finding a good woman in todays world...

[fatdaddycool]

All right, here's one gal's opinion. There are classes of all types of women, just as there are men.

Who do you hang around, what kind of friends do you keep? It's more a 'class' issue than anything else. If you hang around trashy, low-class women, that's what you're going to find. I get SO tired of hearing ALL women are this, or ALL women are that. As an attorney, I make plenty of money, usually more than or equal to whomever I am dating. NONE of my female friends are golddiggers or represent any of the 'type' that you are talking about. Do they exist? Certainly. My advice would be to volunteer or join a club where you are more likely to meet quality people with similar interests and values. Not a club or a bar, what do you think you're going to find there? Church is another good place, if you're into that (which I know you've stated that you aren't). There are a million singles clubs or such that you could join. If you like the outdoors or sports, join one of those activity clubs. If you're in college, you're already hanging around a little higher class people. It's all in who you associate with. You men that claim that women are all trashy golddiggers are not hanging out with the right types. Finally, what do YOU offer? How are YOU representing yourself and what you have to offer? Think about that as well. There are plenty of GREAT women out there just as there are men, you just have to look in the right places to find them.

Kelly,
Thank you for the post. While I agree with most of it, not everyone you meet in a club or a bar is a miscreant or necessarily a bad person. As I am sure you can tell by my earlier post, I am quite the charmer and I go to clubs once in a while. I can't see how people can say that the grocery store is the way to go. The last thing I want to do is ask a stranger if my mango is ripe. Plus I have never been a big fan of cabbage and I could never "work" around it. Anyway, I am not sure where I meet people but I know I meet a lot of them and I loved every girl I have met so far. I even dated a Lawyer named Nicolle she was nice. She liked mashed turnips though and I just didn't see us going anywhere like that. As far as what do I have to offer???? I have to tell you I haven't ever given it much thought.
Hope this helps,
FDC

 

[IntenseOperator]

Kelly,
Thank you for the post. While I agree with most of it, not everyone you meet in a club or a bar is a miscreant or necessarily a bad person. As I am sure you can tell by my earlier post, I am quite the charmer and I go to clubs once in a while. I can't see how people can say that the grocery store is the way to go. The last thing I want to do is ask a stranger if my mango is ripe. Plus I have never been a big fan of cabbage and I could never "work" around it. Anyway, I am not sure where I meet people but I know I meet a lot of them and I loved every girl I have met so far. I even dated a Lawyer named Nicolle she was nice. She liked mashed turnips though and I just didn't see us going anywhere like that. As far as what do I have to offer???? I have to tell you I haven't ever given it much thought.
Hope this helps,
FDC

Think you could have a tough time here FDC. Her's may be an out door only.

 

[PharoahUB]

tpaine - just a sabres fan, don't play hockey.

I think what it really boils down too based on my experiences, yours and everyone else who inputted into this thread is that this age is really just not a good time to date. If you are in the whole college scene like I am there are just too many things going on in (most) girl's lives at this point for any of them to stick to one guy. They are clinging to the last couple years where they can go out to bars wearing next to nothing and still feel attractive. They have too many distractions - where to go after school, where they will work, other guys, school work, girl friend drama, etc, etc.

And to the girl who posted. It made me laugh when you said not all girls are gold diggers, this that and the other and then at the end of your post you said "so what do you have to offer". I think that is part of our point. It would be nice to meet a girl who likes us for "us" ( i know that sounds cheesy, sorry). (Most) girls aren't looking for the guy they are most compatible with or have feelings towards - they are looking for the guy as you referred to has the most to offer. Attractive girls, especially at our age are all over the place. I don't give a shit if the girl has money, is going to school, has blonde, brown, blue hair, etc etc. Good-looking girls are a dime a dozen in college... girls with personalities, on the other hand, are another thing. (Most) girls could give two shits about personality it's - 1) does he have a car, 2) does he have money, 3) is he attractive, 4) ...... the list goes on and on and then maybe #10 is does he a good personality... do we "click"

Personally, I don't have trouble getting girls at school. The problem is getting one that likes you for the right reasons. That's why it's just time to bring different girls home every weekend and maybe give it a shot a few years down the road. Along the way keep in touch with those girls that didn't let you slip it in that first night.

