Whats my problem? (rant/vent)

[tpaine07]

Thanks guys, I went golfing and came back to see 19 replies. You guys are really awesome. Today will be my 2nd day having absolutely no communication with her. I blocked her from the IM/AIM, removed her and all her friends from facebook so she really has no way of talking to me besides texting me or calling me, which I can just choose not to answer.


I have been going out which helps, but then usually when I get back home I feel shitty again. Before her, I was playing the field quite well so I started to hangout with those girls again just to get my mind off her, but that hasn't been going so well. Most of them have boyfriends now or are just lame.


I did love this girl so much, but the part that hurts me the most is the homo she "chose over me because things werent going anywhere." This kid is probably the biggest POS human being possible. She even showed me a video when we first met of him being caught on surveillance sneaking thru a window and stealing from his best friends grandpa. I thought she was a great person, but shes turned into trash and is now with trash, so I guess thats what happens.


The last 2 weeks, I have been nowhere near as important to her as just going and drinking with the same people every night til 3am.


I'll move on, its just hard when you know how great someone WAS and what they have turned into now. My standards are insanely high and this girl was all around great, but I guess I just need to let that thought go because thats not who she is anymore.


thanks again guys and I will be taking your advice. I don't even want to talk to her anymore, its just hard waking up and feeling like trash for the first part of my day.

 

[Jake DeNiro]

thanks again guys and I will be taking your advice. I don't even want to talk to her anymore, its just hard waking up and feeling like trash for the first part of my day.

You shouldn't be feeling like trash, you should feel great that you've made the right decision.....shoulders back, deep breathe, say it "**** you and your POS".....

 

[Franky Wright]

TPaine,
Did you ever think that her "Greatness" was just an act put on by her to stay with you, and now the real her is coming out:SIB Maybe the pressure was too much for her, and she needed to be her true self, whatever the fock that is?:shrug:
From the sounds of things, you have your shit together, which many 21 year olds dont, and some trailer trash will always be attracted to someone like you, cause sadly enough, thats probably the father they never had, or longed for. But reality is cruel, and the underlying things that she grew up with make her gravitate back towards men that maybe in this instance, was her father, or father figure:shade:
Could be alot of things...
Do as most of the others have said, stay away and give it 90 days, then see how you feel about her and your old relationship. Hopefully by that time you will see things more clearly .

Some day you will have to come to Madtown and fill in on our Hockey Team:00hour , that would be a hoot :142smilie

Franky

 

[SixFive]

hope it works out, man, and I'll throw this out and hope not to get crucified. If you ever have thoughts that you would be better off dead or how u might actually kill yourself, get some professional help. I don't really know you, and I think there's probably only an infinitesimal chance of this, but I knew a guy and have heard of others that have committed suicide over girls for less than this. Don't take offense at me saying that, but I needed to for my own benefit. Let us know how it works out.

 

[Jake DeNiro]

hope it works out, man, and I'll throw this out and hope not to get crucified. If you ever have thoughts that you would be better off dead or how u might actually kill yourself, get some professional help. I don't really know you, and I think there's probably only an infinitesimal chance of this, but I knew a guy and have heard of others that have committed suicide over girls for less than this. Don't take offense at me saying that, but I needed to for my own benefit. Let us know how it works out.

not crucfied from here....:nono: actually well thought of because one never knows.

 

[tpaine07]

You shouldn't be feeling like trash, you should feel great that you've made the right decision.....shoulders back, deep breathe, say it "**** you and your POS".....

I totally agree, I guess its just the fact that this being my first long term relationship, I got used to having someone to love and care for and having the same in return, now thats no longer there.

Another thing that plays into this mentally IMO is that I lost my mother suddenly junior year of high school, so losing someone else I loved so much hurt me. Obviously losing a mother is nothing on the scale compared to a girlfriend, but I still have trouble losing people. I remember when my dog passed away last summer suddenly one day, it messed me up for a long time. Losing people im just brutal at, even if its necessary and I shouldn't feel bad like in this case.

 

[The Big Tease]

TPaine,

Do yourself a favor and do nothing until BEANTOWNJIM gives his advice.

 

[The Sponge]

TPaine,

Do yourself a favor and do nothing until BEANTOWNJIM gives his advice.

