Jack, I know it's a bad idea but a few things. One, who gives a crap if his wife is pissed or more pissed off or whatever she might be. She f'd another dude so do you really think he cares if she's pissed? Two, I think it would make 3 feel better.(of course that's my opinion and maybe that's because I have found relief in hurting someone that hurt me) Three, you're correct on the jail thing so that's why it's not a good idea.
I hate life.
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Here is what needs to happen:
Pack a weeks worth of clothes. And get the hell out of the house.
Call a buddy and cash in on having old friends. That's what they are there for.
DO NOT talk about this in the office if you do in fact in a corporate environment. If yes, call EAP. You usually get 3 free counseling sessions.
Focus on the things that you haven't finished or gotten to do in life and do them.
You can't fix this in a day, or 6 months... It will probably more like a year + to be honest but do not give up and let doubt and self pity ruin your life.
She cheated, she always kept a flame for that guy while she was with you. It never would have survived anyways as she wasn't fully committed. She showed it in less than 2 months.
Get off the pity train and go live YOUR life.
I went through this before I met Katie.
I can not tell you how happy I was that my previous relationship ended and I met her.
Point is, sometimes it takes a while to realize that this may be a good thing...
I hope you make it and really am sending you good vibes.
THINK POSITIVE! This is an exciting time to accomplish things you may have sacrificed in this relationship!
You can beat it!
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Pack a weeks worth of clothes. And get the hell out of the house.
Call a buddy and cash in on having old friends. That's what they are there for.
DO NOT talk about this in the office if you do in fact in a corporate environment. If yes, call EAP. You usually get 3 free counseling sessions.
Focus on the things that you haven't finished or gotten to do in life and do them.
You can't fix this in a day, or 6 months... It will probably more like a year + to be honest but do not give up and let doubt and self pity ruin your life.
She cheated, she always kept a flame for that guy while she was with you. It never would have survived anyways as she wasn't fully committed. She showed it in less than 2 months.
Get off the pity train and go live YOUR life.
I went through this before I met Katie.
I can not tell you how happy I was that my previous relationship ended and I met her.
Point is, sometimes it takes a while to realize that this may be a good thing...
I hope you make it and really am sending you good vibes.
THINK POSITIVE! This is an exciting time to accomplish things you may have sacrificed in this relationship!
You can beat it!
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Thanks again everyone. Some really helpful information.
Honestly I probably woulda flipped out & tried to find the guy, but he lives 700 miles away. Probably a good thing.
This guy was not an old flame of hers, its someone totally new. He is actually 3 years younger than her & a friend of her younger brothers.
I blame her a hell of lot more than him though, for the cheating. Although I blame myself more than anyone esle.
MJ those forums look like they will be great thanks so much for the link. :toast:
Honestly I probably woulda flipped out & tried to find the guy, but he lives 700 miles away. Probably a good thing.
This guy was not an old flame of hers, its someone totally new. He is actually 3 years younger than her & a friend of her younger brothers.
I blame her a hell of lot more than him though, for the cheating. Although I blame myself more than anyone esle.
MJ those forums look like they will be great thanks so much for the link. :toast:
3, sorry bro. I've been there a couple times myself.
Any kids involved ? Hope not. if not your in a MUCH better situation to move on.
And yes, you prolly should get out of there. It will be alot better for YOU !
Football's here very soon and that will keep you very occupied. I imagine this will be a stress free season for you not having to worry all the time that you aren't spending more time with her.
Just never forget what caused this to happen and don't let it happen again. You'll find someone when you're ready. Good luck buddie, Hooks :toast:
Any kids involved ? Hope not. if not your in a MUCH better situation to move on.
And yes, you prolly should get out of there. It will be alot better for YOU !
Football's here very soon and that will keep you very occupied. I imagine this will be a stress free season for you not having to worry all the time that you aren't spending more time with her.
Just never forget what caused this to happen and don't let it happen again. You'll find someone when you're ready. Good luck buddie, Hooks :toast:
suicide is never the right answer, beating up the guy is the wrong answer too, I would get my shit and move out immediately, file for divorce and never talk to her again. You should be mad at her not the guy or yourself.
best of luck...
best of luck...
I dont think there is any getting this woman back, even if I determined that was something I was capable of doing after all that has been done.
She says that she has never been so sure of anything in her life. That she is a new person & for her to be that person I cant be around. She doesnt want to have to repress the hurt/heartbreak when she looks at me.
My Katie is long dead
, she has the same body, but it just isnt the woman I feel in love with at all.
She says that she has never been so sure of anything in her life. That she is a new person & for her to be that person I cant be around. She doesnt want to have to repress the hurt/heartbreak when she looks at me.
My Katie is long dead
, she has the same body, but it just isnt the woman I feel in love with at all.
Time to "LOVE LIFE"
I don't know how old you are, but there still is a future !
FIDO FUCK IT DRIVE ON
As an NCO in the Army I had several troops take the easy way out, it's messy, and it leaves a trail of heartache.
I lost buddies in combat and still happens to this day.
I know in the Military an attempted suicide also goes down as an attempted homicide and there are some states that prosecute under that law.
There will alwys be something better once the smoke clears 3 seconds. Head up, move out of the house. Be well.
I don't know how old you are, but there still is a future !
FIDO FUCK IT DRIVE ON
As an NCO in the Army I had several troops take the easy way out, it's messy, and it leaves a trail of heartache.
I lost buddies in combat and still happens to this day.
