finding a good woman in todays world...

[tpaine07]

Im not gonna lie, this is some real good advice. My ex who I dated for almost 2 years had a bad relationship with her parents. Her mom and her faught alot and her dad was never around and hardly spoke to me in 2 years.


I don't really want a relationship, just the pool of girls I know for the most part and would attempt to date are garbage. I guess the only solution is to meet new girls which shouldn't be too hard. I like the idea of dating a bunch of girls to figure out I like and don't like, that should be pretty helpful.

thanks for the advice guys, i really appreciate it.
MJ rules.

 

[PharoahUB]

So most of you remember my post several months ago about my long term girlfriend turning into trash. Well I no longer speak to her and it is going well. There are pro's and con's to being in a relationship as all of you know. I am having a great time just doing whatever I want and not having to be committed/explain what im doing to anyone. However, I was just thinking as our world envolves it seems like it will be harder and harder for people of my generation to find a companion.


As of right now, forcing a relationship or even dating isnt something I am interested in unless I somehow stumble across someone great. I'm a firm believer that if you go around looking for a girlfriend, ect you're not going to get anywhere, you have to just go out and have a good time and if you find someone worth it you can make an effort.

I feel as though now a days, the females are just mostly whores,golddiggers or just overall shitty individuals. Now I am sure this isnt the case for all of them, but as our MTV unmannered/superficial generation gets older thats all I'm seeing out there.


I was just wondering what some of you guys around my age (21) think about this issue and how some of you older guys feel as well. It seems like no longer being a good person/gentleman gets you anywhere with todays ladies as opposed to the past.

I'm 22 and I know exactly what your talking about. I don't post much but had to put my two cents in.

I've dated my fair share of girls throughout college and for the most part all girls are shit. I've tried them all - party girls, nerdy girls, smart hippy girls, graduate school girls, peppy girls, down-to-earth girls, girls who have been through rough times, girls who were spoiled by their daddy, and everything imbetween.

If they're good-looking they'll cheat on you or at least flaunt it in your face. If your lucky and have a good-looking one who would never cheat on you (like I have right now) they usually have some sort of addictive personality where they have to be around you 24/7 and then you get sick of them.

A lot of the older people here chirped in with their two cents, and given some good advice, but at the same time I think the landscape has changed a lot. There are few if any good girls out there anymore. The only girls you can date that are usually any good are the churchy girls and then those girls are usually psycho religious and have weird incest crushes on their fathers.

What happened to a girls night out meant going to see a movie, not putting on a couple strands of clothes and grinding with every guy that looks their way. My g/f's in the past have looked at me like I'm a jealous psycho if I question whether they are out dancing with other guys when they come home wearing next to nothing.

Maybe movies glorified how good girls were in the olden days and I'm talking out of my ass. Who knows.

I haven't found anyone good yet either tpaine. Problem is once I'm done with grad school and am making good money I'm sure a lot of "good girls" will come out of the wood work- but they'll all be gold diggers so who gives a shit about them.

Sorry this probably didn't lift your spirits at all.

Do you have any girls in the past- maybe from high school that you know are good girls? I have a few that I can remember and they'll probably be getting a call whenever I feel like settling down.

 

[SixFive]

I've hung with many "church girls" who weren't psycho and had all kinds of fun. Different strokes I guess??

If I had it all over to do again, I would realize one important thing that I know now that I didn't know then. The girls are as nervous and probably MORE nervous than you are in the "asking out" area. If one says no, bfd and move on. If you're not a smelly jerk, most will give u a shot. One more thing, lots of them have a "boyfriend" who's away. That's usually a bs cover.

 

[tpaine07]

I'm 22 and I know exactly what your talking about. I don't post much but had to put my two cents in.

I've dated my fair share of girls throughout college and for the most part all girls are shit. I've tried them all - party girls, nerdy girls, smart hippy girls, graduate school girls, peppy girls, down-to-earth girls, girls who have been through rough times, girls who were spoiled by their daddy, and everything imbetween.

If they're good-looking they'll cheat on you or at least flaunt it in your face. If your lucky and have a good-looking one who would never cheat on you (like I have right now) they usually have some sort of addictive personality where they have to be around you 24/7 and then you get sick of them.

A lot of the older people here chirped in with their two cents, and given some good advice, but at the same time I think the landscape has changed a lot. There are few if any good girls out there anymore. The only girls you can date that are usually any good are the churchy girls and then those girls are usually psycho religious and have weird incest crushes on their fathers.

