Why oh why did I give her a second chance.......

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Ok, ok, ok, I can hear it now. "I told you so!" First off, please, I know the mistake I made, and do not need to hear that right now. For those following my soap opera saga of a relationship, well, it took a turn for the worse late last nite. She, my ex, lives under me in the same apartment building, and well, last nite she came upstairs right as I was getting home, and basically met me at the door. Trying to be the strong male I wanted to be, I tried resisting her, but the liquor and outfit she was wearing was just too much. To make a long story short, we somehow worked things out late last nite, some stuff happened, and well, woke up this morning back together.
Well, I knew I made a mistake saying id give her a 2nd chance, after she told me she was a fickle woman, that she wasnt thinking clearly the other nite, yada, yada, yada. Well the day went great, hung out, did whatever, and I get a call from a buddy about 5pm and he needed some guys to come over and help him move. So i go over to the buddies place and help him move until about 10pm tonite. I get home, call her b/c she told me earlier to call her when I got in, and she didnt answer. She finally calls me about 10:20 as she is on her way home. I ask where she was tonite and she says over at a friends house hanging out.

So I go downstairs to her apartment when she gets home, and we start talking about what we did this evening. I tell her I helped a buddy move all nite, and that I had a job offer in dallas---or a tentative one tonite. (I did, but not a concrete-solid one) But to test her, I say that I may transfer to Dallas if I take the job--and she immediately says, "Yea, I think that would be best for you." Suspiciously, I agree and then ask her why she answered so firmly so fast--and she said "I dont know, i just want the best for you." Not feeling quite right, I ask her if who all was over there at her friend's tonite, and who do you think was there? Yes, that DUDE!!!! Now im pissed, wondering why the heck I even talked to her Saturday nite, and ask her straight up if she is 100% solid in her feelings that she wants to be with only me and no one else---and she says she thinks so. I get pissed off, start putting my shoes on to leave, and she starts balling, saying she doesnt know what she feels, that its her time of the month, and that she just has an infatuation for this guy. I told her to go date him, and that Im outta her life, and she said that she didnt want to date him because he didnt like her anyway and that she would regret it in the end. So i leave as she is sobbing, and I can honestly say FOR GOOD! I learned my lesson, was burned by going back, and can say im not going back EVER! Sheesh, what was I thinking last night........:rolleyes:
 

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Well, though it hurts now, Im glad it happened when we were still dating and not when we were married and had children. Ive got to move out of here, (i live directly above her and this just aint gonna work out) and it looks like Im headed to sunny southern California---Los Angeles!:D Honestly I cant wait, just gotta find a jobby job now and ill be out there in a heartbeat!

Also, thanks everyone for the advice in my earlier post, I really appreciate it:)
 

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WHOAH! SSIPROOP! Are you from Canoga Park, Ca? Thats where Im headed!:D I just inherited a house out there, and thought id head out there and see how life in Cali is! My address is in Canoga Park, but sometimes it comes up as Winnetka, do you know what that is all about? Know any cool things to do in the area?
 

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UT-Longhorn said:
WHOAH! SSIPROOP! Are you from Canoga Park, Ca? Thats where Im headed!:D I just inherited a house out there, and thought id head out there and see how life in Cali is! My address is in Canoga Park, but sometimes it comes up as Winnetka, do you know what that is all about? Know any cool things to do in the area?

Canoga Park is on the west side of DeSoto and Winnetka is on the east side of DeSoto. In the last few years the houses in that area have gone from 150,000 to 300,000.

As far as cool things, that would be something from the past that I vaguely remember. Married w/child tends to kill the cool things experience.

Not sure what type of cool things you are into but here are some:

Six Flags Magic Mountain about 40 minutes

Disneyland about 60 minutes

Knotts Berry Farm about 60 minutes

Numerous Golf Courses

Santa Monica about 30 minutes

Venice same about 30 minutes

Numerous Mountain Bike Trails (Santa Monica Mountains)

Sports Bars too many to name.

Pretty much has all the same crap every other city has.
 

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Hey guys, I'm right in the neighborhood. UT, let me know when you arrive and we'll all get together for a welcome to Cali drink.