I know in the Military an attempted suicide also goes down as an attempted homicide and there are some states that prosecute under that law.
There will alwys be something better once the smoke clears 3 seconds. Head up, move out of the house. Be well.
I like Woodson's advice quite a bit. The one thing I'd think you should focus on from a practical future standpoint - don't do anything stupid, period. Hopefully she doesn't know about your thoughts about taking your own life. Don't do anything stupid about her and the other guy, start the divorce process and get it done if you're convinced it is done. Please get that stuff done and ironed out before doing anything to give her ammo in the divorce, especially physical violence towards her or the guy - OR YOURSELF. Get friends involved to help you, make sure you have secured the physical items you know you want and take personal possession of them. I agree with getting away from her for lots of reasons, and take your shit with you. Don't be vindictive about personal stuff of hers, keep it all on the up and up, and as positive as it can be, for the divorce. Get a good attorney - this will pay off more than you can imagine right now. Stand up for yourself, don't be helpful to her and her new plight. But get a good attorney and trust them. Ask others who have been divorced for their advice on an attorney - a good one is very important. My wife is a family law attorney, and since you don't have kids, it should be pretty straightforward as long as you keep your mind and shit together.
I'm really sorry for your situation, it hurts like Hell, I know. Twice divorced and currently married to a divorce attorney. I know a little about this, and I wish you well. There is plenty of time to rebound after things get accomplished, stay focused and take care of business now. I wish you the best of luck, and take care of yourself. EAT something... that's the thing that got me in the early stages - depressed and never hungry. Force yourself to eat, and not just smoke and drink.
Good luck to you, and keep us posted. You have a lot of friends here, and any fan of Keeley is a friend of mine.
I'm really sorry for your situation, it hurts like Hell, I know. Twice divorced and currently married to a divorce attorney. I know a little about this, and I wish you well. There is plenty of time to rebound after things get accomplished, stay focused and take care of business now. I wish you the best of luck, and take care of yourself. EAT something... that's the thing that got me in the early stages - depressed and never hungry. Force yourself to eat, and not just smoke and drink.
Good luck to you, and keep us posted. You have a lot of friends here, and any fan of Keeley is a friend of mine.
one more thought, if you can prove infidelity you should get more in the divorce settlement, right? Glad to hear you get the dog and no kids involved
you said some hurtful things to me and i didn`t throw in the towel...i`m still here.....
find a lady with some hard bark on her....
/seriously,if she`s banging some other dude and says it`s over,,,it`s over.....
a little advice...i`d tell her if she wants a divorce,fine...if she doesn`t want to be with you,nothing you can do...and acting like a wounded puppy doesn`t impress women...
honestly,if it were me,i`d tell her i don`t want to be with someone that doesn`t want to be with me...tell her to have a good life...see ya`,,,
don`t throw a hissy...and whatever you do,don`t beg...
...sounds like you have the upper hand in court if she admitted she`s schtupping her old homey...
i never understood people wanting to be in a relationship with people that don`t want to be with them...but that`s me...:shrug:
you still have your immediate family...
find a lady with some hard bark on her....
/seriously,if she`s banging some other dude and says it`s over,,,it`s over.....
a little advice...i`d tell her if she wants a divorce,fine...if she doesn`t want to be with you,nothing you can do...and acting like a wounded puppy doesn`t impress women...
honestly,if it were me,i`d tell her i don`t want to be with someone that doesn`t want to be with me...tell her to have a good life...see ya`,,,
don`t throw a hissy...and whatever you do,don`t beg...
...sounds like you have the upper hand in court if she admitted she`s schtupping her old homey...
i never understood people wanting to be in a relationship with people that don`t want to be with them...but that`s me...:shrug:
you still have your immediate family...
sorry for your problems, but I really admire your honesty. Most people nowadays can't admit they're wrong. That's refreshing to hear/read. Hope it all works out for the best and you get over her fast.
good luck and hope everything WILL work out.....
been thru some tough relationships and you feel a 'darkness' come over you...GET OUT OF BED and don't pine away thinking what 'could have been'....
sounds like she is/has already moved/moving on.....
didn't see u on the golf trip outing....so get to making those hotel reservations...and come join the MJ crew for a GREAT weekend...:mj06: :mj06:
P.S.......after L.S.U. stomped the shit out of your horns this year for the title....purple and gold may be your TRUE colors!!!!:SIB :SIB :SIB
been thru some tough relationships and you feel a 'darkness' come over you...GET OUT OF BED and don't pine away thinking what 'could have been'....
sounds like she is/has already moved/moving on.....
didn't see u on the golf trip outing....so get to making those hotel reservations...and come join the MJ crew for a GREAT weekend...:mj06: :mj06:
P.S.......after L.S.U. stomped the shit out of your horns this year for the title....purple and gold may be your TRUE colors!!!!:SIB :SIB :SIB
Look, if things get too bad (and I mean like, you are going to kill yourself) - you could always move to Mexico, refurbish boats on the beach and drink beer on the weekends.
This is my plan should things go south for me. Maybe it would work for you.
This is my plan should things go south for me. Maybe it would work for you.
I find I'm so excited, I can barely sit still or hold a thought in my head. I think it is the excitement only a free man can feel, a free man at the start of a long journey whose conclusion is uncertain. I hope I can make it across the border. I hope to see my friend, and shake his hand. I hope the Pacific is as blue as it has been in my dreams. I hope.
