Shitty Day

[sharky17]

I know you dumbasses can't pick a winner, but you can always listen.... I had a troubling day...

Long story, still long.....Was real sick last spring/summer....lost a ton of weight and didn't feel like doing anything....got told I had a tumour on my spleen, likely cancer and to take the whole thing out...day after Labour Day had my spleen removed with the growth....found out before Christmas that the growth was actually my spleen dying and that explained my "illness" and not feeling well....Feel great again, but had to go for my last follow up again today...because they thought it was cancer originally, my surgery was done at the cancer clinic and I visit it for my check ups.....went today real early and was the only one in the waiting room....fucking around on my phone waiting when a bald headed 6 year old comes up, tells me his name is Kenny, asks my name and wants to know "if I am going to be okay"......"I'm Nate, and I am sure I am going to be okay. How about you?" He proceeds to tell me that the doctor had to take some of his liver, but he hoped he was going to be okay....I looked over and Dad was crying and Mom looked like a zombie. I will never forget this......ever. I am sure his prognosis wasn't good, but he was the most optimistic guy I had ever met. And he was only 6.....
I have a little boy turning 3 in April and another only 3 months old. I cried the whole way home....got to the local watering hole and chugged a few pints......I have the little guys at home, but I would have traded prognosis with that kid in a heart beat.....I will never forget the optimism in that smile.....

 

[jas4bama]

wow,,I immediaetly went and hugged my 9 year old,,,,Prayers and thoughts with the 6 year old you met and you as well,,,

 

[homedog]

Touching story, sharky. Hang in there.

 

[Jaxx]

Very moving story Nate. Read it to my wife and we both got a tear.

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[Happy Hippo]

Hard to deal or understand any pain and suffering when it comes to children. Sad, I would feel the same as you.

 

[IE]

sure hits home Sharky17,

best of health for all involved in the future.

 

[Mr. Poon]

definitely touching, thoughts and prayers for improved health in your family as well as the little boys'.

 

[WhatsHisNuts]

Puts things in perspective. Good health to you and I hope that little guy makes it through.

 

[Skulnik]

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[hedman]

This brought memories back of how strong my nephew was when he was battling his brain cancer.

I'll never forget sitting with my nephew and sister at the Children's hospital waiting for him to get his last chemo, when a little boy and his mother walked in and sat down. My nephew was 8 and this other little boy was probably 10. They started talking and my nephew learned that this little boy had to come 2 times a month and had done so for a long time, the other little boy was excited because it was my nephews last visit and shared the excitement with his mother. His mother looked at my sister and said "Congrats, that must be so exciting to be ....." and then she stopped dead in her tracks as the expression on my sister's face and probably my own was telling enough that it wasn't a good thing, chemo wasnt working and it was only making my nephews last few days here miserable, so they decided to stop and let him go home and enjoy his precious few days with his brothers.

Ugh, cancer sucks!!

 

[layinwood]

I do recruiting for one of the larger Oncology groups in the country. One of the offices here in Dallas specialize in pediatric oncology. I place more front office people there than most of my offices combined. Every once in a while you can find a lady that is good at what she does but not many can handle the daily ups and downs. They all talk about how you kind of get to know the kids because they're always in the office. It feels good to see most of them get better but the ones that don't end up hurting too much. They have a little play area in their waiting room. When I go in I always watch the kids playing. It's almost like they realize what life is all about and are just happy to be living and playing.

Sharky, glad to hear you're doing well!

 

[Morris]

Touching story Nate. I'm going to hug the grandkids when they get home.

 

[gardenweasel]

along the same lines of shitty-ness....got home yesterday and and went back out to warm up and move our second car(old lady is under the weather)...

was toward the end of the loop in our little community and as i was coming down a street that`s sort of a little cul de sac at it`s end some folks were out in the middle of the street huddled over something...apparently a guy had collapsed while walking and was laying in the middle of the street...fell face first and smashed his head on the street...was barely breathing,totally unconscious....the people lived on the street and saw him collapse....he was in very bad shape,probably a heart attack or stroke...couldn`t find any i.d. on the guy...thankfully,the paramedics and police arrived very quickly...but it didn`t look good... didn`t have a good feeling about the guy`s chances...

it threw me..i`m still a little shook ...a terrible helpless feeling....seems like quite a few people have bad things happen right around this time of year(not based on any statistical breakdown,just my observation)......

get in shape,guys..watch your diet...quit smoking.....bad things can happen to good people...

 

[gardenweasel]

side note...oncology staff(at least the ones i came in contact with in my mom`s experiences) are among the most caring people i`ve ever encountered..takes a special person to do what they do...i know i couldn`t...

on the other end of the spectrum,critical care staff..like in the i.c.u....seemed about as cold and jaded as any i`ve ever encountered....

that`s just my experience...

 

[bleedingpurple]

Very very sad. It sucks, I take care of 2 peds clients and I would give my life to
cure em for sure.

Hope for your continued success to beat this awful disease. Think I may hit the watering hole after work

 

[THE KOD]

on the other end of the spectrum,critical care staff..like in the i.c.u....seemed about as cold and jaded as any i`ve ever encountered....

that`s just my experience...

my sister is a icu nurse and you are right about this.

She told me one time that they give the same excellant care to every patient, but there are many that end up in icu that they know are not going to make it, and they have to distance themselves from that for their own sanity. You dont make friends in icu, its just too painful emotionally.

 

[gardenweasel]

my sister is a icu nurse and you are right about this.

She told me one time that they give the same excellant care to every patient, but there are many that end up in icu that they know are not going to make it, and they have to distance themselves from that for their own sanity. You dont make friends in icu, its just too painful emotionally.

makes sense.....not a great thing if someone you care about is a patient..there are some that you want to beat to a bloody f`ing pulp(doctors and nurses)...but i understand the mindset...

don`t know how people do those jobs...

 

[the addict]

Hard to deal or understand any pain and suffering when it comes to children. Sad, I would feel the same as you.

when I was 13, my cousin Houston, who was 12 at the time, died of a brain aneurism.

I didn't understand it then, and I sure as hell don't understand it now.


I am now a man who believes in god. that being said, growing up I didnt go to church, am currently reading the bible for the first time, and was never confirmed into any church.


part of the reason I never wanted to learn or listen to any religion growing up was directly related to houstons death. I was always told not to question the lord and his plan, but when you are 13, fuck that, I questioned him that night, and everynight since until about 3 years ago.



I still don't understand why children suffer, but if God really does have a plan, and we are all a part of it, then I trust the little kiddos who have sickness or illness are sitting in a better place laughing at us while eating a happy meal and playing an xbox, thinking "and those sorry guys feel bad for us"

atleast that is what I tell myself when I think of poor little children who are hurting.










anyways, sharky, I will for sure pray for that child and his family. enjoy your beer, but more important get a ride home. :toast:

 

[THE KOD]

when I was 13, my cousin Houston, who was 12 at the time, died of a brain aneurism.

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that made me think of my first experience with someone dieing.

I think I was in 7th grade. The guy that sat beside me in homeroom was named Ray. I didn't know him all that well but we talked off and on. He was in some of my classes.

He didnt come to school one day and it was reported he died of a heart attack. It was in the papers and all that. He seemed healthy enough.

I remember looking over at his seat and wondering so this is what death is. One day you are here and then the next day you aint sitting in your homeroom seat no more.

they didnt have counselors back then. It kinda freaked me out for awhile.