wife- paranoid or justified concern?

[The Boys]

Ask her to wear this chastity belt. If she really loves you she'll wear it.........:0008

 

[BBB]

I'm going to take Josh's advice but at the sametime do my due dilligence. How can I check up on her? Her only real time alone is at wor since she is at home at night with our boys.

 

[shawn555]

I'm going to take Josh's advice but at the sametime do my due dilligence. How can I check up on her? Her only real time alone is at wor since she is at home at night with our boys.

:0074

Josh has the best advice by far in this thread.

 

[shawn555]

Let me start off by saying it is just about impossible to type, your wife is lonely, without sounding like a dick. Please know that I'm trying not to be a dick here and it is obviously something that you care about and are looking for genuine advice.

What is the goal?
Do you want to catch her or prevent it from happening? I'm assuming you want to prevent it from happening.

Looks like you caught it before anything has happened but the path they are heading down is not going to end well.

She's lonely, He's horny. Fuck him, we don't give two shits about him.

I think if I was writing a Lifetime, Television for Women after school special, the scene would be.

You get home for one of your weeks off, Get a babysitter and take her out for a nice dinner. You then tell her you know how hard it must be for her to have to run everything while you're off working. You're afraid that you are losing her emotionally and the text messages to her coworker has you concerned.

Re-confirm your vows to her as a loving husband and that your hard work rough necking is so that y'all can have the things that you want for your family. Maybe try to make the date night a permanent occurrence.

Best of Luck man.

:0074

Great advice.

 

[ageecee]

hire a PI then that will really tell u whats going on

 

[Sportsaholic]

If you can get your hands on her cell phone check the calls sent & received to see if they have been chatting. If you can get on her Facebook check her private messages or click on his name under friends to see if any conversation have been going on that haven't been deleted.

Hope things work out for you....:0008

 

[JOSHNAUDI]

How can I check up on her?

I'd ask her - Your mind is already running the gambit of worst case scenarios.

Again if I was scripting a movie, it would be like this?

"Do I need to be worried about the relationship that you have with so & so?"

Get a read. She's going to feel shame just from you asking the question?
"Noooo, we're just friends." or "How could you even ask that?"

Hell we already know what her answer is so let's knock her off her feet with the follow up.
"I know he's just your friend but you probably share more intimate/emotional information with him than you do with me. I signed up to be that guy for you the day we got married and I know I can do a better job than him."

(Dramatic Kiss Scene)

Something like that

Do your due diligence but remember - If you don't find anything that is a good sign. Set a goal, I'm going to check her text messages and Facebook messages, if I don't find anything, then there is nothing to worry about. If not you will keep looking until there is a lack of trust.

Best of Luck

 

[BBB]

Thanks.

How can I get her Facebook logon info? I have access to her gmail but if I request it to her email it will go to her cell phone too. Hmmm. If I use her cell phone to check her Facebook can I see messages in those private messages you mentioned?

 

[BBB]

I didn't find anything on her text messages just a lot of weird text messages between them back and forth. More than I think Co workers should have but nothing really concerning.

I just don't lnow how to check her facebook I'm guessing ill need to have her cellphone with me when I try and either login or use her cell to check it via her cellphone

 

[Palmetto Pimp]

very JUSTIFIED concern
But my wife cheated on me with my sons baseball coach 2 yrs ago after some weird texting, so I may be a lil biased
If it smells fishy IT IS

 

[canuckfan77]

hire a PI then that will really tell u whats going on

If you can afford it, a good PI will get to the bottom of it quickly. :0008

 

[JOSHNAUDI]

I didn't find anything on her text messages just a lot of weird text messages between them back and forth. More than I think Co workers should have but nothing really concerning.

I just don't lnow how to check her facebook I'm guessing ill need to have her cellphone with me when I try and either login or use her cell to check it via her cellphone

login name is her email adress
if yall have a standard password try it

 

[BBB]

login name is her email adress
if yall have a standard password try it

Crap didn't work.

How much are pi's? All I'd need is one to check on her at work/lunch then like 8p-11p at night.

 

[ageecee]

Crap didn't work.

How much are pi's? All I'd need is one to check on her at work/lunch then like 8p-11p at night.

call around and get some prices but thats ur only hope is to hire a PI to get some closure somewhat

 

[layinwood]

I can't get phone records, her cell phone is a company phone. I checked her personal email and didn't see anything. What else could I do?

Heck this seems so odd,we have a 5 ye old 3 ye old and my wife is due in 2 months. Heck and this Guy just had a kid two months ago.

At this point if anything there is just an emotional relationship going because your wife is prego. Don't accuse her, just tell her your concerns. If you want to confront someone do it with him. Tell him you don't think it's cool and would like him to stop. If you really want to throw a wrench in his little happy parade then ask his wife is she knows about their texting and talking.

I hate to tell you but your wife isn't getting what she needs out of the marriage because you're gone so much. Because of that you really have to take care of those needs when you are home. And no, I'm not talking about sex. At 7.5 months pregnant she's probably not feeling attractive or wanted. This guy is giving that to her even though they're not doing anything physical. The problem will be in 1 year when she's lost the baby fat, hitting the workouts hard and she's still getting that attention from him.

Nip it in the bud.

 

[BBB]

call around and get some prices but thats ur only hope is to hire a PI to get some closure somewhat

Yea hopefullyi ccan find a decent one here in the Dallas area.

 

[BBB]

At this point if anything there is just an emotional relationship going because your wife is prego. Don't accuse her, just tell her your concerns. If you want to confront someone do it with him. Tell him you don't think it's cool and would like him to stop. If you really want to throw a wrench in his little happy parade then ask his wife is she knows about their texting and talking.

I hate to tell you but your wife isn't getting what she needs out of the marriage because you're gone so much. Because of that you really have to take care of those needs when you are home. And no, I'm not talking about sex. At 7.5 months pregnant she's probably not feeling attractive or wanted. This guy is giving that to her even though they're not doing anything physical. The problem will be in 1 year when she's lost the baby fat, hitting the workouts hard and she's still getting that attention from him.

Nip it in the bud.

Wow that is true, she tells me she feels fat an unattractive all the time lately. And to be honest working 18 hour days when I come home I don't really give her the attention I guess she really needs. I've got some work to do on my part for sure I just didn't want it to be too late.

 

[Sportsaholic]

I've got some work to do on my part for sure I just didn't want it to be too late.

You might want to hold off on that PI........

 

[BBB]

You might want to hold off on that PI........

Why? If something is happening I want to know it asap

 

[Sportsaholic]

Why? If something is happening I want to know it asap

I bet if you start paying attention and showing affection to your wife, you'll probably see the answer yourself......:0008