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Prayen,
Listen bro. I am not going to sit here and tell you all the things you have already heard time and again about women and them not being worth it and such, no one person is worth the life of another and that is the truth. That being said, I will tell you this..........the lows that you suffer are equal to the highs you enjoyed while in this relationship. No one can be so sad to the point of this without being so happy to the point of euphoria. While many of these feelings do not come around very often they do come around. I know that you have had some issues in the past with this but now is not the time to dwell on those. What you NEED to know that pain and suffering are part of everyones emotional package. We all experience them at some point, they are normal and actually quite healthy. There is nothing wrong with being so lonely without her that your sick to your stomach. Nothing wrong with thinking you'll never find another as good as her and all that but that shit isn't the truth and deep down you have to know that. Nothing wrong with being sad, embrace it, emotion is what seperates from the rest of the animal kingdom. Be happy that you got to experience such a wide range of emotions, many don't and those are the ones that end up on a slab way before their time. Life is so good brother. It really is a gift, i would hazard to guess that if you honestly took the time to look around you and took advantage of all the things that life has to offer you wouldn't be so quick to talk about kicking the chair out from under you. You are only human my friend and your body is simply reminding you of that. Learn form this and know that you will never be happy until you can be happy by yourself, with yourself. I guarantee you there is a lot more keeping you here than there is driving you down. You are only the man you make yourself in this world, the best part of that is integrity, confidence, self worth, and happiness are all free my friend, and very easy to find. you just have to be willing to look for it. Its all already there, you just buried it somewhere. You need to go find it.
Hope this helps,
Cris
Dont do it, because of your kids. Think of the pain it would cause them. Think of the joy you feel when you hug your kids again.
Please call those numbers.
Please call those numbers.
AP, forget about you, and forget about her. What
is important is your children. If you follow through
with this, you will ruin the rest of their lives. That
is just not right. Do you really want to ruin the
lives of these children as long as they live. Do the
right thing and call one of those numbers.
is important is your children. If you follow through
with this, you will ruin the rest of their lives. That
is just not right. Do you really want to ruin the
lives of these children as long as they live. Do the
right thing and call one of those numbers.
Dont do it, because any person who starts a Free Porn thread that is still the longest at Madjacks, Id like to meet someday.
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you will figure it out with HELP..have been where you are...it hurts..it hurts ...and it will not stop hurting until you get some help..
and she will know it.
but you have to get HELP..
I would never do it. It is the selfish way out. I have lost 3 people to suicide. 2 by hanging and one jumped into the grand canyon. One of the 3 was last week. Went to the wake yesterday.
You need to call one of those numbers.
You need to call one of those numbers.
heres the story met this gal 4 yrs ago i was married with 1 child she has 5 she was married twice her 2nd one is still in jail for raping her oldest daughter!we fooled around and soon fell in love she threw her boyfriend out and we hung out for about a year in the mean time my wife developed cancer and got real sick. my friend used an excuse that her sister had cancer and had to leave i was ok but still saddened i believed it in the begining but soon found out she had moved out to vegas with her ex! i was devastated and had a real hard time with it. after a few months i tracked her down and and we talked she said that she had to leave cuz she was tired of being the other women i understood and we made arrangements and she moved back . in the mean time started messing with oxys and got up to 8- 10 aday !!! my wife died and i ended getting hooked on the oxys! her and i got hooked and shit went to hell but it seemed we always made it through till last week when in one day last thurs my landlord on my rest of 36 years ended my lease my house went into foreclosure today and she left me!!!! yet im clean yeaaaaaaa for a whole 72hrs but im going to end up dead anyways because i just cant take it!!!! the pain hurts all i want to do is die!!!!! as i write this i hold my son and cry keep tellling him how sorry iam!!! she knows im going through this but i cant gelieve shes that low of a person not to even care enough to check on us!!!unreal!!!!
Stop.
