Talk about shocked. My daughter is going into her second year at college, always a good kid, honor roll in hs and deans list last year. She has never been in trouble, I know she drinks a little, most 19 year olds do. The guy she was with took all the heat saying my daughter did not know he had it in the car. (Which may have saved him from an ass beating.) How do I approach this with her. Wife wants to take her credit cards away. Big ****ing deal. I want to take the car away, except for when she goes to work. My concern is that at 19 I could set her off down the wrong road by alienating her. I know kids party, hell her mother and I did. What would you guys do?
My kid got busted With Ecstasy..Help
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Clem D said:
first of all relax, sit her down and talk to her!! if u go off the handle she will keep chit from u on this issue and anything in the future.. talk to her as a freind more then a parent.. she will be more open with u..then go from there.. GL
I've been around this stuff for years. I have never personally taken it, but know 100's of folks who have. Managed an alternative, all night rave club in Orlando 12 years ago, and it only existed because of the kids "rolling", or on X.........Stuff is like beer and pot were for us in our day. Easier for the kids now that they are much more spoiled today and have access to more dollars to spend. The stuff isn't cheap. Depending on your part of the country, most likely $20-25 bucks a pill. .......Real easy to tell if she is on it however. Just look at her eyes and her pupils will be as big as flying saucers, you will barely see any color on the iris. ....Pros and cons of the stuff..........It won't cause you to drive erratically or fall asleep at the wheel as alcohol does. It won't cause you to do stupid things you might as with alcohol, but it does have long term side effects, as does pot, beer, etc....It also lends itself to making sex a lot more interesting and pleasurable.....I realize this doesn't give you a quick fix, but I felt the info wouldn't hurt. Good Luck, my thoughts are with you.
To all who think "x" is like Pot or beer your are really confused and down right ignorant--that stuff -for lack of proper medical term-literally eats your brain-my wifes lab does research on the effects of different drugs on the brain-well X is way more harmful than Pot, Crack and liquor, Meth, heroin, Acid etc...And when I say way more destructive I mean leaps and bounds...Do anything you can to keep your child of that drug.........
PS-Just to add in-X is a "bathroom" drug it is not a "Pure" like Pot or even Coke--9 times out of 10 when authorities confiscate X the make-up of the drug id different..i.e. the makers throw in whatever they have around to make you"high"
PS-Just to add in-X is a "bathroom" drug it is not a "Pure" like Pot or even Coke--9 times out of 10 when authorities confiscate X the make-up of the drug id different..i.e. the makers throw in whatever they have around to make you"high"
I would sure do my best to keep her dick-headed boyfriend away from her. I would DEFINITELY take her credit cards. A 19-yr old needs those like a hole in the head anyway.
Of course you have to talk to her and tell her nothing she could do would change your love for her but you can't approve of her messing with that stuff or hanging with people who do. Try and impress on her the effect her decisions can have on her future and that she is in a dangerous adult world now. If this loser boyfriend had any respect for her he woul dbe looking out for her well-being which he obviously is not. Be loving but firm. Good luck.
Of course you have to talk to her and tell her nothing she could do would change your love for her but you can't approve of her messing with that stuff or hanging with people who do. Try and impress on her the effect her decisions can have on her future and that she is in a dangerous adult world now. If this loser boyfriend had any respect for her he woul dbe looking out for her well-being which he obviously is not. Be loving but firm. Good luck.
trossi's advice i think is sound. i've friends tell me that the people they know who have taken it for awhile , never seem to be quite right. that there is definately a lasting affect, not like pot and beer.
Good responses here. Good Luck. I know this doesn't mean much, but at least you caught it in the early stages. http://www.erowid.org/psychoactives/psychoactives.shtml#
When I said it was like beer and pot in our day, I meant as far as accessibility and "the thing to do", not that it has the same effects.Just wanted to make that clear.
Clem,I think the 1st thing to do is find out the facts about her using it.Is the boyfriend taking the rap or are both involved.
I deal with ecstasy at my HS all the time.I get parents every week with "can't be my kid".There on the national honor society,straight A's,etc.Kinda like you.
Good kids take drugs In the past 2 yrs we had 2 kids die of herion overdoses Both kids were good kids.And when their caught there "defensive mod" sets in.It wasn't mine,I was hanging with the wrong kids,etc.
I think you have to determine the real facts about what happened and how they got busted.
The 2nd thing to do is learn about "X",dex,Eve and the many other street names.
"puts holes in your brains and the swiss cheeze of brain drugs".
Someone already gave you the Vault site about E.Read it.go to google and see all the sites.
I see it at my school after the kids do it.Kids will come in school depressed,bugged out,crying for no reason,etc.
Then when we questioned them many will admit to taking E over the weekend.
Talk to your daughter about it.If her boyfriend is doing it she is.No way they are going to a party together and only he is doing it. "E" needs a dance partner.Unless he has all his friends with him and he's hanging out with them..
If she admits to doing it then she needs some education on it.
