Rant for the day...

[kellyindallas]

I have a friend who has season tickets to the Mavs. She buys two tickets every season. To the games where her boyfriend can't go (which are many, he travels a lot), she asks friends to go. What irritates me is she is basically looking to get reimbursed for each ticket, usually in the form of a dinner that is roughly comparable in price. I have more respect for people if they're just up front about what they're doing. (Her seats are pretty good, about $140 a ticket.) She'll be really pushy and act like she really wants you to go, but what she really is looking for is to get something for the value of the other ticket. It just really annoys me. I don't like people pushing their agenda onto me. Like I've told her several times, I don't disagree that the value of the tickets is 'x', but the value to me is minimal. I just don't care about going to the game that much. I can go to any game I want, whenever want. Pushy people with hidden agendas really irk me. :nono:

 

[Mags]

Kelly:

Interesting situation. I have a similar situation with Milwaukee Buck's season tix ($130 seats). Well, similiiar in that they are both NBA teams - but at least yours is worth seeing.

I struggle with this one a lot. Usually my friends will ask me what it will cost them for the ticket. The ones with no money are always wanting a "deal" - like $50 for the ticket to go to the game with me. Others don't ask and just volunteer the cost of the ticket at the game.

Basically, I've gotten to the point where I never ask upfront for people to pay for their ticket to go to the game. I've found most of my friends offer to pay for the ticket - some times I'll take it, but if it's the same person who has paid for tickets in the past, sometimes I'll say "it's on me".

But if I take the same person to a couple of games, and they don't offer to pay for any the tickets, then I just don't ask them to go anymore.

It's hard - even if we had a good team, still $130 is still $130 - and for some folks, they have better uses for their $$$ (including me, but that's another story).

Your friend should separate the dinner issue from the game issue - next time she asks, ask her how much is the ticket? Then if you decide to go, just split the dinner/drinks, since you had already discussed and agreed upon the ticket issue......

 

[LetsMakeMoney]

 

[kellyindallas]

Exactly. I mean, if I want to go I'll dish the money out, no questions asked. But these are games I don't really care about at all. My team is the Jazz, and though I follow the Mavericks, I rarely feel compelled to actually go to a game. But don't act like you're doing me a favor when all you're looking for is someone to pay for a decision you made initially. That's what irritates me about it. I'm a very generous person and treat my friends very well, but I'm not here to do your bidding, you know?

Anyway, sorry about your Bucks...

 

[kellyindallas]

Kelly:

Interesting situation. I have a similar situation with Milwaukee Buck's season tix ($130 seats). Well, similiiar in that they are both NBA teams - but at least yours is worth seeing.

I struggle with this one a lot. Usually my friends will ask me what it will cost them for the ticket. The ones with no money are always wanting a "deal" - like $50 for the ticket to go to the game with me. Others don't ask and just volunteer the cost of the ticket at the game.

Basically, I've gotten to the point where I never ask upfront for people to pay for their ticket to go to the game. I've found most of my friends offer to pay for the ticket - some times I'll take it, but if it's the same person who has paid for tickets in the past, sometimes I'll say "it's on me".

But if I take the same person to a couple of games, and they don't offer to pay for any the tickets, then I just don't ask them to go anymore.

It's hard - even if we had a good team, still $130 is still $130 - and for some folks, they have better uses for their $$$ (including me, but that's another story).

Your friend should separate the dinner issue from the game issue - next time she asks, ask her how much is the ticket? Then if you decide to go, just split the dinner/drinks, since you had already discussed and agreed upon the ticket issue......

Mags, I think you handle it just right. Perhaps it is just this individual that irritates me. I just prefer to handle things straightforwardly. I think your suggestion is right on - ask how much for the ticket, then split dinner/drinks, etc... She intentionally picks a restaurant where the tab is going to end up being around the same price as the ticket. I just want to know what you want, upfront. I mean, who wants to end up spending the time and money on something you never cared about, anyway? I just sent her an email telling her that she should ask her other friends first, b/c I wasn't interested in paying that much to see a game that I really didn't care about. I did say I appreciated the offer. Finally, and then I will shut up about this, this lady has unlimited income and the money isn't an issue - she's just trying to get everyone else to pay for something SHE wanted to do, which I find offensive and somewhat disingenuous.

 

[dawgball]

We have season tickets to the Titans (full) and Preds (partial season).

If I ask someone to go to the game, I will not accept any form of direct payment. I will also never presume that I will get anything in return. I asked them because I wanted to enjoy the event with them.

Most of the time, the person who is asked offers to buy me a beer or two which I accept. Done deal at that point.

My cost for the season tickets is a moot point because it is sunk cost. If they don't get used, the Titans aren't going to call me and give me my money back.

If someone were to ask me to use my tickets, then this would be a different situation.

Kelly -- It sounds like your friend is not inviting you to go. The "offer" is much closer to her trying to unload her cost onto a "friend". That sucks and is telling of her personal makeup.

 

[MadJack]

We have season tickets to the Titans (full) and Preds (partial season).

If I ask someone to go to the game, I will not accept any form of direct payment. I will also never presume that I will get anything in return. I asked them because I wanted to enjoy the event with them.

Most of the time, the person who is asked offers to buy me a beer or two which I accept. Done deal at that point.

My cost for the season tickets is a moot point because it is sunk cost. If they don't get used, the Titans aren't going to call me and give me my money back.

If someone were to ask me to use my tickets, then this would be a different situation.

Kelly -- It sounds like your friend is not inviting you to go. The "offer" is much closer to her trying to unload her cost onto a "friend". That sucks and is telling of her personal makeup.

that's exactly how i handled it when i was a ravens STH :shrug:

 

[kellyindallas]

We have season tickets to the Titans (full) and Preds (partial season).

If I ask someone to go to the game, I will not accept any form of direct payment. I will also never presume that I will get anything in return. I asked them because I wanted to enjoy the event with them.

Most of the time, the person who is asked offers to buy me a beer or two which I accept. Done deal at that point.

My cost for the season tickets is a moot point because it is sunk cost. If they don't get used, the Titans aren't going to call me and give me my money back.

If someone were to ask me to use my tickets, then this would be a different situation.

Kelly -- It sounds like your friend is not inviting you to go. The "offer" is much closer to her trying to unload her cost onto a "friend". That sucks and is telling of her personal makeup.

Well said! That's exactly what I think. It took me a bit to catch on to what was really going on. I think a lot of it is other people she "takes" can't afford to reciprocate or pay for an expensive dinner and she knows I can and will. That's why, almost more out of principle than anything else, I'm not doing it...

 

[theGibber1]

I have a friend who has season tickets to the Mavs. She buys two tickets every season. To the games where her boyfriend can't go (which are many, he travels a lot), she asks friends to go. What irritates me is she is basically looking to get reimbursed for each ticket, usually in the form of a dinner that is roughly comparable in price. I have more respect for people if they're just up front about what they're doing. (Her seats are pretty good, about $140 a ticket.) She'll be really pushy and act like she really wants you to go, but what she really is looking for is to get something for the value of the other ticket. It just really annoys me. I don't like people pushing their agenda onto me. Like I've told her several times, I don't disagree that the value of the tickets is 'x', but the value to me is minimal. I just don't care about going to the game that much. I can go to any game I want, whenever want. Pushy people with hidden agendas really irk me. :nono:

Kelly,


My new wife and I just moved within walking distance of the AA Center.. let me know if your friend is looking to pawn off any tickets..

My best friend here is Tom Hicks personnel accountant so i can get Stars tickets on the ice anytime if she is interested in a trade.. And my buddy never busts my chops about the ticket cost.

Are you new to the Big D???

 

[kellyindallas]

Kelly,


My new wife and I just moved within walking distance of the AA Center.. let me know if your friend is looking to pawn off any tickets..

My best friend here is Tom Hicks personnel accountant so i can get Stars tickets on the ice anytime if she is interested in a trade.. And my buddy never busts my chops about the ticket cost.

Are you new to the Big D???

Hey Gibber - throughout the season she's always looking to pawn some off. I think since the rest of the season is so limited (and are good games), she's probably ok. She'll have season tickets next year, though, so I will mention that to her.

I've been in the metroplex now for almost 11 years.

 

[INEEDMONEY]

I cant believe someone would "invite" you to go somewhere then expect you to pay for it. My roommate in college's dad always has tickets to games that I could never afford to go to otherwise and I am invited a few times a year. I always offer to pay for the ticket before I go but of course they never accepted. We always take turns buying drinks anyways at the game so that works out to be about even. Basically I go for free but I make to thank his dad two or three times during the game.