Beaner is more pussy whupped then this kid and he is almost 50. Geez even when he fell in love with that fella Dr. Peter he was a mess.

 

[The Sponge]

I totally agree, I guess its just the fact that this being my first long term relationship, I got used to having someone to love and care for and having the same in return, now thats no longer there.

Another thing that plays into this mentally IMO is that I lost my mother suddenly junior year of high school, so losing someone else I loved so much hurt me. Obviously losing a mother is nothing on the scale compared to a girlfriend, but I still have trouble losing people. I remember when my dog passed away last summer suddenly one day, it messed me up for a long time. Losing people im just brutal at, even if its necessary and I shouldn't feel bad like in this case.

Your on the right track kiddo the feeling like shit part will go away eventually.

 

[saint]

You were a hockey player...are you still in shape?

If not, put all your frustration into working out and getting back in shape. Do something you can dive into with all of your effort, to not only take your mind off things but also make you feel better about yourself. Find things to put your time into now, the things you neglected with her...whether it's old friends, dog fighting, whatever....focus on some new stuff. Get back into shape if you aren't now. When you look back on things, you will be glad they happened and it will help you be mature in your next relationship.

 

[tpaine07]

You were a hockey player...are you still in shape?

If not, put all your frustration into working out and getting back in shape. Do something you can dive into with all of your effort, to not only take your mind off things but also make you feel better about yourself. Find things to put your time into now, the things you neglected with her...whether it's old friends, dog fighting, whatever....focus on some new stuff. Get back into shape if you aren't now. When you look back on things, you will be glad they happened and it will help you be mature in your next relationship.

I still am a hockey player, hehe, Just transfering colleges for it. Im going to play for Depaul next year, they wont be as good as Iowa State, but they have an up and coming program. Im not in bad shape, but I could always be in better shape, Ill be working hard for that this summer, right now im actually in physical therapy for my partial mcl tear, so going there + alot of working out should help alot.

thanks for all the advice/ideas saint and all you other guys, i appreciate it, hopefully ill meet all you guys @ the golf outing.

 

[Lucy11]

Why would you want to settle for someone like her (the way she is acting)? Just distance yourself.

 

[hedgehog]

I totally agree, I guess its just the fact that this being my first long term relationship, I got used to having someone to love and care for and having the same in return, now thats no longer there.

Another thing that plays into this mentally IMO is that I lost my mother suddenly junior year of high school, so losing someone else I loved so much hurt me. Obviously losing a mother is nothing on the scale compared to a girlfriend, but I still have trouble losing people. I remember when my dog passed away last summer suddenly one day, it messed me up for a long time. Losing people im just brutal at, even if its necessary and I shouldn't feel bad like in this case.

Go see a therapist.

 

[AR182]

Go see a therapist.

waste of money for this situation...

 

[Another Steve]

It's called life dude. Happened to almost all of us, believe me. (some more than once)

Go get drunk tonight, grudge fukc some 19 yr old hottie and forget about her. You will be over it in less than a week. If it is meant to be, maybe you two will hook back up in a few years when you both grow up.

It sucks, it hurts, you can't quit thinking about her, etc. But trust me, the second you slide it in a new chick you will be over her.


gl

Remember:

I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough, and Doggone It, People Like Me!

 

[Agent 0659]

I told you it was like a soap opera around here.

Dear fukcing Abbie!

:shrug:


Best of luck with everything Tpaine, remember RAYMONDS signature line, tough people last but tough times don't.

You will be fine bro....

 

[Lucy11]

waste of money for this situation...

I disagree. Some plans you could see a therapist for free or a meager co pay. Why not? If you have to pay straight out of pocket, no way.

 

[Agent 0659]

I disagree. Some plans you could see a therapist for free or a meager co pay. Why not? If you have to pay straight out of pocket, no way.

:mj07:

So essentially your mental health is worth around $300 to you?

Perfect!

:142smilie

 

[Nole]

Best of luck with everything Tpaine, remember RAYMONDS signature line, tough people last but tough times don't.

You will be fine bro....

Very nicely said Agent. Continued success at being such a nice fellow.

I'm really liking what I'm seeing.


Mom





























My bad.


nole

 

[Cie]

Whats my problem? (rant/vent)

From over here it appears that you have recently cut out all contact with your "problem".