What do you do...?

[hedgehog]

I'm far from spoiled. I grew up paying for everything I have, but once I met her, she spoiled me and I guess I just wasn't used to it so I took took and took.

Secondly, I wasn't dumped(but thats irrelevant to the matter). The first time was after about a year, we took a few weeks off then went again for 2+ years. This second time was mutual, we agreed we wouldn't get married. But, I was in a wild phase where I just wanted to be free, party, drink, and chase something new. I was out of control, and didn't respect her. She wanted out, it killed her, she cried for days, but I didn't give a shit because all I wanted to do was my own thing.

I don't think being single is the problem. I think it's just hard accepting the piece of shit of a PERSON I've been for going on 3+ years.

We've been seperated for about 5+ months now, and I've never really took the time to put everything into prespective. I've never felt like she was gone.

This isn't all just about my ex-girlfriend. It has alot to do with how I've treated co-workers, friends, and family as well. I've had bad habits of being disrespectful without thinking of their feelings. I've always been about MYSELF, and never took the time to think about anyone else.

I can't lie, the last few replies have given me a good laugh. Actual brought a smirk to my face.

you need some help my friend, get on some meds go to a psychiatrist and get some help. Women come and go, there are plenty out there, go out meet some, you will feel much better about yourself. It sounds to me like you are depressed. Wish you the best.

 

[DrRays]

Now tell me again you're not spoiled.


We can sit around here and hug each other and cry on each other's shoudlers and tell you that it's going to be ok, and that you are a fine fella and she just doesn't know what she is missing - but that would just be feeding what got you to this point.

This is the point in your life where you stop being little mary jane rottencrotch and cowboy up. Yea, life is tough for you. It's tough for everybody else too.

At 24 years old, it sounds like the cold reality of the universe not being just a 3 foot cirlce around you has started to hit you. Congratulations. You're a bit late in getting to this point, but you made it.

You need some tough love - and not in that Big Daddy Bear kinda way. Most people, when faced with such drama as this, will go down to the bar and grab a beer and sit on the corner of the bar and cry in it all night long and feel sorry for themselves. It really doesn't help anything.

Don't be a bitch and call this a "depression" or go getting yourself hooked on prozac.

It's fucking simple. Be nice to people. Say hi to the goon scanning your milk and eggs at the grocery store, smile, help some old fart change their tire instead of laughing at them as they sit stranded on the side of the road.

Stop dwelling on your little honeypot. She's probably moved on, just like you should.

Well said.

 

[saint]

Well said.

hey can i get a box of spiffies

 

[vinnie]

hey can i get a box of spiffies

What flavor :0corn

 

[DrRays]

hey can i get a box of spiffies

You sure can :

http://www.spiffies.com/

 

[saint]

You sure can :

http://www.spiffies.com/

I'm confused why you are posing as Dr. Ray Wagner. I mean, after all, if you were a board certified pediatrician then you wouldn't have posted the following from this thread:

http://www.madjacksports.com/forum/showthread.php?p=2442152#post2442152

"Please share some details. I was sick as hell for 2 weeks but never got a fever. Started with sore throat then cough then green snot from nose and chest for over 2 weeks. I was dizzy 24/7 felt like I was beyond drugged lethargic hurt all over. But my doctor said no fever no swine flu."

I mean, most physicians I know in general practice would be able to diagnose themselves and not post on a sports wagering forum for health advice.

But I'm sure that Dr Wagner will be glad you are throwing his company name and logo in your bio here at MJs.

 

[vinnie]

maybe he's this dr ray :mj07: :mj07: :mj07:

 

[Keyser Soze]

I appreciate everyones thoughts. I've always considered Woodson a good "friend," even though we don't know each other.

Agents comments dont bother me because I've heard them before, but I've always just ignored them, or refused to believe it -- pointing the finger elsewhere. I need to turn a new leaf and get to the point where I hold myself accountable and accept responsibilty.

It's just so hard to let go of the past and the things I did. I guess moving on from it is the hardest.

Every morning I wake up and feel refreshed. Then as the day goes by I think....and think....and think...and it saddens me.

She meant the world to me, but I didn't appreciate her. I know you live and learn. We were together for 3 years, I know, doesn't sound enitrely long, but when you put everything into context, that's a long time...especially considering my age. Every chance I had to make everything right, I made worse. Now I'm paying the concequences.

I have no college degree. I quit school. I stop and just look at the world, and wonder what's in store for me. I have no goals, only "dreams" or "admirations" but what good does that do me without a plan or any goals?

