Uh-oh! Should I be worried?

[dr. freeze]

Dude you are too young to get married! Enjoy life and become a member of the 4f club!

great advice....it is because of male behavior like this why so many women are like UT's girl today......

women should be treated like princesses.......when they are abused such as you describe, it is not natural for them many of them are unable to handle their problems and resort to personality/behavior disorders which come about from poor defense mechanisms........

hopefully someday you will have a daughter and you will realize that find, feel, f***, forget mentality is not whats best for her.....hopefully you teach her there are better things out there......

 

[ferdville]

She's an attention whore and wants to have you eating out of her hand. Drop her. In addition, PO was right. You can't sustain a long term relationship with the "opposites attract" theory. I tried that one and after 20 years we divorced. This cost me hundreds of thousands of dollars and I will be paying alimony until she dies or remarries. You need to find someone with similar interests AND similar values. Good luck.

 

[bjfinste]

I dated a girl for 2 years who pulled the same thing. I went through the "date other people while I date you" thing and it just hurt me more and more. Then one day she would call and tell me that she realizes that I'm the only person she loves and wants to be with, but six weeks later we'd go through the same thing- not good. It took me a long time, but I finally just called it quits. I should've done that in the first place. It was like I was her fu cking puppet or something, and it was a trip for her to have that control over me. Don't let this girl control you.

And after a while away from her, I've realized that, as P-38 said, I'm too young to get married (I'm 24). And it's the best decision I ever made. But it took me about 10 months before I realized that. Just stay strong and don't give in... that's my advice.

Any relationship should be a 50-50 thing. It wasn't with me and it sounds like it wasn't with you. I wouldn't buy into Freeze's "women should be treated like princesses" BS. That's only true if they treat you like a prince.

 

[UT-Longhorn]

Thanks Fellas for the advice, kicked her to the curb tonite and am not looking back! (or trying not to) Its just tuff when she lives in the apartment below me. Anyway, she called all nite tonite, and I didnt answer, went out, and am planning on being out of town this weekend........I figure life is too short to waste it on people like this.......so wish me luck, lets win some wagers, and thanks again!dance1

 

[Keyser Soze]

You made the right move. She actually saved you a lot of future problems. Make sure the next girl you date has had some past relationships, she'll be able to bring a lot more to the table. She will already have been in the " should I f**k around?....Should I lie....Is he the one........Am I too young????? etc."......She will already know how to react to relationship issues. This by no means guarantees a great relationship, but at least it will have experience in the mix........And also in agreement with whomever it was that used the age of 30 over/under......Few people know who they are themselves before thirty, let alone what the other person is going to be like as they mature and get their life in order. Don't be in a rush. I'm not saying to boink everything in sight, I'm just saying there is a reason why more than half of all marriages aren't successful. Take your time. ANd when it's time, you'll know, and when that time comes, don't go shopping for rings together. Get some insight from somebody knowledgable and buy the damned thing and surprise her with it. Best of luck my friend.

 

[ssiproop]

The problem she is having is that artsy people don't have the long horn

I say you give her a taste of her own medicine and use the beach for a booty call.

When your done reamin' her hole tell her to get the F*CK OUT!

Actually in all seriousness you are best off with out her. She has already shown herself to be unfaithful and disrespectful. She may change for a week or two but she will always return to the way she was.

I guess I did learn something in Sociology.

Like I read earlier your only 25, you've got time. Throw the pole back in the ocean.

Good Luck to you.

 

[big joe]

Two, FACTS!
1) All females are alike in this regards. They all feel like they are in control and sooner or later they test if they are. This hurts, but eventually they cave in. They are made to be submissive, and this test never works,,if they guy will be strong. BTW "submissive" is meant in a loving and supportive way. They will learn this if you are strong, not a jerk about it,,and they will be better for both of you in the long run to get this out of their system.
2) This relationship will be difficult IF, IF, IF you are like most of us on this board who love sports and spend alot of our time on these types of things.
I've seen plenty of these "mixed-marriages" where the ARTSIES try to team with,,BTW, what are we called???
I recommend just continue dating and having a good time when you feel like she get's the drill, and just see how this works out.
I don't like it when both partners are always having to give in on what they really would like to do.
There has to be some commonality!
There are plenty beautiful, smart, sports-oriented women that is looking for men like Longhorn...
Keep you mind/eyes open and have a good time while you're at it.
Good luck!!