 

[VaNurse]

Grocery stores

or were ever nurses hang out

:scared

 

[Penguinfan]

I was tootin some ole Navy gal in the mud whistle when I was 21 and never even thought about any kind of relationship. I dated a Jewish girl after her and she would let me touch her tits for a Valium so that didn't last long. After that I pretty much floated through as many a I could. I finally settled on one but she turned out to have thirteen personalities, twelve of which hated my guts, and the thirteenth apparently liked someone else so I enjoy being single. I don't know how big my dating pool is but I know one thing, if that bitch gets in it.................. shes gettin hit, maybe in the starfish.
Hope this helps,
FDC

"You must spread some reputation around before giving it to FatDaddyCool again

 

[cavy1]

HA! At 37, though I do keep myself in excellent shape, I think you'd be better off looking at the pics in the mojo forum.

Hell, even I am impressed by some of those. I peeked once to see what y'all were getting so excited over!

37 , in good shape and likes to peek

I think we need a pic Kelly

lol
cavy1

 

[Woodson]

Funny, I read this and thought back over the 3 "serious relationships" in the last 8 years... two of which involved engagements of which both ended mutually... Either way, I am a firm believer in living with someone before marriage. In both cases, it revealed a completely different world... Communication up front in terms of faith, having kids, financial responsibility (bad credit and debt are a deal breaker in my book going forward)...all come into play... the last girl revealed her desire not ever to have them after we were engaged... still good friends but I want them so... that was that...

One constant though in 8 years... Madjacksports.com


back to the shadows...

 

[WhatsHisNuts]

gmroz will probably have a heart attack if I say this, but have you looked around at church or have you gone to some of the on campus Christian organizations? That's where I would look.

I would recommend finding a girl in church if the church is a big part of your life. The bottom line is you need to try to find someone with similar interests and go from there. Some "interests" aren't the kind of thing you want to base a relationship on (ie., getting wasted). I think it is a big reason people hook up at work. While they don't necessarily share a lot in common outside the workplace, the workplace is of major interest to both.

TPaine: When I was 21, I really had my sights set on getting married by age 25. When I was 25, I wanted no part of it. You will be changing A LOT as a person over the next 10 years, don't force anything. If you want to meet someone cool, goto places of interest to you and look around. Look to meet people and maybe you can network your way into new social circles. Either way, relax and have a good time. If you need any tips on picking up fat chicks, get my email from Jack.

 

[fatdaddycool]

Think you could have a tough time here FDC. Her's may be an out door only.

Thats why Mr. Muddy Waters invented electricity my friend. Phhhzzzzzzzzzzzzzztttttt, that'll do it.

 

[UGA12]

My advice would be to print this thread and save it until you are 30 with a couple of kids and an old lady thats either asleep or bitching. Then whenever you need a good chuckle revert back to this. I know the grass is always greener but come on dude you got the rest of your life to talk about the glory days but only a few years to live them:shrug:

 

[kellyindallas]

tpaine - just a sabres fan, don't play hockey.

I think what it really boils down too based on my experiences, yours and everyone else who inputted into this thread is that this age is really just not a good time to date. If you are in the whole college scene like I am there are just too many things going on in (most) girl's lives at this point for any of them to stick to one guy. They are clinging to the last couple years where they can go out to bars wearing next to nothing and still feel attractive. They have too many distractions - where to go after school, where they will work, other guys, school work, girl friend drama, etc, etc.

And to the girl who posted. It made me laugh when you said not all girls are gold diggers, this that and the other and then at the end of your post you said "so what do you have to offer". I think that is part of our point. It would be nice to meet a girl who likes us for "us" ( i know that sounds cheesy, sorry). (Most) girls aren't looking for the guy they are most compatible with or have feelings towards - they are looking for the guy as you referred to has the most to offer. Attractive girls, especially at our age are all over the place. I don't give a shit if the girl has money, is going to school, has blonde, brown, blue hair, etc etc. Good-looking girls are a dime a dozen in college... girls with personalities, on the other hand, are another thing. (Most) girls could give two shits about personality it's - 1) does he have a car, 2) does he have money, 3) is he attractive, 4) ...... the list goes on and on and then maybe #10 is does he a good personality... do we "click"

Personally, I don't have trouble getting girls at school. The problem is getting one that likes you for the right reasons. That's why it's just time to bring different girls home every weekend and maybe give it a shot a few years down the road. Along the way keep in touch with those girls that didn't let you slip it in that first night.

You missed my point. You WANT all these things in a girl, what do YOU have to offer. You get tired of girls not liking you for who you are. Please. Kind of like women get tired of you staring at their ass or tits and not caring about who they are as a person. It goes both ways, guy.

As for you, fatdaddycool, I'm not saying you can't meet someone worthy at a bar. I'm just saying that, in general, there are certain types who congregate at certain places. Stick with the place that offers you the betst chance of finding what you are looking for.

