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I think there are two main reasons why people get turned off from religion, in general.
1. Overbearing parents (or other guardian) shoveling "their" beliefs and not allowing their child/young adult to come to grips with their own faith.
2. A bad event happening to a good person whom they care about.
There are other reasons, but from my experience these are the two leading causes. I think if either one of the above two events applies to someone, they become very jaded and are only able to see the bad side of organized religion. This is where I was in my early to mid twenties.
On the first cause, it is extremely difficult to get past that one. Very similar to other damaging events that occurred in childhood. The second is also hard to get past because you have either lost a loved one or that loved one is in a state where you hardly recognize the relationship.
There is a really good "old Chinese proverb" (
- pulling out the heavy artillery!) that I will post about this. It sums up how I feel.
The basic premise is that there is no such thing as a good event or bad event. Life is simply filled with events. How we react to them and use them moving forward is how we define ourselves.
I will post the story when I get back home.
I think the first cause listed above is very applicable to marine's story. It doesn't sound like it is the religion that he despises, it seems that it is the people that he identifies with that religion. His experience while in the service seems like an extremely positive experience in his life. I can almost guarantee that you would be able to find a similar experience wherever you live. Maybe find another church service?
When anyone gets comfortable with their own faith, I think others over-bearing ways slide off unnoticed. I struggle with this often when I come across another Catholic who tries to force their beliefs on everyone and basically judge anyone who disagrees. Then I just have to realize that their "opinion" really doesn't affect me.
1. Overbearing parents (or other guardian) shoveling "their" beliefs and not allowing their child/young adult to come to grips with their own faith.
2. A bad event happening to a good person whom they care about.
There are other reasons, but from my experience these are the two leading causes. I think if either one of the above two events applies to someone, they become very jaded and are only able to see the bad side of organized religion. This is where I was in my early to mid twenties.
On the first cause, it is extremely difficult to get past that one. Very similar to other damaging events that occurred in childhood. The second is also hard to get past because you have either lost a loved one or that loved one is in a state where you hardly recognize the relationship.
There is a really good "old Chinese proverb" (
The basic premise is that there is no such thing as a good event or bad event. Life is simply filled with events. How we react to them and use them moving forward is how we define ourselves.
I will post the story when I get back home.
I think the first cause listed above is very applicable to marine's story. It doesn't sound like it is the religion that he despises, it seems that it is the people that he identifies with that religion. His experience while in the service seems like an extremely positive experience in his life. I can almost guarantee that you would be able to find a similar experience wherever you live. Maybe find another church service?
When anyone gets comfortable with their own faith, I think others over-bearing ways slide off unnoticed. I struggle with this often when I come across another Catholic who tries to force their beliefs on everyone and basically judge anyone who disagrees. Then I just have to realize that their "opinion" really doesn't affect me.