I'm not sure what the "admirations" will do for you, but some aspirations might come in handy.......................I'm just sayin'

 

[Cie]

By your responses on a public gambling forum you seem like a major ahole.

Hi pot, my name is kettle......

 

[BUCSnotYUCKS]

I couldn't sleep last night...but I did what I felt was great progress today.

I managed call/email and apologize to some of the most important people in my life.

I wrote probably the worlds longest letter/email to the ex-girlfriend and finally owned up to what I've done, became, and did to her. She may never call me again, txt me again, or email me back, but I thought I had to do it and get it off my chest before I could atleast move on myself.

I had been kinda talking to a new girl for a few months, but lately I realized that with her I was only setting her up, and myself up for the same downfall. Also, I frankly think she was just a rebound, and it was absolutely pathetic of me to persue her.

I called my boss first thing this morning and just apologized for my behavior over the past year because he has been great to me. He has helped me out in tough times and I've never appreciated it. He was very supportive, and told me he only wanted to see me succeed, and if he kept being a crutch to me, that he would only help in my downfall.

I think I'm in the hardest stage right now which is dealing with the past, and trying to move on. I need to face it, then move forward with each day.

 

[saint]

Helloooo, paging Dr Rays

You usually have a hard time containing your loud mouth...you've been surfing the forum all day and no response? Thought so

 

[kneifl]

Is DrRays the same person as HighRoller? He sure seems to have some of the same mannerisms/actions and reminds me a lot of him.

kneifl

 

[saint]

Is DrRays the same person as HighRoller? He sure seems to have some of the same mannerisms/actions and reminds me a lot of him.

kneifl

absolutely

nobody goes from "lurking for years" to then joining and posting over 12 times a day. it's a nice story and all

the funny thing is what usually makes it obvious that it's our good friend Highroller, in addition to the way he writes, is his hatred for me.

Hi HIGHROLLER :mj07: :0corn

 

[Old School]

I managed call/email and apologize to some of the most important people in my life.

you are on your way...


take it from someone who knows full well the the pratfalls of ones reputation preceding them..


not a damn thing wrong with turning your life around and becoming one of the good guys..

NOT GOODTIME CHARLIE..enough of those self-centered assholes in the world already..

but one of those men who when you walk into a room all those in attendance are glad to see you and are interested in your well being and your life-work..

Believe me...you will welcome the change..

IN fact....YOU WILL FIND YOURSELF STRIVING HARDER AND HARDER EACH DAY TO IMPROVE ON YOUR OUTLOOK AND YOUR SELF IMAGINE..


nobody likes know-it all assholes..except the same know-it all assholes in the same room..

embrace the change..ya going to like it..

 

[BUCSnotYUCKS]

you are on your way...


take it from someone who knows full well the the pratfalls of ones reputation preceding them..


not a damn thing wrong with turning your life around and becoming one of the good guys..

NOT GOODTIME CHARLIE..enough of those self-centered assholes in the world already..

but one of those men who when you walk into a room all those in attendance are glad to see you and are interested in your well being and your life-work..

Believe me...you will welcome the change..

IN fact....YOU WILL FIND YOURSELF STRIVING HARDER AND HARDER EACH DAY TO IMPROVE ON YOUR OUTLOOK AND YOUR SELF IMAGINE..


nobody likes know-it all assholes..except the same know-it all assholes in the same room..

embrace the change..ya going to like it..

Thanks, as sad as it sounds, positive responses keep me up beat. I need to hear the negativity as well, as a reminder for me not to slip back to old habits.

I stopped by a friend of mines house who I've known for a few years now, but never been really that close with and had a nice chat. He was in a similar situation I'm in now, and I was just asking how he did it, what he did, and the advice he had. He got back together with her and somehow he managed to do it when she started talking to a new guy(same situation I'm in). So I needed to know, how he did it. I don't care what anyone says, you just dont throw 3 years down the drain and give it all up.

Because when it all comes down to it, I just want everything I used to have back, and to show her, and everyone I'm a changed man, and would do whatever for her(like I was in the beginning).

First thing monday I'm having a dozen roses(pink, her favorite) sent to both her parents houses(so I can show effort to both of them too).

I contacted a family church friend who I respect alot, and will be attending service tomorrow.

For the first time in years, I feel like the future is positive, no matter what.

 

[ppabart]

Thanks, as sad as it sounds, positive responses keep me up beat. I need to hear the negativity as well, as a reminder for me not to slip back to old habits.

