finding a good woman in todays world...

[tpaine07]

So most of you remember my post several months ago about my long term girlfriend turning into trash. Well I no longer speak to her and it is going well. There are pro's and con's to being in a relationship as all of you know. I am having a great time just doing whatever I want and not having to be committed/explain what im doing to anyone. However, I was just thinking as our world envolves it seems like it will be harder and harder for people of my generation to find a companion.


As of right now, forcing a relationship or even dating isnt something I am interested in unless I somehow stumble across someone great. I'm a firm believer that if you go around looking for a girlfriend, ect you're not going to get anywhere, you have to just go out and have a good time and if you find someone worth it you can make an effort.

I feel as though now a days, the females are just mostly whores,golddiggers or just overall shitty individuals. Now I am sure this isnt the case for all of them, but as our MTV unmannered/superficial generation gets older thats all I'm seeing out there.


I was just wondering what some of you guys around my age (21) think about this issue and how some of you older guys feel as well. It seems like no longer being a good person/gentleman gets you anywhere with todays ladies as opposed to the past.

 

[SixFive]

I'm not around your age, but I can tell you if you are looking at parties, bars, and frat houses for girls, you're looking in the wrong places.

Sounds like you want more than just a piece of tail, and to me that's admirable for a young man of your age. Nothing wrong with being single though. That doesn't make you a social outcast.

gmroz will probably have a heart attack if I say this, but have you looked around at church or have you gone to some of the on campus Christian organizations? That's where I would look.

Lastly, and I know this is going to sound terrible, but a wedding band is a chick magnet (George Costanza was right). I've had to literally fight them off in my later years when I seemingly couldn't buy a date when I was single. That's probably not the type of girl you're seeking though, but it might work for kosar!

 

[catsan kool]

Turn into an asshole if you want girls. The worse you treat them, the more they like you. Guaranteed

 

[kosar]

gmroz will probably have a heart attack if I say this, but have you looked around at church or have you gone to some of the on campus Christian organizations? That's where I would look.

:mj07:

But I would agree with Gmroz-don't look there.

Lastly, and I know this is going to sound terrible, but a wedding band is a chick magnet (George Costanza was right). I've had to literally fight them off in my later years when I seemingly couldn't buy a date when I was single. That's probably not the type of girl you're seeking though, but it might work for kosar!

:142smilie :nono:

 

[vinnie]

Just buy one :00hour http://www.bridesagency.com/ladies-18-22/

 

[buddy]

gmroz will probably have a heart attack if I say this, but have you looked around at church or have you gone to some of the on campus Christian organizations? That's where I would look.

If you're looking for a sexual relationship, church or Christian organizations would be a waste of both your time and hers.

 

[tpaine07]

I'm not around your age, but I can tell you if you are looking at parties, bars, and frat houses for girls, you're looking in the wrong places.

Sounds like you want more than just a piece of tail, and to me that's admirable for a young man of your age. Nothing wrong with being single though. That doesn't make you a social outcast.

gmroz will probably have a heart attack if I say this, but have you looked around at church or have you gone to some of the on campus Christian organizations? That's where I would look.

Lastly, and I know this is going to sound terrible, but a wedding band is a chick magnet (George Costanza was right). I've had to literally fight them off in my later years when I seemingly couldn't buy a date when I was single. That's probably not the type of girl you're seeking though, but it might work for kosar!

Im not necessarily looking for more than a piece of ass. But, i'd like a piece of ass who at least can hold an interesting conversation and is not a POS human being. I don't mind being single, and Its not hard getting ass, but my standards are pretty high.


As for the church stuff goes, thats not really what im too into, it does however sound like a good place to find a girl, but that would mean im going there just to find someone, which is what im against. I haven't been to church in a long time, however I still pray/speak with god often, I just dont attend church.

 

[tpaine07]

Turn into an asshole if you want girls. The worse you treat them, the more they like you. Guaranteed

This is true, but im a pretty good person at heart, so being a total dick is actually hard for me to pull off. Even if I pull an asshole move, I end up apologizing for it. If a girl wants me to be an asshole to her for her to like me, shes not worth my time.

 

[hawkeye]

Don't rush things. Take your time. Things will happen when they happen. Be yourself and you will be surprised what happens.

 

[BestPlay2day]

You are young and have plenty of time to find Ms. Right. Just keep dating and have fun! Usually you will know after the 1st date weather you're interested in her so if you don't see potential, just move on to the next girl. Once women get older, they will want to settle down and be with a nice guy.

 

[SixFive]

If you're looking for a sexual relationship, church or Christian organizations would be a waste of both your time and hers.

:shrug: I wasn't suggesting he do that, buddy. I was suggesting those places if he was looking for a meaningful relationship and not just a piece of ass. duh.

 

[dunclock]

Just shooting it straight...

Your opinion of what most girls/women are like is your first mistake. Just because you have had one bad relationship does not make them all bad and it will probably not be your last. It is just like racism, I love people that stereotype a total race or group of people without getting to know any of them. I give my friends grief every time I hear someone say "I hate ....". I say do you know them or have you met them?
How can you hate them? If you have that opinion of women, then maybe they have that opinion of you. Just play it cool, lay back and see what comes your direction. Fate plays its hand in mysterious ways and there is no need to force it. Tomorrow is a new day and being a young dude, live life in the half full end of the glass!

 

[IntenseOperator]

Grocery stores

or were ever nurses hang out

 

[3 Seconds]

You are 21. You should enjoy all those young whores to the fullest at this time.

Plenty of freakin time to be w/ Mrs. Right & all settled down later.

 

[ageecee]

You are 21. You should enjoy all those young whores to the fullest at this time.

Plenty of freakin time to be w/ Mrs. Right & all settled down later.

Totally agree.

 

[pug]

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[The Sponge]

With our wonderful politicians creating rotten trade deals for our country the man and the woman now have to work to support a family. The days are almost over where the family sits together at the table and has a nice dinner together. The days of temptation with the woman in the workforce are here. In my opinion i think marriage is gonna be a thing of the past. That is why you see so many divorices now and this percentage never seems to drop. More and more we are seeing families all broken up and to me this goes right to those rotten trade deals. The problem i think you are having, having to find someone nice is that most girls your age have step dads or step mothers. The single worse thing that i think has happen to women is that our fathers treated them like shit and now they have an attitude about it. My father treated my mom like a slave and im talking about things like making a sandwich and leaving everything behind just knowing she would pick it all up. My sister saw all that nonsense and swore no man would ever treat her like that and im sure there are other woman who feel the same way. Do yourself a favor. It is a must that your new girlfriend gets along with her mom. I never in my life got along with a girl who had a bad relationship with their mom. Never. And relax a bit bro. Like a lot of guys said you are only 21. Stop thinking about marraige already. Your still a puppy.

 

[IntenseOperator]

Pug, good stuff (esp the grocery store part)

When's the book come out?

 

[cavy1]

You are 21. You should enjoy all those young whores to the fullest at this time.

Plenty of freakin time to be w/ Mrs. Right & all settled down later.

DITTO

BANG AWAY

 

[1%er]

You got alot of time still. I know it is easier said then done when you break up but still you will be thanking yourself that you did not settle down at an earlier age when you are in your older days!!

I would suggest to book a trip to Europe, it is amazing how it changes your perspective on women when you see how the women are on the other side of the pond!! Head out to Prague or Hungary and you can see how beautiful the women are there. You will forget all about little miss thing and come back with a new view of women.

If you've done the travel thing then great, but maybe worth while to try again. Maybe try a kontiki tour, where there is chicks your age on the same tour. Always lots of fun.

Good Luck and as others have said keep banging!!