Uncomfortable situation-looking for some feedback...
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countinguy said:
Yep!!!! You're out of the loop, as as I see it. But, how will you be able to continue seeing both your golf buddy and his wife socially and still have it not cross your mind? Until this is "out in the open", you will always have it in the back of YOUR mind.
Ordinarily, I'd say stay out of it. Many people have had a "moment" they would rather forget and it has never happened again. Maybe this was one of those times for her......?
hell I would tell him if for no other reason than having an everyday playing partner after he divorced the bitch. I mean lets be honest if he has been married for more than a couple of years he would rather spend more time on the golf course anyways, so the way I see it as a fellow man and golfer you have an obligation to break the news his old lady is playing another mans skin flute
I would be considering what shlomo said. Getting in it could backfire BUT I still think you should tell. Don't you hate it when other people's stupidity puts you in this kind of situation?
Why couldn't they have just done it in private?
Why couldn't they have just done it in private?
hey guys, long time fan of the forum just now started posting, and will do more this season....
on this topic. my .02 cents would be to tell him. You claim he's your buddy, it will suck but you gotta do it. I've been in your shoes. I told him as soon as i found out, he hated me, and didnt believe me but then he confronted her and the ho finally confessed. then everything was cool w/him and myself. on the other hand you can always just lay back and watch the fireworks, because if your wife knows and you know, i doubt you're the only ones, if you are, that wont lst long. Then again, tell her you know and put it on her sholders, but she's obviously proven she can't handle respect. dont give her the chance. Just tell you buddy! (bro's before ho's, right?)
i learn so much from this forum!
on this topic. my .02 cents would be to tell him. You claim he's your buddy, it will suck but you gotta do it. I've been in your shoes. I told him as soon as i found out, he hated me, and didnt believe me but then he confronted her and the ho finally confessed. then everything was cool w/him and myself. on the other hand you can always just lay back and watch the fireworks, because if your wife knows and you know, i doubt you're the only ones, if you are, that wont lst long. Then again, tell her you know and put it on her sholders, but she's obviously proven she can't handle respect. dont give her the chance. Just tell you buddy! (bro's before ho's, right?)
i learn so much from this forum!
Worm:
Don't say a word to him. I talked to her last night and we agreed not to do it in the parking lot at the club anymore. Were just going to have to get a room.
Eddie
Don't say a word to him. I talked to her last night and we agreed not to do it in the parking lot at the club anymore. Were just going to have to get a room.
Eddie
Obviously there's not a single person on this board that lives in a glass house........Everybody sez that they would want to know, but I am willing to bet that there are at least 30% of you guys that "don't know" about something along the same lines, or your wife doesn't know, and you guys are both much happier NOT knowing..........What you don't know won't hurt ya......Leave it alone. If he were your brother, that's a different story. You'll regret getting caught up in the middle of this situation.........AND yes, I know all of the glass house living people will be peaking their perfect ethical and moralistic heads out of their glass front doors and telling me that I am the ass. That's okay, I am the realist here. I'm sure none of you have ever lied to your spouse about the amount jack you lost on a game, or on a week, but I am sure "that is different"................
Worm..... how 'bout getting a *feel* about what he would want.
Get into a discussion about him about a *friend of yours* (who he doesn't know) and tell him you caught THIS friends wife cheating on him.... go on to say that you feel like you should tell him, but don't want to ruin the friendship in case he doesn't want to know or doesn't believe you.... next, go on to say if YOU would want a friend to tell you if it was YOUR wife .... finally, ask him if he thinks HE would want to know.
this way, HIS answer is YOUR answer to the problem.
Get into a discussion about him about a *friend of yours* (who he doesn't know) and tell him you caught THIS friends wife cheating on him.... go on to say that you feel like you should tell him, but don't want to ruin the friendship in case he doesn't want to know or doesn't believe you.... next, go on to say if YOU would want a friend to tell you if it was YOUR wife .... finally, ask him if he thinks HE would want to know.
this way, HIS answer is YOUR answer to the problem.
Believe it or not,knowing their are no children involved in this mess weighs heavily on my decision to spill the beans to my buddy.
If it was a family household the fallout could be messy.And i would seriously think about keeping the secret to myself and the Mrs.
Then again,i for sure would not want my good buddy having a family with this woman. :sadwave:
If it was a family household the fallout could be messy.And i would seriously think about keeping the secret to myself and the Mrs.
Then again,i for sure would not want my good buddy having a family with this woman. :sadwave:
Hey Keyser...IMO not telling your wife how much you bet on a game and getting a blowjob are not the same thing
Would you be more mad at your wife for not telling you how much she charged on the credit card or finding out your best friend did her doggy last night
Would you be more mad at your wife for not telling you how much she charged on the credit card or finding out your best friend did her doggy last night
Stay out of it. Put the Superman outfit away. I've seen these things get REALLY bad. What are you going to get out of it? This could very well hurt a lot more parties than what you see with your eye right now. How will all the other "clean" memebers of the club look at you now? Whether or not they like the guy doesn't apply.
She'll end up hanging herself in the long run. If she doesn't, no harm no foul.
Also
Hope the wife hasn't been holding out on you. You start turning over rocks who knows what gets exposed.
She'll end up hanging herself in the long run. If she doesn't, no harm no foul.
Also
Hope the wife hasn't been holding out on you. You start turning over rocks who knows what gets exposed.
BahamaMama said:
This is a good idea let him answer his own question. :clap: :clap: :clap: :sadwave:
Hey Rex.......First of all, it wasn't his best friend, and even if it was, he's still NOT his best friend............Just as I stated before, there is not one person on this forum that hasn't done something that they shouldn't have, and had they been caught and "tattled" on, they would have been in deep sh*t...........If this was a one time thing, then so what. If it isn't, she is going to hang herself anyway. It all comes out in the wash; you don't have to be the SHOUT..........As I said as well, I knew all of the perfect people would come out and tell me how I don't know what I am talking about.