Sorry about the girl, but we have a few out here. ;)
 

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I hear it's normal to have THAT attraction to your ex, and I'm sorry you are put through this.
You could put "on the dog" tonight, and really impress her,,get her in bed one more time, and THEN,,tell her you are moving.
This time it's on your terms. Is this right? Probably not, but man, it might just make you feel better.:D
 

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EMJ32 said:
Hey guys, I'm right in the neighborhood. UT, let me know when you arrive and we'll all get together for a welcome to Cali drink.

Sorry about the girl, but we have a few out here. ;)

Hey EMJ32! Ill definately let you know when I arrive. My house is right off of Roscoe/De Soto. (I think thats it, Its the next main lite north of Sherman Way/ Desoto) Now its time to go find a jobby job!:) Know anyone hiring in the Valley? Worse comes to worse ill sack groceries, or do whatever, just to have a job when I get out there at first...........
 

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I missed the earlier installments of this story. But I wish you the best of luck and encourage you to get out and stay out. Don't be tempted by a screwed up person, and don't believe that they will change. They won't until they finally lose something truly important to them and wake up...if they ever come to that point. Trust me. Someone who screws around on you once will do it again, and again, and claim confusion or their period or whatever...you don't need it.

Personally, I repeatedly broke up with and went back to an alcoholic for about a year and a half. Every time she promised she would stop drinking. And every time I came back she was getting bombed again within a week or two. She had a choice between me and booze. She's now got all the time she wants for her booze without me meddling.

Cheers.
 

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One thing I have to ask.............did you punish her when she came over? I mean after some events like this you may be entitled to a Good Ole Grudge F#@cking! You know............the best sex you ever gave her so she knows what she is giving up?

It's Really none of my business but damn that would be a juicy way to end your saga! The last Hoorah and then off to Cali.........See ya Beeeeaaatch! Honk Honk! :D
 

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UT,
is her name mary?
you know, I didn't read the earlier posts but I can say with some confidence that living above your ex may not be the best idea in the whole world. Have you tried nailing one or more of her friends? It won't solve anything, but hell, it'll be fun to watch the feathers fly when she finds out.
 

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welcome to life,stay out of that orange county jail house not a nice place to visit!:brows:
 

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Re: Why oh why did I give her a second chance.......

UT-Longhorn said:
and she said that she didnt want to date him because he didnt like her anyway


That is one messed up statement. She is saying that she wants this guy, but since he doesn't want her, she may SETTLE for you.

Fug that, I would put this biitch in her place and pay her little friend a visit too.
 

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UT, The next stoplight north of Sherman Way is actually Saticoy, and then Roscoe. I drive by that area on the way to work.

What type of work are you looking for? What's your resume look like?
 

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EMJ32 said:
UT, The next stoplight north of Sherman Way is actually Saticoy, and then Roscoe. I drive by that area on the way to work.

What type of work are you looking for? What's your resume look like?

Hey, EMJ, I looked on the Map tonite, and the actual street my house is on is Leadwell, two or three blocks east of DeSoto near the Desoto/Saticoy intersection..........

My Resume? Well, its not too long or lengthy seeing that Im only 24 and recently out of college, but here is a short time line of whats on there---

Univ of Texas grad Major Psychology Minor- Business Admin

1994-1997 Started a landscape and design company and grew it to the 2nd largest of its kind in the county I lived in(next to Dallas County)

1998-2002- Legal assistant for a law firm specializing in Corporate Law

5/2002-9/2002--Started another company--this time with a buddy in the home repair and remodeling industry--sold off my share in September after not seeing eye to eye with the other co-owner

10/1/2002 to present--Finance Consultant with a Software Company--on the bottom level needless to say


What am I looking for? ANYTHING......seriously, ill do just about anything available......Im easy to please when it comes to a job, as long as it pays the bills..........why, got any leads?

:)

shoot me an email if you'd like---

uthustler@yahoo.com
 

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hey UT,
sorry bout the bitch, thats life tho, live and learn.

Like i told ya in the other thread, go on ahead and take some scissors and snip them twin boys off and mail them to me and I will hold onto them for you for a bit. keep ya outta trouble ya know.
Let me know when you think you have earned them back.

:D
 
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