3rd is the punishment phase.Thats up to you guys.I have a 19 yr old daughter and she last yr at a party in college had a sizure.Shooting vodka.Spent nite in a hospital.They tested her to see if someone spiked her drink. We had her tested at Columbia Preb.She hasn't drinkin since.
The doctors took her driving away for 3 months as they monitored her.
But punishing is hard on 19 yrs old.We can't ground them anymore.You can take away her crdit card,car computer,etc. But like any teenager that doesn't stop them.
But thats up to you guys.Concentrate on "did she take it,why she shouldn't,etc.
I have a 15 yr,18,19 and 24 yr old.My wife and I worry all the time.Boyfriends, girlfriends,their peers,etc all have an influence on them no matter what we as parents taught them.
And besides having 3 teens their Daddy grew up in the late 60's and early 70's Woodstock era.I could write a book about crap I did.
grab your daughter with your wife and hug her and say we love you.Now lets talk....
I deal with ecstasy at my HS all the time.I get parents every week with "can't be my kid".There on the national honor society,straight A's,etc.Kinda like you.
Good kids take drugs In the past 2 yrs we had 2 kids die of herion overdoses Both kids were good kids.And when their caught there "defensive mod" sets in.It wasn't mine,I was hanging with the wrong kids,etc.
I think you have to determine the real facts about what happened and how they got busted.
The 2nd thing to do is learn about "X",dex,Eve and the many other street names.
"puts holes in your brains and the swiss cheeze of brain drugs".
Someone already gave you the Vault site about E.Read it.go to google and see all the sites.
I see it at my school after the kids do it.Kids will come in school depressed,bugged out,crying for no reason,etc.
Then when we questioned them many will admit to taking E over the weekend.
Talk to your daughter about it.If her boyfriend is doing it she is.No way they are going to a party together and only he is doing it. "E" needs a dance partner.Unless he has all his friends with him and he's hanging out with them..
If she admits to doing it then she needs some education on it.
3rd is the punishment phase.Thats up to you guys.I have a 19 yr old daughter and she last yr at a party in college had a sizure.Shooting vodka.Spent nite in a hospital.They tested her to see if someone spiked her drink. We had her tested at Columbia Preb.She hasn't drinkin since.
The doctors took her driving away for 3 months as they monitored her.
But punishing is hard on 19 yrs old.We can't ground them anymore.You can take away her crdit card,car computer,etc. But like any teenager that doesn't stop them.
But thats up to you guys.Concentrate on "did she take it,why she shouldn't,etc.
I have a 15 yr,18,19 and 24 yr old.My wife and I worry all the time.Boyfriends, girlfriends,their peers,etc all have an influence on them no matter what we as parents taught them.
And besides having 3 teens their Daddy grew up in the late 60's and early 70's Woodstock era.I could write a book about crap I did.
grab your daughter with your wife and hug her and say we love you.Now lets talk....
Thank you guys so much. Great advice here all around. Box, I can tell your a great Dad. I'm just getting ready to sit down with my daughter and wife and my younger sister who is 27 and not that far removed from the situation. I know that she has done E in the past at this point as her brother ratted her out. I'm going intot his with an open mind, and alot smarter about this pill, than i entered the day. God bless all of you and your families.
My vote: Take her out back and make her watch you whip her boyfriend's @ss.
Then give her a few whomps on the rear end to set her straight.
Discipline thru fear is paramount at this delicate stage in your kid's life. She obviously needs discipline!
If whuppins dont fix this, sign her up for the Corps and ship her butt off. Maybe that will straighten her out.
First its X, then its snorting coke in the crapper, then its 10 bj's to get your next crack pipe fix.
ANYONE WHO DOESN'T THINK THERE IS A DRUG PROBLEM IN THIS COUNTRY, WHO WOULD YOU WELCOME IN YOUR HOME WITH OPEN ARMS? KEVIN GARNEET, SHAQUEAL O'NEAL, LARRY BIRD, OR CLEM D'S DAUGHTER?
I grin when I eat at Legal's Seafood
but in my opinion, just sit her down and talk to her and find out why she hangs out around it.
Then give her a few whomps on the rear end to set her straight.
Discipline thru fear is paramount at this delicate stage in your kid's life. She obviously needs discipline!
If whuppins dont fix this, sign her up for the Corps and ship her butt off. Maybe that will straighten her out.
First its X, then its snorting coke in the crapper, then its 10 bj's to get your next crack pipe fix.
ANYONE WHO DOESN'T THINK THERE IS A DRUG PROBLEM IN THIS COUNTRY, WHO WOULD YOU WELCOME IN YOUR HOME WITH OPEN ARMS? KEVIN GARNEET, SHAQUEAL O'NEAL, LARRY BIRD, OR CLEM D'S DAUGHTER?
I grin when I eat at Legal's Seafood
but in my opinion, just sit her down and talk to her and find out why she hangs out around it.
Ground her for a minimum of 3 weeks. Have her do yard work every day. That's what my parents did when they caught me with a dollie under my covers servicing me.
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