Long distance relationships

fatdaddycool

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anyone ever had one of any significance? I am in one now and was curious to know if any of them ever work...........Of course keeping in mind that I don't even have a good relationship with the stupid, lazy, fat ass cat that I somehow gained custody of in my latest divorce..........I am sure that someone has had to witnessed one of these things that actually worked out. Not that I am necessarily looking for anything that spectacular, more like something to look back on after this relationship fails and I can have something to blame or kinda hit myself in the head and say "oh yeah, I should have seen that"........thanks
 

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My first summer out of college I moved to DC and was dating a great girl I went to school with, who was 3 years older. She was a doctor at the Mayo Clinic, smart as hell and we were sure we were the one couple who was going to make this work. Well we did for a while, traveled every month or so to see each other, tried our best. We finally just agreed even though we both really wanted it to work, it just wasnt practical. Dont want to discourage you from giving it a run, and I guess it depends on how long "long" distance means. It may work in your situation, however in my personal opinion it will eventually come down to the point where one of you will need to decide if you want to move to be with the other one.
 

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yeah, I figure it will come to that, but.... She lives in Ca. Me in Tx. But I also have flight benefits so it is only about three hours away. Eeeeehhhhh, I don't know.
 

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FDC,

Yes I had a long distance relationship with my wife. I lived in NY & she lived in Quebec City. It took 9 hours to drive one way. I used to visit her maybe 2x a month. My business suffered terribly. I finally convinced her to move to NY. We have been together for 20 years & married for 19 years.

Since you live in Texas & she lives in California, why don't you make plans to meet her half way, which is Arizona. You & her are more than welcomed to stay at our house. I'm serious. We have had a few people have rendevous at our house. We will make it very romantic for the two of you. you would just have to fight off our dog.

Good luck. If you feel she is worth it, then go for it. Don't let the distance get in the way.
 

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Made one work for almost 2 years. She in Virginia....and me in Ohio. Travelled to see her or she travelled to see me.....or we met half way and shacked up in a hotel almost every weekend during that time. Was hellish for the most part....but it worked. She moved up here a year and a half ago....and were getting married in May. It can work.....but its work.....believe me....if both arent in it completely.....forget about it.

From this....I'm pretty much an expert on the whole thing....so if there's ever any help or advice I can give ya.....dont hesitate to ask
 

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thank you all for your replies and I will let you know how things are going from time to time. So far things are very good and we really enjoy each others company. Im in, good luck to you and your soon to be wife I am sure it will be great.
Ar182,
will visit anytime brother regardless of rendezvous or not. I get to Arizona often and will definitely look you up. I have the flight benefits and she therefore can use mine so that is a plus on both our sides.
Cris
 

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FDC,

Here is another sucess story for ya, when I came to TX from the SF bay area, Houston was my first "taste" of texas weather (this was in November by the way), ol' mr. humidity came around and I could not stand it, so I looked for work elsewhere. I got a gig in Austin but I was dating a lady I really liked whom I had met in Houston. We did not break off the relationship and either she came to Austin or I came Houston every weekend, we switched off (our Austin members who know me can testify to this). We did that for about 4 yrs., now I can report I am very happily married with a kid....the whole 9 yards. So yes it can work - it was 173 miles from my office in Austin to her front door. Also it was beneficial when we were getting under each others skin - I just didn't answer the phone. The drive did get old, but it was worth it - would not change things for anything.:D
 
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Success here! Went to LSU and She went to georgia Southern. Went to the same high school but never dated there. After my freshman year in Baton Rouge we decided to make it exclusive. Dated for 5 years and now we've been married for 3 1/2, with a little one on the way. It takes hard work, but it paid off 1000-fold.:D
 

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I think I had a good long distance relationship for the books.

While I was in Okinawa, I was home on leave in WI and met a girl. Dated her for a week before I went back to okinawa and then we called and wrote back and forth for about 7 months. Pretty expensive phone conversations I gotta say. But "the relationship was obviously not based on sex" :)
After 7 months of letters and phone calls I flew her halfway out and met her in hawaii for two weeks for a "second date" She really seemed to enjoy herself. :)
Then, nearly a year later I moved to Annapolis to go to school there and she was still in WI working and going to school. While at school, she would get an email of phone call from me about once a week. Ended up coming to visit me for a day and a half 3 times during the year and i would spend 2 weeks of xmas and 4 weeks of summer home with her. That lasted about 4 years. As the years went by in school the visits got more often, I think by my senior year, we were up to every other month for a weekend sex a thon.
It just sucked cuzyou couldnt have females in your room, so we had to rent a hotel room every single freakin time.
But, when i graduated, we ended up getting married and now have the typical 2 dogs and a newborn and enjoying life.
It was nice having some distance at times while dating cuz that meant i did not have any guilty feelings when i pulled the all nighter with the guys and not with her. Although once we got married it was a big change because I had a total lifestyle change from the 3 different sets of clothes and 1 pair of shoes and beer swilling every night to a mature wardrobe and responsibilities. But it was pretty good while it lasted.

Best piece of advice, email her or call her and spend your time together on the phone. Take an hour one night a week and tell each other about your week. make it like a "date" same time every week you call her.
 
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