The guy who asked is young, anyway. If he just focuses on his career, has a good group of friends, he'll run into someone. To me, you get in return what you give out.

 

[kellyindallas]

37 , in good shape and likes to peek

I think we need a pic Kelly

lol
cavy1

Yikes! I didn't mean like to peek like i REALLY liked to peek. I just didn't know what was in that forum that you guys were drooling over...so I looked.

 

[dunclock]

No knock on your comment Kelly because others have also said do not look in bars because that is not the type you should for. Welllll, if you are in the bar, does that make you the kind that is not "acceptable" to the other sex? People are all INDIVIDUALS and should be judged as so; so tired of the stereotypes and pre judging in this world, get to know someone before making a predetermined decision.

Guess it is like the Seinfeld episode where they are talking about dating and Jerry says that 95% of the population is undatable and Elaine asks how do all these people keep hooking up and Jerry answers ALCOHOL:scared :mj07:

 

[kellyindallas]

No knock on your comment Kelly because others have also said do not look in bars because that is not the type you should for. Welllll, if you are in the bar, does that make you the kind that is not "acceptable" to the other sex? People are all INDIVIDUALS and should be judged as so; so tired of the stereotypes and pre judging in this world, get to know someone before making a predetermined decision.

Guess it is like the Seinfeld episode where they are talking about dating and Jerry says that 95% of the population is undatable and Elaine asks how do all these people keep hooking up and Jerry answers ALCOHOL:scared :mj07:

There are exceptions to every rule, of course. Generalizations are just that - general. That doesn't make the rule invalid, however. No one is saying not to give each person a chance. The point is, was and remains, that if you are looking for a certain type of person with certain values, a bar is probably not your best option to find those traits/values.

 

[hawkeye]

I think Kelly in Big d is saying some good stuff to listen to guys. I think it is imporant to listen to the women's point of view/side on this

 

[dunclock]

I agree Hawk and one reason I have a little experience is being single for 46 years:scared . Found out a LONG time ago that I could not figure out how the other half thinks so the best possible thing is to listen, learn and follow instructions:142smilie

Kelly, I used to live in Addison and that is a great place to be in Dallas, especially if you are single:00hour

 

[fatdaddycool]

As for you, fatdaddycool, I'm not saying you can't meet someone worthy at a bar. I'm just saying that, in general, there are certain types who congregate at certain places. Stick with the place that offers you the betst chance of finding what you are looking for.

The guy who asked is young, anyway. If he just focuses on his career, has a good group of friends, he'll run into someone. To me, you get in return what you give out.

Baby,.....Sweetheart,......sugar booger,
Call me Cris:SIB :00x30

I only used the second one because it said woo. Sorry.

 

[PharoahUB]

kellyindallas;1775128]You missed my point. You WANT all these things in a girl, what do YOU have to offer. You get tired of girls not liking you for who you are. Please. Kind of like women get tired of you staring at their ass or tits and not caring about who they are as a person. It goes both ways, guy.
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did you even read what i wrote? or just heard what you wanted to hear?? please re-read what i wrote

I SAID good-looking girls were a dime a dozen and I did not care about that. Then I SAID what would be nice is girls with a good personality and good intentions. That was my ONLY criteria which I really don't think is a lot to ask.

The point is we DO care about who they are as a person. But most girls our age are shittty people!

 

[kellyindallas]

kellyindallas;1775128]You missed my point. You WANT all these things in a girl, what do YOU have to offer. You get tired of girls not liking you for who you are. Please. Kind of like women get tired of you staring at their ass or tits and not caring about who they are as a person. It goes both ways, guy.
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did you even read what i wrote? or just heard what you wanted to hear?? please re-read what i wrote

I SAID good-looking girls were a dime a dozen and I did not care about that. Then I SAID what would be nice is girls with a good personality and good intentions. That was my ONLY criteria which I really don't think is a lot to ask.

The point is we DO care about who they are as a person. But most girls our age are shittty people!

Ok, Pharoah, gotcha. Keep trying, you'll find someone who is worthy. Perhaps you are just more mature than most your age. As women get older and mature, they WILL be looking for someone like you. It's the same thing as guys being all over some raving lunatic, no-brained hottie, while ignoring the decent, next-door type. There really are people of all types, and someone for everyone, you just have to find your niche.

 

[Franky Wright]

Stay away from the ones with beer in their cart :scared

Vinnie,
Thats not KellyinDallas :nono:

:mj07: