I belong to a private country club in the Buffalo, NY , area and have many close friends who are members-some I even grew up with....well since I have been on the mend this year i have spent most of my time in the grill room (bar)-well some of the members are hard hitters of the booze-as i can also be when necessary -and to make a long story short there is a guy who is a regular playing partner of mine whose wife I caught "blowing" this other guy in the parking lot late the other night.....now the conventional wisdom i have always used in these situations is to stay out of it and pretend i saw nothing- BUT I really like and respect my playing partner and he thinks his wife is perfect and can do no wrong...i will tell you now that I will probably never say a word to any one but I think if it was me that was happening to i would want to know......these two people have no children by the way and are in their late 30's just for your info...looking for your feedback for the hell of it......
Uncomfortable situation-looking for some feedback...
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I'd tell your friend - would you want a close friend not to tell you if the situation was vice versa.
kneifl
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tough one, gonna be hard to look this guy in the face from now on without wondering. if i was that guy i would want to know. if i was him and found out that you knew, id be upset, even though you certainly don't have to stick your nose in this one. he's gonna be upset no matter what.
yeah-kniefl i would like someone to tell me but...My wife is on planning boards with this woman and they come to my homefor dinner etc.......I just dont think I can do it....
Oh yeah-my car was parked only one space away in the lot from this "gentlemans" car and he was in a corvette with the roof off-it is a very dark lot with only one light-they must not have heard me walk up---I got a birds eye view and did not mistake what I saw--they pulled out of the lot as soon as I got in my car---she knows my car-there is no other like it at our club....
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maybe you could say to her...... "do you think there might be something you oughta tell your husband about before anyone else does?" 
Yes I thought about that-it is a good idea but do you really think that would work.....I guess it wouldnt hurt to say it to her...
it'd DAMN well work on me!!!!! she may already have told him since she knows that you know!! (but in that case, he may be wondering why you haven't mentioned it)
worm44 said:
tell her to get your pinto hatchback and ride you as you do donuts in the parking lot. :mj07: oh no dont say a word just use your tongue to make BJ
gestures when you see her.
BahamaMama said:maybe you could say to her...... "do you think there might be something you oughta tell your husband about before anyone else does?"
I would try that, good advice bmama. However...if she did not tell him, I would say something to him. As kneifl said, most of us would want to know. You know...he might hate you for it at first. But as time goes on he'll realize he was lucky to find out now than waste more of his life on her. If they are in their 30s he still has time to build a life with someone else. If he doesn't find out for 10 yrs he lost a good chunk of the good years of life with her. I'd say as hard as it is it's better for all parties involved (except you) that he is told. Worst case for you is you lose a dinner date, and a friend but in time he will understand why you did it.
Just my 2c.
And as a sidenote, wtf is wrong w/ people? If you want to screw around just end your marriage and get on with it. Why do people have such a lack of respect for others these days?
fcuk her. tell on the beeach. she doesn't deserve to get away with that, period!
did you ask your wife for her opinion? maybe your wife knows since she's close to this slut?
you can't win here but you have to tell your buddy. YOU HAVE TO!
did you ask your wife for her opinion? maybe your wife knows since she's close to this slut?
you can't win here but you have to tell your buddy. YOU HAVE TO!
Hey Jack- I am actually surprised so many of you said tell him--I thought most would say its none of my business-I think in a way Mama has the best plan for me.....yes i actually did tell my wife and where as she is very upset-she actually thinks that something may have been going on for a while between the two of them..
