Ferdville,
Any (and all) advice is always welcome.
A little more insight might help. We work at the same location, although we now have different shifts. She used to have this real "hard ass" attitude about everything. When I told a co-worker I was seriously going to ask her out for a drink she had the "why in the hell would you want to go out with that bitch" attitude. A friend of hers said "no way will she go out with you, you're too much a gentleman". As my handle implies, I'm as average as one can be. Very laid back (some say I have no pulse), am considered "safe" by women (not a horndog) and, yes, a gentleman. Well, despite what the co-workers said, I asked her out anyway, and she accepted. The "hard ass" attitude seen at work wasn't seen at all. I asked her how much I actually knew about her, and was told "about 1%". If I wanted to know more about her, just ask....she would answer anything. So over the months, ask I did! That's how I found out about the 5 year abusive relationship (which was the hardest question I asked, and an answer I really didn't want to know).
Nicest thing I've done for her? Last year, on the night before Easter, I was near her apartment. I phoned to see if she was home and said I'd be over in 20 minutes. I stopped by a store and bought her one of those $20.00 Easter baskets with all the useless kids stuff in it, and told her to meet me outside. She (and the kids) were outside waiting. When I gave her the basket, she sort of looked surprised, said nobody ever gave her an easter basket before, and ran upstairs. I stayed in the car for a few minutes, and her oldest son come down and wanted to know why I made his mom cry........ so, yeah, I guess I occasionally do the right thing.
"Joe"
