Question Regarding Kids and Facebook/Texting

[Wineguy]

So we are watching a movie tonight( "Town", great flick :0074 ) with my 2 kids (18,15) and Ang's 17 year old. During the movie her kid is facebooking on his cell phone and I ask " what are you doing, playing a game or something during the movie"? He gets all whatever with me and says, "I am on Facebook". I'm like, "Why?" I just do not get these kids that cannot put their fawking phones down for a minute. He gets all sensitive and Ang gets pissed that I called him out, and in my opinion is exacerbating the situation. He is a super sensitive kid as it is, I am just calling a spade a spade. Do your kids do the same and you just don't care? Mine are both into the movie, my son loves his games, but not during movies. Am I wrong here for saying what I did? It feels like I could have shot the President with how I handled it the way she and my daughter are reacting. And, only 2 glasses of wine all night, not the problem. Give me opinions people. Thanks.

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[the addict]

dont see the problem:shrug:

i work with kids 40-50 hours a week, and im tellin ya they are fawking ridiculous with their phones


i have 8 year olds who have their own phones

what happened too having too wait to you were older and earn privelages:shrug:


as far as during the movie, i agree. It is distracting for everyon when ppl around you are doing that shit.


they will be over it tommorow:0074

 

[BobbyBlueChip]

So we are watching a movie tonight( "Town", great flick :0074 ) with my 2 kids (18,15) and Ang's 17 year old. During the movie her kid is facebooking on his cell phone and I ask " what are you doing, playing a game or something during the movie"? He gets all whatever with me and says, "I am on Facebook". I'm like, "Why?" I just do not get these kids that cannot put their fawking phones down for a minute. He gets all sensitive and Ang gets pissed that I called him out, and in my opinion is exacerbating the situation. He is a super sensitive kid as it is, I am just calling a spade a spade. Do your kids do the same and you just don't care? Mine are both into the movie, my son loves his games, but not during movies. Am I wrong here for saying what I did? It feels like I could have shot the President with how I handled it the way she and my daughter are reacting. And, only 2 glasses of wine all night, not the problem. Give me opinions people. Thanks.

:0corn

First of all, I'd ask Ang why she's so pissed and if it's just about this situation or if she's also upset with other situations between you and her son. It doesn't sound like a big deal, but it may be something else.

Second, I've got 2 nieces (16 & 14) that are on their phones texting during family events and it is not something that they nor my sister want my opinion on, so . . . . I don't know. It feels rude to me, but the kids aren't trying to be offensive.

And I'd also discuss things with her in the morning, just in case the 2 glasses have already turned into 4.

Good Luck

 

[yyz]

In just the blurb you've posted, you sound like you don't have much time for the kid. I'm sure both he, and Angela, notice that.

As for the movie? At least he was there. I fall asleep during movies with my family. I'm sure they would rather I was watching it, but they aren't poking me in the ribs asking me what my issue is, either.

He could put the phone away, and be sighing throughout the movie I guess?

He's 17. Did you want to watch movies with mom and dad when you were 17?

And trust me......Your kids would most likely have rather been doing something else, too.

 

[WhatsHisNuts]

First of all, I'd ask Ang why she's so pissed and if it's just about this situation or if she's also upset with other situations between you and her son. It doesn't sound like a big deal, but it may be something else.

Second, I've got 2 nieces (16 & 14) that are on their phones texting during family events and it is not something that they nor my sister want my opinion on, so . . . . I don't know. It feels rude to me, but the kids aren't trying to be offensive.

Chuck: I'm with Bobby. Sounds like a strong reaction to what you originally said, so there is probably a little more involved.

On the other hand, I come from a family that has never sat together for more than 10 minutes at a time. If we did get together and someone started to do their own thing, it sure would have been awkward if they got called out on it. We were always so disinterested as a group, it would have been weird if someone had been ridiculed for it out of the blue.

 

[THE KOD]

sound to me like a roundhouse kick to the kids head would have sent the right message

I mean that rules are rules

maybe find something you both enjoy and can do together.

on second thought taking him to a bar might not work out too good

 

[Old School]

what happened too having too wait to you were older and earn privelages:shrug:

that would require parenting.

 

[Cie]

Chuck,

Not something that I would normally comment on, but since you are seeking opinions, I'll be glad to share mine.

If he's sensitive, then u may want to reconsider calling him out on insignificant things. Watching a movie together does not require everyone's full attention for the group to enjoy it. Think about it, it isn't as if he was doing this at the dinner table. At that point, u would have no choice but to step in.