What happened to a girls night out meant going to see a movie, not putting on a couple strands of clothes and grinding with every guy that looks their way. My g/f's in the past have looked at me like I'm a jealous psycho if I question whether they are out dancing with other guys when they come home wearing next to nothing.

Maybe movies glorified how good girls were in the olden days and I'm talking out of my ass. Who knows.

I haven't found anyone good yet either tpaine. Problem is once I'm done with grad school and am making good money I'm sure a lot of "good girls" will come out of the wood work- but they'll all be gold diggers so who gives a shit about them.

Sorry this probably didn't lift your spirits at all.

Do you have any girls in the past- maybe from high school that you know are good girls? I have a few that I can remember and they'll probably be getting a call whenever I feel like settling down.

Yup, you pretty much hit it right on the head Pharoah. Do you play hockey by any chance or just a Sabres fan? Anyways, I agree with basically everything you are saying, especially about if the girl knowing shes attractive, shes going to cheat or just act like shes betting than you and everyone else. I played the field a ton in HS, but never really came across any great girls, I still keep in touch with a lot of them, but they almost all fall into the categories we spoke about.


I guess we just keep wheeling until we find someone thats worth it, thats basically all there is to do. Problem is i'd rather not meet any girls that meet ones that turn out to be trash, but I guess you need to experience those kinds of things in life to find what you really want.

 

[IE]

from someone who is 50 and still single, my advice can be heeded as bs and crap...

BUT my best advice is to develop a 95 mph fastball to go along with a 90 mph slider and able to throw both over the plate.

the rest will take care of itself....

 

[yyz]

If you're 21, don't even waste your time trying to find a "relationship". You are way too young, and she will be too.

The thing is......while sticking your pork pole in some co-ed, you are bound to "fall in love". You will think you're all mature and shit, and settle down. You might even buy a ring!

As you push the late twenties (and more important, SHE pushes them!), the two of you will wonder why the hell you are tied to one set of genitals when you are attracted to about 25-50!

So.......it winds up being a bad scene.

Then you bunny hump a few hose beasts after the break up, and feel like a new man again. Of course......soon, you repeat the hook up. Now, in your thirties, you think you found the "real deal".

Maybe yes......probably not. This time you have more financial shit to fork over, and most likely a kid or two to bounce back and forth. Yeah.....that's a real treat! So, this catch will be with you in some way/shape/form for the rest of your life.

Now, you can scoot out of your thirties, and skid into the forties! Now, you should be able to find some weathered bitch who's just about as sick of life as you are. Make sure she's no booze hound! You don't need that headache! AND, you want to try to make sure she's the only name on that tax return. You don't need some 16 year old smart fuk telling you to "fuk off" every other day.

So, I guess what I'm saying is.......Fuk serious dating for about another 20 years. Buy yourself a nice house, enjoy doing whatever the hell YOU want to do with YOUR time. Spend YOUR money on what YOU want, etc..........You will have plenty of time to settle down later in life.

 

[AR182]

If you're 21, don't even waste your time trying to find a "relationship". You are way too young, and she will be too.

The thing is......while sticking your pork pole in some co-ed, you are bound to "fall in love". You will think you're all mature and shit, and settle down. You might even buy a ring!

As you push the late twenties (and more important, SHE pushes them!), the two of you will wonder why the hell you are tied to one set of genitals when you are attracted to about 25-50!

So.......it winds up being a bad scene.

Then you bunny hump a few hose beasts after the break up, and feel like a new man again. Of course......soon, you repeat the hook up. Now, in your thirties, you think you found the "real deal".

Maybe yes......probably not. This time you have more financial shit to fork over, and most likely a kid or two to bounce back and forth. Yeah.....that's a real treat! So, this catch will be with you in some way/shape/form for the rest of your life.

Now, you can scoot out of your thirties, and skid into the forties! Now, you should be able to find some weathered bitch who's just about as sick of life as you are. Make sure she's no booze hound! You don't need that headache! AND, you want to try to make sure she's the only name on that tax return. You don't need some 16 year old smart fuk telling you to "fuk off" every other day.

So, I guess what I'm saying is.......Fuk serious dating for about another 20 years. Buy yourself a nice house, enjoy doing whatever the hell YOU want to do with YOUR time. Spend YOUR money on what YOU want, etc..........You will have plenty of time to settle down later in life.

i wish i had this advice when i was younger....:142smilie

 

[saint]

perfect women

perfect women

 

[vinnie]

You are 21. You should enjoy all those young whores to the fullest at this time.

