I hate life.
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Ding, ding, ding....We have a winnah!
3, pack a bag, find a nice beach full of pussy and have at it! It's like riding a bike, just with a new seat :mj06:
I wish I would have done this and was able to at the time, no kids, gave her everything but a business I sold.
Jamaica....
I wouldn't listen to family.....please do, they are the only ones with there heads on straight during your tough times. GL 3 Sec. time heals all wounds.
Ended up in The Keys 8 years later after bouncing around and i drink beer 7 days a week :toast: GL Man
Why is she still in the house?? She should be told to pack her shit and move to her boyfriends. She cheated so she should leave.
If it was me and she said she wasnt going right away I would be the biggest asshole she ever saw. Gauranteed she would be out in 3 days.
Time will heal the wounds so hang in there. Keep your head out of the bottle (at least till she is out of the house).
If it was me and she said she wasnt going right away I would be the biggest asshole she ever saw. Gauranteed she would be out in 3 days.
Time will heal the wounds so hang in there. Keep your head out of the bottle (at least till she is out of the house).
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no matter how much you love her or feel you f**cked up, Life itself is far more precious. You are on a journey and I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Who knows, maybe your TRUE soul mate is out there waiting for you. LIVE LIFE. You can only control what happens in the present. The past is gone and you really have no control on what the future may bring. Expect wonderful things and enjoy the rest of the ride. You are in my prayers 3s.
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no kids involved? be happy for that
aint nuthin but a bitch, theres plenty of them out there
fvck it...move on youll end up better off
aint nuthin but a bitch, theres plenty of them out there
fvck it...move on youll end up better off
Assuming you are looking for advice, I've got some that I think can help you.
If I were you, I would stop blaming myself. Regardless of what you said to her, you did not force her to sleep with, nor fall in love with, her brother's friend. I would bet this originated long before the fight 3 months ago. The sooner that you accept this, the sooner you will be able to let go.
Secondly, get her out of your house now. She is sleeping with another man, and has no right to be there. Until she leaves, please stay with friends or go to a htoel if possible. Staying with family is not a good idea imo, as they may have a tendancy to coddle you, which is not what a man needs in the situation. I am not saying to avoid your family, I am simply recommending not to live with relatives unless it's a male cousin or brother in your age group. No mothers, aunts, etc...
Do not drink alone!!!!!!! Go to happy hour wednesday and Thurday at your favorite watering hole. Monday and Tuesday is not a good day for picking up women due to volume concerns. If you used to hang there with your wife, there are likely to be some ladies there that you've met as a married man. Now, you can finally move on them.
Go out with your friends at night. Don't drink too much, as this can limit your ability to meet and engage women. Don't be afraid to take home a couple of mediocre chicks at first. This can only help your confidence, which appears to be low right now based on the tone of your posts.
I do not have experience with matchmaker sites because they sprung up after I was commited to my wife, but I would use them without shame. I know a quirky guy (being nice here) with odd tendancies. This guy has made many female companions using one of these sites. You have often mentioned that you make a nice living and have a post-graduate degree. With those attributes, there is no doubt that you will be successful using this type of service.
If I were you, I would stop blaming myself. Regardless of what you said to her, you did not force her to sleep with, nor fall in love with, her brother's friend. I would bet this originated long before the fight 3 months ago. The sooner that you accept this, the sooner you will be able to let go.
Secondly, get her out of your house now. She is sleeping with another man, and has no right to be there. Until she leaves, please stay with friends or go to a htoel if possible. Staying with family is not a good idea imo, as they may have a tendancy to coddle you, which is not what a man needs in the situation. I am not saying to avoid your family, I am simply recommending not to live with relatives unless it's a male cousin or brother in your age group. No mothers, aunts, etc...
Do not drink alone!!!!!!! Go to happy hour wednesday and Thurday at your favorite watering hole. Monday and Tuesday is not a good day for picking up women due to volume concerns. If you used to hang there with your wife, there are likely to be some ladies there that you've met as a married man. Now, you can finally move on them.