 

[thekidwhocould]

dont call her
dont email
dont see her.
get back in control.



If you can go out of town this weekend and stay in another city. She will be nuts by the time yu get home. Then when she calls you Monday and screams where have you been all weekend ?



Scott-Atlanta

that is almost a guarntee!!

 

[dr. freeze]

I dated a girl for 2 years who pulled the same thing. I went through the "date other people while I date you" thing and it just hurt me more and more. Then one day she would call and tell me that she realizes that I'm the only person she loves and wants to be with, but six weeks later we'd go through the same thing- not good. It took me a long time, but I finally just called it quits. I should've done that in the first place. It was like I was her fu cking puppet or something, and it was a trip for her to have that control over me. Don't let this girl control you.

And after a while away from her, I've realized that, as P-38 said, I'm too young to get married (I'm 24). And it's the best decision I ever made. But it took me about 10 months before I realized that. Just stay strong and don't give in... that's my advice.

Any relationship should be a 50-50 thing. It wasn't with me and it sounds like it wasn't with you. I wouldn't buy into Freeze's "women should be treated like princesses" BS. That's only true if they treat you like a prince.

sorry you got hurt by a girl.....but my princess thing isn't BS.....what ever happened to treating other people with dignity regardless of how they treat you?.....if a girl does not have noble character, then the best thing to do would be to look for someone else who does.....not to inflict harm on her yourself....that just perpetuates the problem.....i would much rather affect a girl's life in a positive way.....if she refuses to do so to me, then it is both of our best interest's to pursue other paths

 

[Spock]

UT - sorry to see this happen to ya.

Vulcan advice to ya:

Stay away from here - plenty of other girls to take to bed and to talk to.

Advice again: Stay away from her. She is a ticking time bomb. :nono:

be glad she did not do this after marriage. Otherwise there go half ur earthly savings. The only money u would have for urself would be the money in the offshore betting accounts.

 

[OtroPex]

UT

Glad to hear your decision, difficult as it may be, I think it's the right one. Like the new sig too bro'!

I definitely agree with Freeze's comments on the 4F club. Experience relationships, sure, but NOT too many 4Fs. I like to look at it similar to how I make my wagers - be selective.

I won't give my money or mi mecos to just anyone She has to be worthy

Hey also had one of those angelic ideas of mine - you say she lives in the apartment below you? Directly? I don't know
about you, but I feelin keg party with lots of Taco B!ll for all the guests - then a mysterious plumbing problem....Je je je je !!!!

"Sorry that was an accident, wow and look there's SH!@ all over EVERYTHING" :thefinger

You feelin me?

 

[Palmetto Pimp]

The only money u would have for urself would be the money in the offshore betting accounts.

Not always the case Spock, a guy of the name 46Yanks used to post here, and had a divorce with his wife, and she ended up getting half of his offshore money. He was devastated. Goes to show nothing is safe. :nono:

 

[DOGS THAT BARK]

Wow 46Yanks and Nancy got DV'd -----Sheeez

UT --not much on advice just remember IF things did work out could you forget what occurred in the future? remember as years go on situations seldom improve --after all youv'e spent 2 1/2 years with her and thought you knew her!!!!Bottom line NEVER marry without prenupt--unless she got the chips

 

[BahamaMama]

A question my chief and I used to ask my guys when they came telling us they wanted to get married:

Johnny seaman: "Sir, I want to marry this girl"
ME: Why do you want to marry her?
Johnny seaman: Because I love her (bat your lashes and hold your hand over your heart now too)

BUT THAT IS THE WRONG ANSWER!

the correct answer is:

BECAUSE SHE LOVES ME

Marine....that is by far the BEST advice i've ever seen on marriage, and it couldn't be more true.

 

[Palmetto Pimp]

DTB...Yeah that happened it seems a year and a half ago, then 46Yanks disappeared in to thin air, last I heard he was talking about moving to Vegas. Ive asked many people what happened to him, no one knows.....:shrug:

Also Mama...I agree, Marines advice is one of the best Ive heard on marriage.:yup