wife- paranoid or justified concern?

[hedgehog]

MAKE SURE TO PLAY IT COOL AROUND THE WIFE, DON'T TIP HER OFF

check facebook private messages...Do not let her know your checking, also check history on your computer she uses for any alternate email addresses, she could have her facebook messages going there:0074

sounds like an emotional affair at this point, I had one with a co-worker, same shit was happening you described almost exactly

 

[hedgehog]

like layinwood said, call his wife and tell her whats going on :0074

 

[Mr Pink]

I had a co-worker that I texted back and forth all the time and her husband thought the same thing. He got upset saying that we were spending to much time texting. Yeah it was ridiculous if you ask me.

He should have been upset about me banging her more so then the texts but whatever......


She isn't messing around on you while she is pregnant dude, she is just looking for attention and getting it elsewhere.

She will be on the waiting list though after she dumps the kid if you don't get with it. Women are hormonal during pregnancy. You have to pay extra special attention to them when they are pregnant.

My wife liked it when I would perform cunnilingus with a bunch of cough drops in my mouth when she was pregnant. :shrug:

Get the ones with menthol in them though, otherwise you just get a sugar rush and a numb tongue. Not to mention a pissed fat bitch.

 

[BBB]

MAKE SURE TO PLAY IT COOL AROUND THE WIFE, DON'T TIP HER OFF

check facebook private messages...Do not let her know your checking, also check history on your computer she uses for any alternate email addresses, she could have her facebook messages going there:0074

sounds like an emotional affair at this point, I had one with a co-worker, same shit was happening you described almost exactly

She has no idea at this point.

My problem is going to be getting access to her Facebook. I've got a ten min window to access her phone each day. Her corporate laptop that she uses for Facebook has an insane password on it.

Can I check her Facebook messages from her cellphone?

 

[Sportsaholic]

like layinwood said, call his wife and tell her whats going on :0074

I'd get more info before I went that route, could end two relationships with nothing going on......:0008

 

[Mully]

This very thing happened to me last year, Only it wasn't text. It was actual phone conversations. I can tell you without going into all the specifics, you're marriage is in trouble. I contacted Sprint and got all phone records sent to me. Found out my wife and another guy were spending HOURS a day on the phone. Even somehow managed to get conversations in while we were on a family vacation.He was married with kids as well.

Both your wife and this other fella are missing something in their current relationships. You need to find out what it is and fix it ASAP. If your marriage is strong enough and you both still love one another, this will be just a bump in the road and your marriage will go to the next level. Being married is a full time job and it takes work from both sides to make it strong and last.

This might be nothing to worry about, but I've been there and wish I would have done something sooner...If you need any advice feel free to contact me.

GL.

 

[BBB]

I'd get more info before I went that route, could end two relationships with nothing going on......:0008

ya, that would be last resort.

This very thing happened to me last year, Only it wasn't text. It was actual phone conversations. I can tell you without going into all the specifics, you're marriage is in trouble. I contacted Sprint and got all phone records sent to me. Found out my wife and another guy were spending HOURS a day on the phone. Even somehow managed to get conversations in while we were on a family vacation.He was married with kids as well.

Both your wife and this other fella are missing something in their current relationships. You need to find out what it is and fix it ASAP. If your marriage is strong enough and you both still love one another, this will be just a bump in the road and your marriage will go to the next level. Being married is a full time job and it takes work from both sides to make it strong and last.

This might be nothing to worry about, but I've been there and wish I would have done something sooner...If you need any advice feel free to contact me.

GL.

thanks. Yea, ill be honest, Im not perfect, and I could definitely pay her more attention and give her more affection. I just wish she would come out and tell me, well, maybe she did and I didnt see it. Now I do. But at the same time, I want to know how far she has gone with this guy. It sucks she works with him in the same office so he is always there, it isnt like i see her calling him all the time- no need since they work in the same office.

The thing that sucks the most is the fact I am gone 22 days a month out of state. I only get to come home 8 days a month, so those 8 days I gotta bust ass to keep things right, then go 22 days away and hope it holds.

