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[JOSHNAUDI]

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Thanks Fellas and thanks for the Green Comments - I really appreciate that.


Hopefully Mully hasn't been back because he is out doing some fun stuff with the kiddos. Let's keep those positive thoughts heading his way. If he wasn't man enough to be as honest with all of us, I'm not sure I would have been.


But to be fair, if we continue to not have any luck, I will add all 6 of y'all to the surrogate sperm donor lottery.

 

[fatdaddycool]

Thanks Fellas and thanks for the Green Comments - I really appreciate that.


Hopefully Mully hasn't been back because he is out doing some fun stuff with the kiddos. Let's keep those positive thoughts heading his way. If he wasn't man enough to be as honest with all of us, I'm not sure I would have been.


But to be fair, if we continue to not have any luck, I will add all 6 of y'all to the surrogate sperm donor lottery.

Let me know if you want to ring out my Geronimo sock again.



Hope this helps,
FDC

 

[Mully]

I've always liked you as a poster and think you're a pretty cool guy. My advice to you is stop being weak, you're not only hurting yourself you're hurting your family and friends who love you. I've been there before with the drugs, alcohol, and drinking and it's no good. You can kick these nasty habits, you just have to DO IT! I want to see a post six months from now telling us MJ'ers how well you're doing and don't upset us with more of this bullshit (YOU CAN DO IT!!!)

kneifl

Thanks SO MUCH kneifl.

I've always liked you too and you are 100% correct. It's just so fuckin hard this time. The withdrawl is too much to handle and I just cant take a week or two off work to check in somewhere. I even reached out to my wife today to tell her how bad it was. Even texted her from work sayin I was dizzy and out of it and my hands were numb. When I got home she asked why I was being so mean to her...I got pissed, left and went to drink. I mean FUCK really? I get home and she tells me I need to stop. NO SHIT!!! ZERO SUPPORT FROM HOME.

 

[Wineguy]

Scott- u knowi didn't make it up.U posted that u took money from ur wifes purse to cover a bet,it was a four figure bet on the Raiders I believe. And yes,I'm the dirty scoundrel who has the nerve to believe Joker posts WAAAAYYYYYY too much and about WAAAAYYYYY to inane a subject matter and has changed the face of madjacks WAAAYYYYYY too much for my liking. It a free fucking country last time i checked Scott. I don't have to like joker. Kiss my Fucking Ass. If im ever in the same vicinity of u Scott I would lkick ur ass u mental midget point buying ignorant afterbirth!!!U posted that you took money from ur wifes purse,but as I remember you won the bet and never got caught or some such depravity...............Oh and Scott...............FUCK YOU

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[Wineguy]

Thanks SO MUCH kneifl.

I've always liked you too and you are 100% correct. It's just so fuckin hard this time. The withdrawl is too much to handle and I just cant take a week or two off work to check in somewhere. I even reached out to my wife today to tell her how bad it was. Even texted her from work sayin I was dizzy and out of it and my hands were numb. When I got home she asked why I was being so mean to her...I got pissed, left and went to drink. I mean FUCK really? I get home and she tells me I need to stop. NO SHIT!!! ZERO SUPPORT FROM HOME.

That has to be better than the alternative, no??? You have got to realize that.

Josh, great comments!!!!!

 

[Wineguy]

Let me know if you want to ring out my Geronimo sock again.



Hope this helps,
FDC

Someone please help us if it comes to that :facepalm:

 

[Mully]

Mully

My wife and I have tried, unsuccessfully, to start a family for the past few years. It breaks my heart to look at her, knowing what she has gone through, and not be able to provide to her the one thing she wants. When I saw this post, I thought of one of yours. It has 6 replies and 600 views, not epic by any standards, but it stuck out to me because you were being an awesome Dad doing what I hope I would do with my son and daughter around the house. Having a great time.

I have an addictive personality as well. I smoked for 18 years and then put them down 2 and a half years ago to better help my chance of starting a family. I have failed in the family department but I am smoke free because I learned that I could apply my addictive qualities to more than just bad vices. I found new positive things to lay in bed and think about. Fuck sleep, I'd rather focus on my sperm count, golf swing, softball swing, umpire technique, etc. on becoming the absolute best at it. Just like an addict, those things consumed me. I read books, faked taking shits at work, so I could get in a few more pages of whatever I was reading. Cause I was an addict.

Apply that kind of dedication to the one fucking thing I want - Be the best Dad ever. Lay in bed and think, what can I do with my kids that will put a smile on their faces and then go and do it. You're the guy that's in control and you're the guy that I envy and also hate, cause you already have everything I want, but you just take it for granted. Here ya go, the only motivational video you'll ever need. Good Luck Man

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I do take everything for granted....

You my friend are aces. I Will pray for you tonight to be blessed and get that family that you and youre wife deserve.

You would think that my kids would be enough... I'm in a bad way dude...

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR POST AND SUPPORT.

 

[Trampled Underfoot]

Thanks SO MUCH kneifl.

I've always liked you too and you are 100% correct. It's just so fuckin hard this time. The withdrawl is too much to handle and I just cant take a week or two off work to check in somewhere. I even reached out to my wife today to tell her how bad it was. Even texted her from work sayin I was dizzy and out of it and my hands were numb. When I got home she asked why I was being so mean to her...I got pissed, left and went to drink. I mean FUCK really? I get home and she tells me I need to stop. NO SHIT!!! ZERO SUPPORT FROM HOME.

Why have you not dumped your cheating wife? That should be step number one.

GL with the rest. I'm not mocking addictions. I was just lucky to never get hooked. I'm sure it's very difficult.

 

[Mr. Poon]

Thanks SO MUCH kneifl.

I've always liked you too and you are 100% correct. It's just so fuckin hard this time. The withdrawl is too much to handle and I just cant take a week or two off work to check in somewhere. I even reached out to my wife today to tell her how bad it was. Even texted her from work sayin I was dizzy and out of it and my hands were numb. When I got home she asked why I was being so mean to her...I got pissed, left and went to drink. I mean FUCK really? I get home and she tells me I need to stop. NO SHIT!!! ZERO SUPPORT FROM HOME.

I am in no way a counselor or qualified in the least bit to give advice on this subject, however what you posted here stuck out to me, and figure here are my $0.02.

When the topic of addictions gets brought up, 'enablers' is often a cause for relapse. What you describe above seems to fall along the same lines. No its not a buddy that has similar vices and when you hang out with him you fall into the same ol' rut. Instead it is the fact that there is no support at home for you and the issue at hand. As tough as it may be removing yourself from that situation may be needed. Again, easy for me to say not having to go through it.

You also mentioned you can't miss that much time from work. Not sure how big of a company you work at, but you may want to check with your HR to see what type of assistance they can provide. Even if it isn't a big company, many times through your insurance network there may be some basic services available to you.

 

[johnnyb.]

Hey man. We don't know each other, but you know any madjacker would help you if they could.

No sage advice to offer, and there is no easy fix, but you already know that.

Hang in there, sending some good vibes your way.

Feel the same way, +1.

 

[JOSHNAUDI]

I do take everything for granted....

You my friend are aces. I Will pray for you tonight to be blessed and get that family that you and youre wife deserve.

You would think that my kids would be enough... I'm in a bad way dude...

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR POST AND SUPPORT.

I know you are man. I know that inner struggle is a constant source of white noise in your head. It's hard to concentrate. Nobody understands your addiction and just about everything pisses you off.


Your goal has to be greater than the negative effects of withdrawal. Day 3 sucks, Day 21 sucks, Day 90 sucks, Day 120 not as bad, Day 180 even better. I can hang out with smokers now and not get the urge. I can't take a drag, not even one, because I'm an addict and if I do I will smoke 2 packs tomorrow and have to start all over again. Day 3 sucked so bad that I promised myself I would never go through it again.


My father died of Lung Cancer in 2004. I smoked until 2011. I tried to quit when he died but failed. Quitting smoking wouldn't bring him back. Now I have a new goal and it is greater than my addiction.


I shot you my contact info, feel free to get a hold of me. Yo VIP, Let's kick it.

 

[airportis]

Thanks SO MUCH kneifl.

I've always liked you too and you are 100% correct. It's just so fuckin hard this time. The withdrawl is too much to handle and I just cant take a week or two off work to check in somewhere. I even reached out to my wife today to tell her how bad it was. Even texted her from work sayin I was dizzy and out of it and my hands were numb. When I got home she asked why I was being so mean to her...I got pissed, left and went to drink. I mean FUCK really? I get home and she tells me I need to stop. NO SHIT!!! ZERO SUPPORT FROM HOME.

this is your life man. fuck your job. if the difference between you getting sober and being at your kids wedding one day or your kid not having her dad walk her down the aisle because he was an addict and OD'd is a few weeks off work, then fuck work.

you reached out to your wife and then got mad when she blew you off. what did you want your wife to do? shed probably be telling you all of the things people have already posted. would you listen to her?

man up and check yourself into a rehab where you can be taken care of properly. if for nobody else, do it for your kid. she deserves to have her dad around her whole life.

 

[The Boys]

Mully.........just a thought. If you are on a group health insurance plan some type of counseling might be available. Check with your health insurance provider by calling the 800 number on the back of your ID card and just ask. You never know what's available. Most quality plans have coverage for different addictions. Good luck.

 

[redsfann]

this is your life man. fuck your job. if the difference between you getting sober and being at your kids wedding one day or your kid not having her dad walk her down the aisle because he was an addict and OD'd is a few weeks off work, then fuck work.

you reached out to your wife and then got mad when she blew you off. what did you want your wife to do? shed probably be telling you all of the things people have already posted. would you listen to her?

man up and check yourself into a rehab where you can be taken care of properly. if for nobody else, do it for your kid. she deserves to have her dad around her whole life.

+1.

And Mully, I know a few addiction councilors in the area if you are interested.
One of your kids was born not long after or just before one of mine if I remember correctly.
If the thought of not being around to watch them grow up isn't enough for you to seek help....:shrug:

 

[hedgehog]

Why have you not dumped your cheating wife?

GL with the rest. I'm not mocking addictions. I was just lucky to never get hooked. I'm sure it's very difficult.

I agree with Trampled, leaving your wife is step number 1 in the process as hard as it may be.

And get PROFESSIONAL HELP even if that means leaving your job for a couple weeks to get clean and sober

you can do it Mully, I always liked your posts, best of luck...

 

[no pepper]

How the hell would you clowns know that divorcing his wife is the best path here? You do not have enough information to make that call. Mully stated that he doesn't blame her for fooling around. For all we know, Mully might have banged that barber chick and his wife was getting payback. With the innocence of young children at stake here I don't think that is the number one priority.

It will be difficult enough to taper off/cease the boozing and drugs. You spread a layer of divorce stress on top of that and it may be too tall of a mountain all at once. Maybe sobriety will heal the marriage. Maybe not. I am sure there is a lot more to this story.

Everyone keeps saying, "One step at a time." If the first step is to file for divorce and create a whole new set of chaos for this family, then the addictions will be even harder to kick. I hope nothing but the best for you Mully. Take care of yourself, man.

 

[hedgehog]

How the hell would you clowns know that divorcing his wife is the best path here? You do not have enough information to make that call. Mully stated that he doesn't blame her for fooling around. For all we know, Mully might have banged that barber chick and his wife was getting payback. With the innocence of young children at stake here I don't think that is the number one priority.

It will be difficult enough to taper off/cease the boozing and drugs. You spread a layer of divorce stress on top of that and it may be too tall of a mountain all at once. Maybe sobriety will heal the marriage. Maybe not. I am sure there is a lot more to this story.

Everyone keeps saying, "One step at a time." If the first step is to file for divorce and create a whole new set of chaos for this family, then the addictions will be even harder to kick. I hope nothing but the best for you Mully. Take care of yourself, man.

you are probably right not enough information to make that assumption. getting sober is goal number 1 then go from there

 

[The Mover]

Mully this is what they told me many years ago.

1 Cut the self-pity your wife is not your problem, if it isn't her you will find some reason to use kids,work,parents blah blah

2 Here is a guaranteed lock:

If you keep on doing what you're doing it will get worse.

Get some help not your wife, not Madjacks... get into a treatment center ( you need to be off the streets)

I wish you the best !

 

[Trampled Underfoot]

How the hell would you clowns know that divorcing his wife is the best path here? You do not have enough information to make that call. Mully stated that he doesn't blame her for fooling around. For all we know, Mully might have banged that barber chick and his wife was getting payback. With the innocence of young children at stake here I don't think that is the number one priority.

It will be difficult enough to taper off/cease the boozing and drugs. You spread a layer of divorce stress on top of that and it may be too tall of a mountain all at once. Maybe sobriety will heal the marriage. Maybe not. I am sure there is a lot more to this story.

Everyone keeps saying, "One step at a time." If the first step is to file for divorce and create a whole new set of chaos for this family, then the addictions will be even harder to kick. I hope nothing but the best for you Mully. Take care of yourself, man.

I barely know Mully. But I do know that I have read many different times on here about her being a cheater. That is enough. Get rid of her. He has no support system at all.

Obviously none of us know everything but I feel pretty confident that his wife is a huge fucking problem.

 

[rusty]

I like the reaching out to the pastor/church/fellowship of believers idea.The only problem is do you believe in God?No one can make you believe except God,no one else can.If you are a believer than seek a bible centered church that submits to Christs teachings.This can lead to a transformed life from the inside out.This is not an easy process and will take time,but with Christ at the center you can transform yourself.I did.I no longer gamble or do drugs.I can control my booze intake ,instead of my booze intake controlling me.In fact this is the first time I have visited this site in a long time and I came upon this thread .Who knows maybe God brought me here.Gl!