Can you still be friends after dating

[peddler1]

A friend of mine and I have been having a conversation about dating. There is a lady that really wants to go out with me and we have been great friends for a couple of years. We can go out and have a great time and talk for hours. My problem is I am afraid if we go out on a real date that if it doesn't work we will loose the close friendship we have now.
Has anyone ever been in this situation before? If you did and it didn't work where you able to be friends the way you where before ?
:shrug: :shrug:

 

[THE KOD]

If your not physically attracted to her forget it.

And if you were attracted to her , seems like you would have already asked her out after 2 yrs.

If you go out with her and it don't work out well, forget the friendship back as normal . Its over.

Been there done that one.

 

[Morris]

You said you go out with her and talk for several hours? Isn't that a date? You've known her for several years and you're still wondering? I think you answered your own question.

Signed,
Dear Abby

 

[tpaine07]

It all depends on what kind of person the girl is. I just got out of a 16 month relationship and my ex has a hard time talking to me, says it makes her feel bad and such. Most girls are like this and just need to cut all ties. Seeing that you have become great friends with her, if you try to date and it doesn't work, Im guessing you can still remain friends, but maybe not to the same degree. If you were make it work for a long time, then breakup, probably not so much.

 

[SixFive]

Jerry and Elaine always remained great friends, so I think it can be done. If you are attracted to her, go out. If not, why bother? :shrug:

 

[The Sponge]

Every girl i had as a friend in the back of my mine i wanted to think of a way to get in her drawers. How can you hang out with a girl and not have those feelings? I don't care how good a friend she is. Come to think of it i had a lot of good friends that were girls and all of them were soft on the eyes. Seems kinda strange i never had a friend as a girl that needed a check up from the neck up. Christ im shallow.

 

[lawtchan]

BANG HER!!!:142hump: :142hump: :142hump:

 

[Jinxbreaker]

Keep Her as a Good Friend and BANG all her friends!!

 

[fatdaddycool]

You can go out and talk with her for hours? ....................seriously.............hours?............ Is she a dude? ............No matter..................bang her and find a new friend..............then bang that one too.....................talk for hours............unreal...............who the hell talks to a girl for hours?????? What do you guys do ........talk about your innermost feelings.........what a hump.............bang her just to reclaim whats left of your manhood there Janice.

The only woman I eeeeever talked to for an hour was my maid and thats because she couldn't speak english and I couldn't say menage trois in spanish.

 

[Jayhawk_Thor]

If you haven't fvcked, you can remain friends.


If you have fvcked, you can't.


It really is that simple.


So in response to your question, if you go on a couple of dates and there is nothing physical but it doesn't work out... yes you can resume being friends.



For the record I would try to fvck her anyhow and ramble. But that's just me.

 

[Franky Wright]

Post a picture, then we will give you the 5-cent advice:mj07:



:fit01:

 

[Old School]

Keep Her as a Good Friend and BANG all her friends!!

The one and only way to handle the situation.

just might be the best piece of advise to any casual question in the history of MADJACK

 

[peddler1]

My female friend and I became friends after I went through my second divorce. (We knew each other before but never really talked much) She had also been in a failed relationship.
I have my own business and run a ranch. I got her to come out and do some contract work for me. From there our friendship just got stronger. We both have horses and ride together any time we get a chance. There are alot of things that we have in common. If anyone would of ever told me I would have a female as a close friend I wouldn't have believed it. Yes I am attracted to her. Yes I do want to be with her. My thing is I am bad at relationships. I work alot of hours and I enjoy it. That is what ruined my marriage. I wasn't around to give the love and support that they needed. I am just scared that I will blow it. I have never carried so much about someone else. I am a risk taker. This is a risk I am just not sure i want to take. I wouldn't do anything intentionally to hurt her but i will admit I don't want to loose her as a friend.

I have went out with a few women the past couple of years but when I am with them and I am thinking of her. I know she has went out with a couple of other guys and I think it is the same for her.

 

[THE KOD]

:s6:

then nothing more needs to be said.

Hog tie her and get a ring on that finger.

 

[WhatsHisNuts]

Peddler: Relationships evolve, both for the good and the bad. It's the same reason you don't hang around the same people you did 10 years ago. When you are dealing with people over time, thoughts and interests change. Your relationship with this woman is developing into something new. It will either be better or worse than it was before, but it will never be the same. You only live once, and sounds like you know yourself pretty well.....tell her what you are thinking and see what happens.

Good luck.

 

[DBLMUTZ]

You can go out and talk with her for hours? ....................seriously.............hours?............ Is she a dude? ............No matter..................bang her and find a new friend..............then bang that one too.....................talk for hours............unreal...............who the hell talks to a girl for hours?????? What do you guys do ........talk about your innermost feelings.........what a hump.............bang her just to reclaim whats left of your manhood there Janice.

The only woman I eeeeever talked to for an hour was my maid and thats because she couldn't speak english and I couldn't say menage trois in spanish.

I have to agree fat,I'm sure she has'nt told you everything:142smilie Let the fun begin.....

 

[StevieD]

You talk for hours, she's your friend. I do not see the problem here in taking it to the next step,except possibly one you are making in your mind. After 32 years of marriage my wife is still my best friend.

 

[MadJack]

My female friend and I became friends after I went through my second divorce. (We knew each other before but never really talked much) She had also been in a failed relationship.
I have my own business and run a ranch. I got her to come out and do some contract work for me. From there our friendship just got stronger. We both have horses and ride together any time we get a chance. There are alot of things that we have in common. If anyone would of ever told me I would have a female as a close friend I wouldn't have believed it. Yes I am attracted to her. Yes I do want to be with her. My thing is I am bad at relationships. I work alot of hours and I enjoy it. That is what ruined my marriage. I wasn't around to give the love and support that they needed. I am just scared that I will blow it. I have never carried so much about someone else. I am a risk taker. This is a risk I am just not sure i want to take. I wouldn't do anything intentionally to hurt her but i will admit I don't want to loose her as a friend.

I have went out with a few women the past couple of years but when I am with them and I am thinking of her. I know she has went out with a couple of other guys and I think it is the same for her.

tell your friend the same thing you just posted. let things fall where they fall. don't let her get away or fall in love with someone else or you will think about her for the rest of your life.

date her more seriously and see what happens. hold off on the 'sex' part for awhile and tell HER why you want to hold that part off, "because you don't want to lose her as a friend".

if you break up the serious relationship, that i think you really want, it's over, done, caput, and that's most likely how you will want it too.

merry christmas!

 

[peddler1]

Thanks all for your comments. Right or wrong I am going to have a talk with her and ask her out. I was in Rodeo for 17 years and I cant remember being as nervous as I am now.
If it is meant to be we will find out.

Everyone have a Merry Christmas !!

 

[Blackman]

Thanks all for your comments. Right or wrong I am going to have a talk with her and ask her out. I was in Rodeo for 17 years and I cant remember being as nervous as I am now.
If it is meant to be we will find out.

Everyone have a Merry Christmas !!

Good luck -- you're doing the right thing.