A quick apology to the boy and chat with angela to determine her position on the matter would appear to be in order. As mentioned by others, there could be an underlying nerve that you struck.

Anyway, looking forward to catching up with u again next time ur in town. My best to Angela.
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[THE KOD]

If he's sensitive, then u may want to reconsider calling him out on insignificant things. Watching a movie together does not require everyone's full attention for the group to enjoy it. Think about it, it isn't as if he was doing this at the dinner table. At that point, u would have no choice but to step in.

A quick apology to the boy and chat with angela to determine her position on the matter would appear to be in order. As mentioned by others, there could be an underlying nerve that you struck.

Anyway, looking forward to catching up with u again next time ur in town. My best to Angela.
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Good advice

I think its called manning up

get to know the kid ..... geezzzz

 

[Wineguy]

Thanks Gents. All very good opinions. Yeah, he is OVERLY the sensitive one of the family, a very feminine guy and overweight, never touched a ball of anykind in his life, pretty much closet gay. I have nothing against that and have a gay sister myself. I may have underlying tones that he takes the wrong way, but not so much him as it is Ang overly protecting him if ANYONE even looks at her baby the wrong way.

Don't get me wrong, no major damage, Ang rolled over and hugged me this morning. Yes, only 2 glasses of wine but Ang had a head start on me and wine sometimes makes her even more protective. Kids love watching movies all together with us and my daughter Hannah heads back to school next week, so we have all been together.

Thanks for the input :toast: , I will refrain from phone/game comments with him. I have never seen the phone out of his hand nor his face buried in it. And no, my kids are not like that with phones, so my head is not buried in the sand. Just pretty annoying. Different generation.

 

[Sportsaholic]

Thanks Gents. All very good opinions. Yeah, he is OVERLY the sensitive one of the family, a very feminine guy and overweight, never touched a ball of anykind in his life, pretty much closet gay.

I have never seen the phone out of his hand nor his face buried in it. And no, my kids are not like that with phones, so my head is not buried in the sand. Just pretty annoying. Different generation.

Sounds like the kids is self conscious with his situation (weight/gay) and the phone is his escape. Maybe find something he's interested in that will help him lose some weight.

GL

 

[THE KOD]

Thanks Gents. All very good opinions. Yeah, he is OVERLY the sensitive one of the family, a very feminine guy and overweight, never touched a ball of anykind in his life, pretty much closet gay. I have nothing against that and have a gay sister myself. I may have underlying tones that he takes the wrong way, but not so much him as it is Ang overly protecting him if ANYONE even looks at her baby the wrong way.

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These are the kind of kids that end up being nuclear scientists. Being very happy and someday you will be proud of him.

It couldnt start soon enough if you catch my drift.

 

[THE KOD]

Sounds like the kids is self conscious with his situation (weight/gay) and the phone is his escape. Maybe find something he's interested in that will help him lose some weight.

GL

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why not let the kid be who he is and let him worry about his weight.
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thats just what he needs a membership to the gym. That would go over big:facepalm:

the kid is 17 for christs sake

 

[Sportsaholic]

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why not let the kid be who he is and let him worry about his weight.
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thats just what he needs a membership to the gym. That would go over big:facepalm:

the kid is 17 for christs sake

Didn't say take him to a gym, I said find something "He's" interested in.........17 and let him worry about his own weight, ok Dr Phil.

 

[THE KOD]

I am sure Chuck will take the time to find out what this kid is interested in.

thats all I am saying

 

[Sportsaholic]

I am sure Chuck will take the time to find out what this kid is interested in.

thats all I am saying

Good, guess this thread is done :0008

 

[ageecee]

kids are kids and they like there phones.

I think the first 2 days mine had her phone she texted over 500 times according to the wife. She can check online how many texts she did.

 

[THE KOD]

Good, guess this thread is done :0008

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[THE KOD]

kids are kids and they like there phones.

I think the first 2 days mine had her phone she texted over 500 times according to the wife. She can check online how many texts she did.

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I wonder how texting by teens would be affected if the parents had a monthly copy of the texts to read

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[yyz]

Yeah, he is OVERLY the sensitive one of the family, a very feminine guy and overweight, never touched a ball of anykind in his life, pretty much closet gay.


I may have underlying tones that he takes the wrong way.........."

Really? I'm guessing the tones aren't too underlying, and I'm pretty sure he gets where they're coming from.


Kids don't need a lot.

Listen to them.
Accept them.
Love them.