Go out with your friends at night. Don't drink too much, as this can limit your ability to meet and engage women. Don't be afraid to take home a couple of mediocre chicks at first. This can only help your confidence, which appears to be low right now based on the tone of your posts.
I do not have experience with matchmaker sites because they sprung up after I was commited to my wife, but I would use them without shame. I know a quirky guy (being nice here) with odd tendancies. This guy has made many female companions using one of these sites. You have often mentioned that you make a nice living and have a post-graduate degree. With those attributes, there is no doubt that you will be successful using this type of service.
Pretty much what he said, and stressing get out of the house or away from her. Look, reading what you stated, she cheated enough said. If an argument/fight or many of them can turn into her sleeping with someone else than most likely she was already on her way mentally, just looking for something to nudge her that way. Once a cheat always a cheat.....
Dogface is right, you feel like crap for 6-9 months and then things start to come into focus. I wanted to reconcile right up to the very end (move out in May, divorce finalized in December). After it was over and I started living life again instead of sulking about not being with her, I realized what a waste of time and energy it was wanting to get her back. That was back in 1993 and I honestly thank God every single day that I am no longer with her. I remarried in 2002 to a wonderful woman and have found true happiness in that time........Had alot of good times between 1993-2002 :SIB and you can too but you gotta give yourself the chance.
As for blaming yourself, bullcrap. If you physically took this guys cock and put it in your wifes pussy......well then yeah, it's your fault. You said some mean things, who hasn't. No it's not right but that isn't grounds for what she is doing. Sounds to me that she was looking for a way out and is using that as her excuse. Quit beating yourself up about it.
As for the living arrangements, one of you needs to go. I would start by throwing all her skank ass clothes and belongings out in the yard and telling her to get the hell out of YOUR house. If she doesn't leave, go ahead and go yourself but at least embarrass the crap out of her in front of all your neighbors. Maybe a big "My Wife Is A Whore" sign out in the yard beside her pile of shit that you threw out there. Just a suggestion........:0corn
As for blaming yourself, bullcrap. If you physically took this guys cock and put it in your wifes pussy......well then yeah, it's your fault. You said some mean things, who hasn't. No it's not right but that isn't grounds for what she is doing. Sounds to me that she was looking for a way out and is using that as her excuse. Quit beating yourself up about it.
As for the living arrangements, one of you needs to go. I would start by throwing all her skank ass clothes and belongings out in the yard and telling her to get the hell out of YOUR house. If she doesn't leave, go ahead and go yourself but at least embarrass the crap out of her in front of all your neighbors. Maybe a big "My Wife Is A Whore" sign out in the yard beside her pile of shit that you threw out there. Just a suggestion........:0corn
Sorry, man. Maybe the right answer has been posted, maybe not as all situations/persons are different.
It sux, sometimes as I have a big mouth, too and don't realize it until later. But, my wife of 25 years has developed a high tolerance level for me and I sure do appreciate it.........and it turns out like the old Ronettes song "The Best part of Breaking Up is When You're Making Up".
You sound like me, not eating when something is really bothering me. I try & drink calorie heavy milk shakes or something to keep my weight up as even my favorite foods have little appeal..and the shake onlt takes a minute or two to gulp down
It sux, sometimes as I have a big mouth, too and don't realize it until later. But, my wife of 25 years has developed a high tolerance level for me and I sure do appreciate it.........and it turns out like the old Ronettes song "The Best part of Breaking Up is When You're Making Up".
You sound like me, not eating when something is really bothering me. I try & drink calorie heavy milk shakes or something to keep my weight up as even my favorite foods have little appeal..and the shake onlt takes a minute or two to gulp down
I really appreciate the support & thoughts here from everyone.
I will make it somehow. I just have to find the fortitude to move on. I still love her & this is incredibly hard & very painful. She is full of resentment & some serious anger.
This dude she is with is only 25 & she is about to be 30. I am 34 years old.
I will make it somehow. I just have to find the fortitude to move on. I still love her & this is incredibly hard & very painful. She is full of resentment & some serious anger.
This dude she is with is only 25 & she is about to be 30. I am 34 years old.