There is no way you should consider suicide over what some female did to you. Be it wife, girlfriend whatever...
Seriously man. If you want to be selfish then you will take the easy way out ,but dude you have 3 kids that NEED YOU more than ever.
I am sure it will be difficult, but sack up man. You need to for your children & yourself.
Your wife will probably actually benefit if you off yourself & you dont want that do you??
You need to be alive if you want to get back at her. Oh what fun you can have.....think about it...
There is no way you should consider suicide over what some female did to you. Be it wife, girlfriend whatever...
Seriously man. If you want to be selfish then you will take the easy way out ,but dude you have 3 kids that NEED YOU more than ever.
I am sure it will be difficult, but sack up man. You need to for your children & yourself.
Your wife will probably actually benefit if you off yourself & you dont want that do you??
You need to be alive if you want to get back at her. Oh what fun you can have.....think about it...
I know someone who became involved with a terrible woman and also addicted to oxy and cocaine and within a year ruined his business and killed himself. ...EVERYONE SUFFERED.
If you end your life, it will cause so much pain to people you love ----- you just can't do that. IT IS NOT AN OPTION.
GET HELP QUITTING THE DRUGS! Once you get that far, you will have a tremendously better perspective. Get through the drug shit and take care of your child. You will be happy and won't regret it, but it will take time and you can only take one step at a time.
If you end your life, it will cause so much pain to people you love ----- you just can't do that. IT IS NOT AN OPTION.
GET HELP QUITTING THE DRUGS! Once you get that far, you will have a tremendously better perspective. Get through the drug shit and take care of your child. You will be happy and won't regret it, but it will take time and you can only take one step at a time.
dude seriously,
log off of mjs....turn your computer off. call one of the numbers above. no one on here can help you. don't do anything stupid. if this isn't a joke and you are serious then you need major professional help. nothing anyone says on a sports betting message board is going to help you.
think of your kids and just call the 800 number.
best of luck man
log off of mjs....turn your computer off. call one of the numbers above. no one on here can help you. don't do anything stupid. if this isn't a joke and you are serious then you need major professional help. nothing anyone says on a sports betting message board is going to help you.
think of your kids and just call the 800 number.
best of luck man
Im young, only 21 and I had a girl break my heart as many of you know. It got to me really bad and hurt me in everyway possible. I saw a therapist to get over it all because I have problems with losing people (my mother passed away about 5 years ago.) What you are feeling will get better. You will see her again and patch things up if it meant to be. If it is not, you can control your life and move on with your children. It is very hard but you WILL be able to move on and everything will be OK in time. Please go see a therapist, it will help, I promise.
Hey Man take this advice. CALL THE NUMBER!! CALL FOR THE KIDS!! THEY NEED YOU NOW!!
i had a best friend whos mom killed herself when we were 12...
i say had a best friend cause he is so ****ed up we lost touch.. drugs, booze, mental hospitals.. he will never be normal
the selfish bitch ruined his life..
get yourself together.. man up and take care of your kids
i say had a best friend cause he is so ****ed up we lost touch.. drugs, booze, mental hospitals.. he will never be normal
the selfish bitch ruined his life..
get yourself together.. man up and take care of your kids
Don't know the situation, and I am sure you are hurting. There is nothing worth ever thinking or actually conducting this through.
I had a cousin do this about 15 years ago and we have never been the same since. Every holiday, birthday, wedding, or family get-together is extremely hard not to wonder. He put us through "hell" as we all blamed ourselves. His doing was getting his first job with a reputable company out of college and flunking the drug test with some dope.
Please get some help immediately. Call a friend, a co-worker, a relative, and go do something that you like to do.
jr11
I had a cousin do this about 15 years ago and we have never been the same since. Every holiday, birthday, wedding, or family get-together is extremely hard not to wonder. He put us through "hell" as we all blamed ourselves. His doing was getting his first job with a reputable company out of college and flunking the drug test with some dope.
