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Nicholas Grossi was remembered yesterday as a budding chef with a promising future and a kind and helpful disposition.
Grossi, 18, a 2001 graduate of Dighton-Rehoboth Regional High School, where he was on the varsity soccer team, died Thursday afternoon when his car struck a tree on Miller Street in Seekonk. He had recently finished his freshman year in the culinary arts program at Bristol Community College and was a resident of Dighton and Rehoboth.

"Nick was probably one of the nicest kids you'd want to meet. He had a great personality. He was always willing to help. He was always willing to come in early and stay late, and he always had a kind word for his classmates," said BCC Director of Culinary Arts John Caressimo.

Grossi was the son of Dora Grossi of Rehoboth and former Dighton selectman candidate Thomas Grossi of Dighton and the step-son of Kelly Lewis Grossi of Dighton. Thomas Grossi said the family is very close-knit and was devastated by Nicholas's death.

"He was a great kid. He was very family-oriented," Grossi said yesterday.

Caressimo thought so highly of Nicholas he selected him as one of only two recipients out of a class of 22 students to receive a culinary arts scholarship next year, he said.

Grossi's dream was to own his own restaurant. That's no small task, Caressimo said, but Grossi had the grades and talent to make it a reality.

"He will be missed. His personality and his dry wit will be missed. He wasn't the class clown, but every now and then he'd look at you or say something in a very quiet way," Caressimo said.

Caressimo said counselors and a nun are available at BCC to help students cope with tragic events such as Grossi's death.

"This isn't the way it's supposed to go. It's not supposed to be children first," Caressimo said.

According to Seekonk Police Chief Vito Scotti, Grossi was traveling east on Miller Street when the accident occurred at around 5:15 p.m. Thursday. Scotti said that according to witnesses, Grossi passed another vehicle at a high rate of speed, then apparently lost control of his vehicle, which crashed into a large tree on the property.

Scotti said it appears that excessive speed was the cause of the crash, but said the accident is still under investigation.

In addition to his parents and step-mother, Grossi is survived by four brothers and three sisters. His funeral will be held Monday from Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church in Seekonk.

This is my wife's brother and we are a mess and I know we can find strength here @ MJ.

Nick had a few bumps in the road early on, but had come full circle and was happy for the first time in a long time.

He was like to a big brother to my 13 and 8 yr old in fact my 8 yr old said" Dad I did not only lose my uncle, I lost my buddy".

I don't know how my wife's going to get through this, so any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Please all Mad jackers. HUG YOUR KIDS, LOVEONES ETC onetime for Karen and I.

Thank You

Karen and Tom:cry:









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wow...man...i never know what to say. i do feel for you and your wife and our prayers are going out to you, your wife and the rest of your family. try to stay strong. sorry to hear your news. so sad.
 

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Skulldog,

I am very sorry to hear of such a tragic loss.

It is easier said than done but try to stay positive and remember the good times.

The pain never goes away but it certainly eases as time goes on.

My thoughts are with you and your family.
 

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people must grive and go through the whole process to deal with their lose in a healty way. it takes a while i am still dealing with mine and i talk to my preist. as for my dad it is taking a toll on hin he has his good days and his bad they were married 54 years,i also have good and bad. it can take 4-6 months to get through this.

the best thing you can do is listen and if there are times when she want's to just be alone or doesnot want to do anything let her alone,people have to go through the whole process to heal. 1 thing that helps me i know my mom isnot in pain and in a much better place then we are here on earth,i also know that she sees and hears me each and everyday when i talk to her, it is my belief that the body only dies and the soul will live forever and we all will unite in a better place if you just ask for the gift that awits you at the end of your journy here on earth,now that is just me.

also there is nothing wrong with calling family dr. and saying that herself or another family member might need a short tear rx of xannax to keep the mind more at ease,it has helped my dad out a great deal and there is nothing wrong with that. don't push her just let her process this all out and it really does help to talk and remember the good times. even in this struggle with the thoughts of a loved on passing,this is the start of the eternal life that is everlasting. hard to grasp that but that is what i truely belive.

thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family,i truely can relate and know the hurt that is felt. and hurt is something we feel as a person because we cannot hold hear or physical see our loved one but the do see and hear us,that should be remembered,and they will always hear us when we talk to them.

Nicholas is now an angel ,and is with his eternal father and brothers and sisters filled with love,happiness and joy hard to grasp that at times but i do take comfort in knowing that.
 

