Question Regarding Kids and Facebook/Texting

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Really? I'm guessing the tones aren't too underlying, and I'm pretty sure he gets where they're coming from.


Kids don't need a lot.

Listen to them.
Accept them.
Love them.
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Yeah, he is OVERLY the sensitive one of the family, a very feminine guy and overweight, never touched a ball of anykind in his life, pretty much closet gay. I have nothing against that and have a gay sister myself. I may have underlying tones that he takes the wrong way, but not so much him as it is Ang overly protecting him if ANYONE even looks at her baby the wrong way.

First of all, I think your mistake was commenting BEFORE you had more wine. I try not to parent until I've loaded up on "reasoning juice."

Seriously, the above part of your post (to me) is pretty revealing, and might give you a clue to the boy's and Angie's reaction. "I may have underlying tones that 'he takes the wrong way' does not sound like a promising communication pattern to me. A feminine guy, closet gay, I have nothing against that, etc. Guessing that the boy can sense your displeasure with this in some ways, although you say you have nothing against "it." You apparently notice "it," and express your opinion about "it" in underlying tones.

I'm just giving you an observation, and I could be full of shit. But, I know I say and do some pretty shitty things to my stepson at times, and it bubbles over because he doesn't look at life the same way I do. Is that his fault or problem? Probably not. But I look at it that way from time to time. Please don't think I'm condemning you, I'm not. To your question, all the kids in our lives do exactly what you're talking about. I bitch at my stepson for being on the laptop, phone, I-pod Touch, etc., when we're watching something together. My son and daughter do it too. My wife's niece is ridiculous about it - it drives me crazy. I think you have a right to mention it, by the way, but these kids today are wired differently than we are/were. They can do 20 things at once, and many times none of them very well... ;)
 

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Again Scotty boy putting words in others mouth....You said Chuck had it under control, so I was giving you the beni of the doubt.....

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Ah, parenting. Extremely difficult thing to do, but it takes work.

And it's always easier to analyze and fix someone else's problem than fixing the ones those at your own home.

Good luck, wineguy.
 

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i dont see what the big deal is at all and why it was even an issue for you.

was him being on his phone really ruining the movie for you? :shrug:

at least the kid was there when hed probably rather be doing something else.

most of you older guys are way too uptight about technology and texting and all that. its just how kids are today...its what they know. times change and i guess thats hard for people to understand sometimes.

but what do i know, im only 23 (24 in 2 months) so i dont have any parenting solutions for ya. i just know how the youth is today and dont think its as big a deal as a lot of the older guys make it out to be.

if hes on his phone constantly, at least hes got some friends hes talking to...could always be worse.
 

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At least he wasn't talking on the phone. :0008
 

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Really? I'm guessing the tones aren't too underlying, and I'm pretty sure he gets where they're coming from.


Yeah, REALLY! You could not be more wrong dickhead. I support him more than his own Dad and NEVER condescend about weight, gay, feminine, etc. Those areas are off limits in my opinion. Too hard to explain I guess in a written forum. Thanks guys. I'm obviously wrong about constant texting and facebook and need to turn an eye. He lays on couch with hoodie over head, 3-4 blankets on him, and stays 4-6 hours that way prone, and that after sleeping until 1 or 2 on non-school days. I guess with no school all week I came to a venting head with my fellow 'Jackers. I MORE than keep comments to myself. Carry on. :0008
 

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Ah, parenting. Extremely difficult thing to do, but it takes work.

And it's always easier to analyze and fix someone else's problem than fixing the ones those at your own home.

Good luck, wineguy.

So true. I found it interesting, Wine, that the opinions were so varied and some more critical than others with nothing more to go on than your brief description of the events. Then seemingly knowing your intonations and intent based on your previous interactions in the past.

On the other hand, you did ask for opinions so what the hell do I know - except parenting and marriage is a lot of work to succeed at.
 

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I've stood up in the middle of a movie and berated a kid behind me for yapping and texting and doing all sorts of things with his phone.

You'd be doing everyone around you a favor by telling the kid to stop fingerbanging his phone or go stand outside in the lobby and play with it if it's really that urgent.
 

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Don't have any children, so I can't really comment on that particular situation, but I will comment on texting and facebook on cell phones.
It seem's like just another distraction to keep people from doing more constructive things. I was in a movie with someone I was dating. She has an mba, works for jpl, owns her own house, generally has her act together, and she started texting during the movie. I couldn't help but get pissed off as it was a total distraction having a bright screen going off every few minutes. It seem's some people just don't respect the old way of communicating ( talking face to face) anymore. Also, anytime we had an issue, she chose to text me telling me what a piece of shit I was vs. talking about it. l:mj07:
I have begun to hate texting on most levels and feel it can become unhealthy in some situations.
And for the record, the bitch also talked during movies. :142smilie
 

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Yeah, REALLY! You could not be more wrong dickhead. I support him more than his own Dad and NEVER condescend about weight, gay, feminine, etc. Those areas are off limits in my opinion. Too hard to explain I guess in a written forum. Thanks guys. I'm obviously wrong about constant texting and facebook and need to turn an eye. He lays on couch with hoodie over head, 3-4 blankets on him, and stays 4-6 hours that way prone, and that after sleeping until 1 or 2 on non-school days. I guess with no school all week I came to a venting head with my fellow 'Jackers. I MORE than keep comments to myself. Carry on. :0008

Listen. You brought this shit out for everyone to comment on.

I know you probably think you're the greatest step-dad in the world. The way YOU write it.....You're not.

Don't blame anyone else.

Everything you wrote is what you obviously FEEL about that kid. If you think he doesn't notice that, your wife doesn't, and even your own kids don't.....then you need more help than the kid does.
 

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I've stood up in the middle of a movie and berated a kid behind me for yapping and texting and doing all sorts of things with his phone.

You'd be doing everyone around you a favor by telling the kid to stop fingerbanging his phone or go stand outside in the lobby and play with it if it's really that urgent.

i dont think they were inside a movie theater. pretty sure they were just watching the film in their living room:shrug:
 

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Listen. You brought this shit out for everyone to comment on.

I know you probably think you're the greatest step-dad in the world. The way YOU write it.....You're not.

Don't blame anyone else.

Everything you wrote is what you obviously FEEL about that kid. If you think he doesn't notice that, your wife doesn't, and even your own kids don't.....then you need more help than the kid does.

I agree. Damn Wineguy. Go back and read what you wrote. You did'nt have much good to say about the kid. You ask for opiinions and when you don't like what you hear, you lash out and call names.
 

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Simple solution
option 1 ask the kid to put the phone off til movie over
option 2 Ass Whoopin and give me the damn phone
pretty sure he will like option 1 I know that was the option I always took my father called it choices life is full of them!!! Good Luck JMO
 
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