Plenty of freakin time to be w/ Mrs. Right & all settled down later.

THAT FOR SHOULD !

 

[vinnie]

Pug, good stuff (esp the grocery store part)

Stay away from the ones with beer in their cart :scared

 

[Glferboy21]

tpaine,

I am also 21. I had similar problems my first 2 years of college, I even dated a "nice girl" who ended up being crazy. The girls in college want to party, have guys around, occasionally hook up with one, but DO NOT want serious relationships. I take that back... a very very few are mature enough for it.

So my last year I stopped looking and just had a good time. It was so much more fun, and the women will like you more with no expectations. My suggestion would be to just continue to have fun man and don't try with these girls, and just let it kind of flow.

I am now graduated and working in a different city, and the women are a lot older. The one thing I have really noticed is how much more the good girls want a good geniune guy as they get older. From what I have seen so far about the age of 24 is the best age to start looking for a girl to get think about getting serious with. I could be totally off on this, but they are starting to really want to have boyfriends. So for now just live life, we are only young once.

 

[2muchchalk]

i say

i say

in your early 20's is the time to date girls you want to fuk not girls your necessarily want to bring home to meet your mom. One of these girls (hopefully there is plenty) you will eventually want to bring home to mom. it does happen. I say go out and get laid and figure it out from there.

 

[fatdaddycool]

I was tootin some ole Navy gal in the mud whistle when I was 21 and never even thought about any kind of relationship. I dated a Jewish girl after her and she would let me touch her tits for a Valium so that didn't last long. After that I pretty much floated through as many a I could. I finally settled on one but she turned out to have thirteen personalities, twelve of which hated my guts, and the thirteenth apparently liked someone else so I enjoy being single. I don't know how big my dating pool is but I know one thing, if that bitch gets in it.................. shes gettin hit, maybe in the starfish.
Hope this helps,
FDC

 

[Dr. Fade]

I was tootin some ole Navy gal in the mud whistle when I was 21 and never even thought about any kind of relationship. I dated a Jewish girl after her and she would let me touch her tits for a Valium so that didn't last long. After that I pretty much floated through as many a I could. I finally settled on one but she turned out to have thirteen personalities, twelve of which hated my guts, and the thirteenth apparently liked someone else so I enjoy being single. I don't know how big my dating pool is but I know one thing, if that bitch gets in it.................. shes gettin hit, maybe in the starfish.
Hope this helps,
FDC

:mj07: That was classic LMFAO

 

[hawkeye]

Waiting for some of our gal posters to chime in on this one!

 

[kellyindallas]

All right, here's one gal's opinion. There are classes of all types of women, just as there are men.

Who do you hang around, what kind of friends do you keep? It's more a 'class' issue than anything else. If you hang around trashy, low-class women, that's what you're going to find. I get SO tired of hearing ALL women are this, or ALL women are that. As an attorney, I make plenty of money, usually more than or equal to whomever I am dating. NONE of my female friends are golddiggers or represent any of the 'type' that you are talking about. Do they exist? Certainly. My advice would be to volunteer or join a club where you are more likely to meet quality people with similar interests and values. Not a club or a bar, what do you think you're going to find there? Church is another good place, if you're into that (which I know you've stated that you aren't). There are a million singles clubs or such that you could join. If you like the outdoors or sports, join one of those activity clubs. If you're in college, you're already hanging around a little higher class people. It's all in who you associate with. You men that claim that women are all trashy golddiggers are not hanging out with the right types. Finally, what do YOU offer? How are YOU representing yourself and what you have to offer? Think about that as well. There are plenty of GREAT women out there just as there are men, you just have to look in the right places to find them.

 

[IntenseOperator]

Kelly

we need pics

 

[kellyindallas]

HA! At 37, though I do keep myself in excellent shape, I think you'd be better off looking at the pics in the mojo forum.

Hell, even I am impressed by some of those. I peeked once to see what y'all were getting so excited over!

 

[MadJack]

I peeked once

uh huh

 

[auspice2]

I was going to run a personal ad once but couldn't decide if 'vicodin and beer' was a hobby or an interest.

Trouble with being 56 is the women that want to go out with you don't excite you in the least. And the younger girls that will go out with you are in a foreign country and charge by the hour.