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thanks jack and cartman.

Fletcher, I've always said that your're one class act, from offering your bone marrow to az rusty's wife and there has been others, but i'm not thinking clearly.

Thank you for taking the time to respond to this thread and i will print your response and give it to my wife.

thanks

tom
 

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Please tell your wife and kids that we all feel your loss here at MJ's and I for one am truly sorry that you and your family have to go through the pain of losing a loved one. It sucks when someone you know is having a hard time because we often feel helpless in times such as these. My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family.
 

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Your family will be in my and my girlfriend's prayers and I will pray that your family can get through this tragic event. 4 of my best friends died in a car crash when I was 18 and I know it took me long time to get through that. But you have to be strong and everyone here is behind you and praying for you.

Spock.
 

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Sorry

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This is a very difficult situation and I want to thank you for sharing, as that can also be difficult thing to do. Needless to say you are in my thoughts and in my prayers. I want to wish you the best on the difficult times that lay ahead for you and your family. Only wish words alone could heal your pain. Be strong and I wish you nothing but the best.

JT Sneaks :)
 

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Sorry to hear about your family's loss.18 years old is much too young to die.
My family's prayers are with your family.
 

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Skull, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. While any loss is saddening, it's particularly heartwrenching when it's someone young whose life was just beginning. May God bless you all!
 

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what can be said that hasnt been already?? God bless you and youre family...my prayers will be with you...cooz
 

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My condolences on your terrific loss. There really isn't much to say but that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.


I thought Eric's comments were right on. It will take time and even then the pain will be with you for a very long time.

A loss such as this is not something that you ever really "get over". But with the passage of time the pain is less intense.

I lost my mom a little over two years ago. Kathy has been home about two weeks and continues to get stronger. She has been cooking up a storm this weekend. We were talking about different recipes this afternoon ... and I got to thinking about my mom who was a great cook. Had to step out in the yard to check on Kathy's rose garden I had planted about two months ago just before she got out of the hospital from her third chemo.... had to step out and cry... wished my Mom was here this afternoon..so that we could kick some cooking ideas around (I'm a cook, too).

Hug your wife. Tell her that you love her and be supportive.

My love and prayers go out to you and your family

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Take Karen and the kids out on the Cape on a boat. lots of solitude in the sea. That is what Jesus did when John the Baptist was killed, he went on a boat into the sea of Galilee.
 

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Karen & Tom,

Karen & Tom,

There is nothing that leaves me more teary eyed than this.
What could be more harder in life than losing ones child?
Absolutely nothing.

Prayers go out to you & yours.

God Bless

~~Lanny
 

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Very Tragic. All my prayers are with your wife and you. We all suffer loss many times in life but losing a sibling at such a young age is among the hardest things to understand and get over.
If I could offer a suggestion establish a scholarship in his name for students interested in culinary arts. If you do let us know so we can help you along with it.
 

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Well we buried nick yesterday and was the worst day of our lives and writing about it helps, especially in this forum where I feel at home.

Nick had a police escort to his final resting place which I thought was very classy for the local police to do. All his classmates in the culinary arts program showed up in their uniforms and the reception afterwards was held @ his college.

Nick had given us so much joy in his young life, but in his death he has brought his family together in the following way.

1. My wife doesn't have any pictures of when she a baby(no contact whatsoever w/her natural mother, tries but to no avail), but @ the funeral, her Aunt, who's she's hadn't seen in over 10 years came w/her daughter and brought her some pictures she had, and that made us so happy(she's got more to give us:D )

2. Karen's dad hasn't spoke with or seen his brother, 2 sisters and 1 of his sons in 10 yrs, and they all came and promised to be a part of his life once more.

3. Nick's step mom Kelly, who has been an excellent influence in his life, had been at odds w/her family for many years, came, stayed @ the house and cooked, cleaned and watch our baby for us.

Nick told his mother on several ocansions, how he loved coming over our house because it was such a relaxed atmosphere, parties we had and most of all he loved the relationship Karen and I have.

In March, Karen threw a 40th birthday party for me and we went to a japense(sp) resturaunt, then went to the comedy connection.
Nick's mom told karen that from time to time he would tell her what a good time he had, and boy did that make us feel good.

I would like to thank jack for allowing me to use this forum to help us heal our sorrow and thanks to all those to offered their kind words, believe me it helps.

Smash mouth, we've already done it and I will post the information when I can, but thanks for the idea.

Thanks again

Tom and Karen
 
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