I stopped by a friend of mines house who I've known for a few years now, but never been really that close with and had a nice chat. He was in a similar situation I'm in now, and I was just asking how he did it, what he did, and the advice he had. He got back together with her and somehow he managed to do it when she started talking to a new guy(same situation I'm in). So I needed to know, how he did it. I don't care what anyone says, you just dont throw 3 years down the drain and give it all up.

Because when it all comes down to it, I just want everything I used to have back, and to show her, and everyone I'm a changed man, and would do whatever for her(like I was in the beginning).

First thing monday I'm having a dozen roses(pink, her favorite) sent to both her parents houses(so I can show effort to both of them too).

I contacted a family church friend who I respect alot, and will be attending service tomorrow.

For the first time in years, I feel like the future is positive, no matter what.

BUCS....

hang in there. Self-awareness is an amazing thing. Once you take a look in the mirror and you don't like what you see, then its you and you alone that has to change things. Sounds like you are on your way. It's a long process, but you'll get there over time. Just be a good person and listen to the people here that wanna help you. You can tell the difference in the idiots and the genuine people on here. I know you and I haven't seen eye to eye on everything, but that's life. Best of luck to you.

 

[BUCSnotYUCKS]

BUCS....

hang in there. Self-awareness is an amazing thing. Once you take a look in the mirror and you don't like what you see, then its you and you alone that has to change things. Sounds like you are on your way. It's a long process, but you'll get there over time. Just be a good person and listen to the people here that wanna help you. You can tell the difference in the idiots and the genuine people on here. I know you and I haven't seen eye to eye on everything, but that's life. Best of luck to you.

Thanks, I appreciate it. I guess I just went so long being selfish and more worried about ONLY myself. I know alot of people are individualist, but how I was...was all about me, and didn't care about any of the important people, especially ones who actually do care about me. I've always looked at myself in the mirror and actually said things but it was almost like tongue in cheek or just smug. However, I finally looked in that mirror, and believed everything I said and seen.

We're both Carolina fans, so we probably should try seeing eye-to-eye a bit better.

 

[ppabart]

Thanks, I appreciate it. I guess I just went so long being selfish and more worried about ONLY myself. I know alot of people are individualist, but how I was...was all about me, and didn't care about any of the important people, especially ones who actually do care about me. I've always looked at myself in the mirror and actually said things but it was almost like tongue in cheek or just smug. However, I finally looked in that mirror, and believed everything I said and seen.

We're both Carolina fans, so we probably should try seeing eye-to-eye a bit better.

Yeah....but i've learned that not all Carolina fans are wonderful. I think we can both agree though that watching the football team this year is tough kurby

 

[BUCSnotYUCKS]

Shogun got fucked and screwed over backwards in his fight.

Guess it's just part of the price I'm paying :shrug:

 

[MrChristo]

Thanks, I appreciate it. I guess I just went so long being selfish and more worried about ONLY myself. I know alot of people are individualist, but how I was...was all about me, and didn't care about any of the important people, especially ones who actually do care about me. I've always looked at myself in the mirror and actually said things but it was almost like tongue in cheek or just smug. However, I finally looked in that mirror, and believed everything I said and seen.

I don't care what anyone says, you just dont throw 3 years down the drain and give it all up.

Because when it all comes down to it, I just want everything I used to have back, and to show her, and everyone I'm a changed man, and would do whatever for her(like I was in the beginning).

First thing monday I'm having a dozen roses(pink, her favorite) sent to both her parents houses(so I can show effort to both of them too).

Wow.

I'm reading the words...and just wow.

Have you learnt nothing at all??

Have you even stopped for one second (I'll answer for you in advance...no...) to think what is best for her?

You've fucked her around for 3 years now, what makes you arrogant enough to even think for one second that she'd want nothing more than to jump back in your arms...

Here's a dozen roses...sorry about ruining/wasting/making a misery of 10-15% of your life so far...

Good lord. (And no, not that, "I'm going to church, just to show everyone what a great guy I've become. :violin: )

Marine is 100% correct. It's not about showing people...expecting people to jump onboard the 'new you'...you gave up that right years ago by the sounds...

You fucked up...more than once...Take your medicine (figuratively of course), and realise that chances don't come in infinite bunches.

By all means, be a nice guy. Treat people how you would expect to be treated, absolutely...

...and if you do actually manage to turn yourself around (which, to me sounds like a massive over-reation anyway...given total typical adolecent behaviour) then people will notice.
No spectacle required.

And who knows, maybe one day she'll feel like she wants to contact you again. :mj06:

Until such time, once a selfish jerk...


[And yeah, like so many others here, definately been there and done it...(although not as long ago as most here by the looks! :142smilie )]