Please get some help immediately. Call a friend, a co-worker, a relative, and go do something that you like to do.
jr11
AP, I found something that seems to be good advice:
If you are really feeling suicidal now, please stop long enough to read this. It will only take about five minutes. I do not want to talk you out of your bad feelings. I am not a therapist or other mental health professional - only someone who knows what it is like to be in pain.
I don?t know who you are, or why you would even bother to read this. I only know that for the moment, you?re reading it, and that is good. I can assume that you are here because you are troubled and considering ending your life. If it were possible, I would prefer to be there with you at this moment, to sit with you and talk, face to face and heart to heart. But since that is not possible, we will have to make do with this.
I have known a lot of people who have wanted to kill themselves, so I have some small idea of what you might be feeling. I know that you might not be up to reading a long book, so I am going to keep this short. While we are together here for the next five minutes, I have five simple, practical things I would like to share with you. I won?t argue with you about whether you should kill yourself. But I assume that if you are thinking about it, you feel pretty bad.
Well, you?re still reading, and that?s very good. I?d like to ask you to stay with me for the rest of this page. I hope it means that you?re at least a tiny bit unsure, somewhere deep inside, about whether or not you really will end your life. Often people feel that, even in the deepest darkness of despair. Being unsure about dying is okay and normal. The fact that you are still alive at this minute means you are still a little bit unsure. It means that even while you want to die, at the same time some part of you still wants to live. So let?s hang on to that, and keep going for a few more minutes.
Start by considering this statement:
?Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.?
That?s all it?s about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn?t even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.
Don?t accept it if someone tells you, ?that?s not enough to be suicidal about.? There are many kinds of pain that may lead to suicide. Whether or not the pain is bearable may differ from person to person. What might be bearable to someone else, may not be bearable to you. The point at which the pain becomes unbearable depends on what kinds of coping resources you have. Individuals vary greatly in their capacity to withstand pain.
When pain exceeds pain-coping resources, suicidal feelings are the result. Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect of character; it is morally neutral. It is simply an imbalance of pain versus coping resources.
You can survive suicidal feelings if you do either of two things: (1) find a way to reduce your pain, or (2) find a way to increase your coping resources. Both are possible.
Now I want to tell you five things to think about.
1. You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.
2. Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, ?I will wait 24 hours before I do anything.? Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesn?t mean that you have to actually do it right this minute. Put some distance between your suicidal feelings and suicidal action. Even if it?s just 24 hours. You have already done it for 5 minutes, just by reading this page. You can do it for another 5 minutes by continuing to read this page. Keep going, and realize that while you still feel suicidal, you are not, at this moment, acting on it. That is very encouraging to me, and I hope it is to you.
3. People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.
4. Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.
But there are people out there who can be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone what?s going on with you. It is okay to ask for help. Try:
? Call 1-800-SUICIDE in the U.S.
? Look in the front of your phone book for a crisis line
? Call a psychotherapist
? Carefully choose a friend or a minister or rabbi, someone who is likely to listen
But don?t give yourself the additional burden of trying to deal with this alone. Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases an awful lot of the pressure, and it might be just the additional coping resource you need to regain your balance.
5. Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a really good idea. So are the various self-help groups available both in your community and on the Internet.
Well, it?s been a few minutes and you?re still with me. I?m really glad.
Since you have made it this far, you deserve a reward. I think you should reward yourself by giving yourself a gift. The gift you will give yourself is a coping resource. Remember, back up near the top of the page, I said that the idea is to make sure you have more coping resources than you have pain. So let?s give you another coping resource, or two, or ten.....until they outnumber your sources of pain.
Now, while this may have given you some small relief, the best coping resource we can give you is another human being to talk with. If you find someone who wants to listen, and tell them how you are feeling and how you got to this point, you will have increased your coping resources by one. Hopefully the first person you choose won?t be the last. There are a lot of people out there who really want to hear from you. It?s time to start looking around for one of them.
