he said it in his speech.....

at 5 years old most kids do love their dad....

he most likely didnt understand the abuse at the time....until looking back on it

:0074
 
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