what's the best way to improve? I'm sure some of oyu have problems with this. For me, when i talk in front of ppl i cant come up the right words. Hte fact that there are ppl listning doesnt allow me to think of mt cvocabuluary and idition and i end up using very elementary words . ohw haege you addressed the issue on ur own? read books on it, hire a coach to train u?
Public speaking
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go to a city college pay 45 bucks to take a communication class.
plus you can score on the hot girls, because girls take those courses.
plus you can score on the hot girls, because girls take those courses.
join a organization called toastmasters.
They will help you get comfortable speaking in front of others which is rated pretty high on the
chart for things alot of people have trouble doing.
They will help you get comfortable speaking in front of others which is rated pretty high on the
chart for things alot of people have trouble doing.
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cheapest way is to practice at home..pick a topic you are comfortable with..have family and friends be your audience..
backyard BBQ's are a good place to practice..friendly audience ..invite constructive criticism..provide the beer.
practice in front of the mirror..
know your topic inside and out..hemming and hawing come from lack of knowledge of the subject at hand..
NEVER EVER NEVER ..get in the habit of using.."and ah..and ah..and ah"...the absolute worst when it comes to communication skills AND FLUID DELIVERY OF THE ORATION...listen to these BOZO's on ESPN..they are the worst..then you can get a handle on what not to do.
pick out a member of the audience and make eye contact..deliver you message to them as if in a one on one conversation..then shift your eyes to yet another member of the audience..continue this until you have garner the direct attention of those.
a huge vocabulary is nice but at the same time you never want to speak beyond the comprehension of your audience..you are trying to communicate..not tell everybody how damn smart you are..
best of luck..
practice..practice practice..
backyard BBQ's are a good place to practice..friendly audience ..invite constructive criticism..provide the beer.
practice in front of the mirror..
know your topic inside and out..hemming and hawing come from lack of knowledge of the subject at hand..
NEVER EVER NEVER ..get in the habit of using.."and ah..and ah..and ah"...the absolute worst when it comes to communication skills AND FLUID DELIVERY OF THE ORATION...listen to these BOZO's on ESPN..they are the worst..then you can get a handle on what not to do.
pick out a member of the audience and make eye contact..deliver you message to them as if in a one on one conversation..then shift your eyes to yet another member of the audience..continue this until you have garner the direct attention of those.
a huge vocabulary is nice but at the same time you never want to speak beyond the comprehension of your audience..you are trying to communicate..not tell everybody how damn smart you are..
best of luck..
practice..practice practice..
Why practice is necessary:
"Four score and seven years ago, our forefathers came forth onto this continent riding on a pony..."
"Four score and seven years ago, our forefathers came forth onto this continent riding on a pony..."
parlayinn, what kind of public speaking are you planning on doing? Sales? Seminars? Teaching? Public Office (gasp!)? Wearing a sandwich board sign signalling the end of the world while screaming crazy stuff? Like Weasel does?
Seriously, if I knew what you audience was, it might help. Some good ideas above, especially the idea of locating a friendly face in the audience and zoning in on that to relax you. Try not to make it into a life and death situation, and know that it's just another day in your life. There is the deal about picturing the audience members in their underwear, but I always found that best case distracting, and worst case disturbing.
Seriously, if I knew what you audience was, it might help. Some good ideas above, especially the idea of locating a friendly face in the audience and zoning in on that to relax you. Try not to make it into a life and death situation, and know that it's just another day in your life. There is the deal about picturing the audience members in their underwear, but I always found that best case distracting, and worst case disturbing.
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I expect his question was meant in jest.
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gentlemen
I expect his question was meant in jest.
I cnt reed hiss qustuns do too awl thu tiepos
:mj07:
Depends what type of public speaking. I do a fair share of talks to groups of 10-20 people. Know your topic and audience. Someone mentioned up above focus on a happy face, I in turn try to find the 'mouth'. The 'mouth' is the person in the audience that may give my trouble. Isolate your lecture to that person and ask them checking quetstions, do you agree with that or how would you do that or what are you all doing/using now and so on. Get them talking, that is less the time you will mess up. The more they talk in an audience or group, the more you will find out....which also allows you to follow up again in case you do fu-k up. Good luck.
Today, I would like to discuss how I (jr11) will pick a loser in the basketball game tonight...
jr11
Today, I would like to discuss how I (jr11) will pick a loser in the basketball game tonight...
jr11
RE: the xanax Jack put up. Have to speak in front of lots of people on occasion--speaking to groups where I know most the people is no prob but have always disliked speaking to large group where most were strangers.Throat always became constricted and felt as if choking in a sense.
--Was telling my doc about it on a physical one day and he gave me a script of Xanax--the 5mg sort. he said break one in half a take it a couple hours before next talk. Tried it and almost magically no constricted throat. Have I believe 3 scripts filled in about 10 years--appears they don't lose potency over time--believe current bottle in drawer is dated 2005.
--Was telling my doc about it on a physical one day and he gave me a script of Xanax--the 5mg sort. he said break one in half a take it a couple hours before next talk. Tried it and almost magically no constricted throat. Have I believe 3 scripts filled in about 10 years--appears they don't lose potency over time--believe current bottle in drawer is dated 2005.
Actually there is a drug called Inderol or something like that that people who do public speaking take. It lowers your heart rate.
yeah, as i had said in my post it's a beta blocker and actually can be used for anxiety during public speaking.
Wow, sorry about the typos...I was on ambien at the time about to fall asleep. To be honest, i dont even remember posting this. I saw the thread just now and thought I must have started it a long time ago and it got bumped! LOL...Man, that stuff is crazy
Anyway, I wasn't joking. This has been a problem for me since I was a kid. What I was referring to is basically speaking in front of strangers; Not necessarily a speech in front of a large audience, but even a small group I'm unfamiliar with. For example, if I'm telling a story, I can do it fine if I'm just talking to friends or one stranger. But once I feel like a few strangers are listening to every word that I'm saying, I get really self-conscious and focus more on the situation than my words. I was thinking about joining Toastmasters, as I hear they're super accommodating and non-judgmental, but I'm always reluctant to just show up to something like that as the newcomer, especially to speak in front of them!
Anyway, I wasn't joking. This has been a problem for me since I was a kid. What I was referring to is basically speaking in front of strangers; Not necessarily a speech in front of a large audience, but even a small group I'm unfamiliar with. For example, if I'm telling a story, I can do it fine if I'm just talking to friends or one stranger. But once I feel like a few strangers are listening to every word that I'm saying, I get really self-conscious and focus more on the situation than my words. I was thinking about joining Toastmasters, as I hear they're super accommodating and non-judgmental, but I'm always reluctant to just show up to something like that as the newcomer, especially to speak in front of them!