Now: I?d like you to call someone.
If you are really feeling suicidal now, please stop long enough to read this. It will only take about five minutes. I do not want to talk you out of your bad feelings. I am not a therapist or other mental health professional - only someone who knows what it is like to be in pain.
I don?t know who you are, or why you would even bother to read this. I only know that for the moment, you?re reading it, and that is good. I can assume that you are here because you are troubled and considering ending your life. If it were possible, I would prefer to be there with you at this moment, to sit with you and talk, face to face and heart to heart. But since that is not possible, we will have to make do with this.
I have known a lot of people who have wanted to kill themselves, so I have some small idea of what you might be feeling. I know that you might not be up to reading a long book, so I am going to keep this short. While we are together here for the next five minutes, I have five simple, practical things I would like to share with you. I won?t argue with you about whether you should kill yourself. But I assume that if you are thinking about it, you feel pretty bad.
Well, you?re still reading, and that?s very good. I?d like to ask you to stay with me for the rest of this page. I hope it means that you?re at least a tiny bit unsure, somewhere deep inside, about whether or not you really will end your life. Often people feel that, even in the deepest darkness of despair. Being unsure about dying is okay and normal. The fact that you are still alive at this minute means you are still a little bit unsure. It means that even while you want to die, at the same time some part of you still wants to live. So let?s hang on to that, and keep going for a few more minutes.
Start by considering this statement:
?Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.?
That?s all it?s about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn?t even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.
Don?t accept it if someone tells you, ?that?s not enough to be suicidal about.? There are many kinds of pain that may lead to suicide. Whether or not the pain is bearable may differ from person to person. What might be bearable to someone else, may not be bearable to you. The point at which the pain becomes unbearable depends on what kinds of coping resources you have. Individuals vary greatly in their capacity to withstand pain.
When pain exceeds pain-coping resources, suicidal feelings are the result. Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect of character; it is morally neutral. It is simply an imbalance of pain versus coping resources.
You can survive suicidal feelings if you do either of two things: (1) find a way to reduce your pain, or (2) find a way to increase your coping resources. Both are possible.
Now I want to tell you five things to think about.
1. You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.
2. Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, ?I will wait 24 hours before I do anything.? Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesn?t mean that you have to actually do it right this minute. Put some distance between your suicidal feelings and suicidal action. Even if it?s just 24 hours. You have already done it for 5 minutes, just by reading this page. You can do it for another 5 minutes by continuing to read this page. Keep going, and realize that while you still feel suicidal, you are not, at this moment, acting on it. That is very encouraging to me, and I hope it is to you.
3. People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.
4. Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.
But there are people out there who can be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone what?s going on with you. It is okay to ask for help. Try:
? Call 1-800-SUICIDE in the U.S.
? Look in the front of your phone book for a crisis line
? Call a psychotherapist
? Carefully choose a friend or a minister or rabbi, someone who is likely to listen
But don?t give yourself the additional burden of trying to deal with this alone. Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases an awful lot of the pressure, and it might be just the additional coping resource you need to regain your balance.
5. Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a really good idea. So are the various self-help groups available both in your community and on the Internet.
Well, it?s been a few minutes and you?re still with me. I?m really glad.
Since you have made it this far, you deserve a reward. I think you should reward yourself by giving yourself a gift. The gift you will give yourself is a coping resource. Remember, back up near the top of the page, I said that the idea is to make sure you have more coping resources than you have pain. So let?s give you another coping resource, or two, or ten.....until they outnumber your sources of pain.
Now, while this may have given you some small relief, the best coping resource we can give you is another human being to talk with. If you find someone who wants to listen, and tell them how you are feeling and how you got to this point, you will have increased your coping resources by one. Hopefully the first person you choose won?t be the last. There are a lot of people out there who really want to hear from you. It?s time to start looking around for one of them.
Now: I?d like you to call someone.