 

[hedgehog]

bottom line here is check it out and see whats up. Even with little kids divorce happens, it happened to me, almost the same circumstances as you have described. Check her facebook secret messages...my exwife locked her phone when our relationship went sour, thats a sign too...:shrug:

 

[hawkeye]

I like most of Josh's stuff. nDo't sneak behind her back sit down and lay it out on the line how you feel or what your thinking. gl

 

[BBB]

well, I just logged into that gmail I thought she used for Facebook and there are no facebook messages in her email, so she must be using another email address. Damn, that makes things harder now. I gotta figure out if its her work email, or a whole nother one. Not what I wanted to find out, but cant start jumping to conclusions.

 

[ppabart]

Im with Josh too. What most people don't think about is if you start aggressively looking into things, you become the bad guy. You don't know 100% that she's doing anything wrong. Now, don't get me wrong, what she's doing is making you uncomfortable....and that's not right. but if you go and start trying to look into all her stuff, you're bound to get caught by her. If you do that.....then whatever trust she has for you is now gone. She looks at you as the husband that doesnt trust her. So what you have to ask yourself is this.....what are you looking for? If you start looking for something, you'll keep digging until you find out something you don't like, you find something that can be interpreted in multiple ways (which you'll automatically take the wrong way), or you'll find nothing and just figure she's hiding it well. No matter which way it turns out bad for you.

So what do you really want? Do you want your marriage to last? If so, be proactive and do stuff to improve your marriage and show your wife you love her. Don't be reactive to something you have seen or may see that you don't like. Ya know?

 

[Happy Hippo]

Stop snooping and start doing. Stop concentrating your energy on creating more negativity in the relationship - how is your wife going to react if she finds out you were snooping in her personal email?

Just talk to her about it, and tell her it bothers you. Believe it or not, that will mean a lot to a woman - jealousy shows that you care. Do it now, before it escalates to a point that you can't get her back.

Sincerely, female

 

[Skulnik]

Better to listen to Hippo and Josh.

JMO



:0074

 

[Trampled Underfoot]

check facebook private messages...Do not let her know your checking

No shit. :mj07:

 

[Trampled Underfoot]

Im with Josh too. What most people don't think about is if you start aggressively looking into things, you become the bad guy. You don't know 100% that she's doing anything wrong.

If I caught a girl goiing through my e-mail or my phone she would be dumped in two seconds.

 

[ageecee]

BBB where are u from and where are u working 3 weeks out the month?

 

[Morris]

Stop snooping and start doing. Stop concentrating your energy on creating more negativity in the relationship - how is your wife going to react if she finds out you were snooping in her personal email?

Just talk to her about it, and tell her it bothers you. Believe it or not, that will mean a lot to a woman - jealousy shows that you care. Do it now, before it escalates to a point that you can't get her back.

Sincerely, female

The best reply all day long!!!

 

[THE KOD]

Let me start off by saying it is just about impossible to type, your wife is lonely, without sounding like a dick. Please know that I'm trying not to be a dick here and it is obviously something that you care about and are looking for genuine advice.

What is the goal?
Do you want to catch her or prevent it from happening? I'm assuming you want to prevent it from happening.

Looks like you caught it before anything has happened but the path they are heading down is not going to end well.

She's lonely, He's horny. Fuck him, we don't give two shits about him.

I think if I was writing a Lifetime, Television for Women after school special, the scene would be.

You get home for one of your weeks off, Get a babysitter and take her out for a nice dinner. You then tell her you know how hard it must be for her to have to run everything while you're off working. You're afraid that you are losing her emotionally and the text messages to her coworker has you concerned.

Re-confirm your vows to her as a loving husband and that your hard work rough necking is so that y'all can have the things that you want for your family. Maybe try to make the date night a permanent occurrence.

Best of Luck man.

.............................................................

josh

very good advise

 

[MadJack]

No shit. :mj07:

:lol:

 

[ppabart]

BBB.....

If you listen to anything that Hedgehog says......good luck :facepalm: