wife- paranoid or justified concern?
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I wasn't going to chime in but fuck it. I work with 90% women.
The text that has "you have awoken the beast" and "grrr" on it has you guys riled up and even "flirty." .:scared BBB did say the next text talked about work. The guy could be slacking off at work and she told him to get his ass in gear. Texts can be taken so way out of context. I would not be upset about those texts. I mean seriously if I was being flirty with a chick, I would not use those words in a text.
Were these two friends before they started working together or not? I have girl friends I have known before we started working together and have remained friends. Women who I have met at work text me for only one reason and its not to chit chat and I don't start texting women at work just to chit chat either.
I really don't trust the guy, but it sounds like you are on the right track with advice from Josh and Jack and a few others. I just don't think you can jump to conclusions by "grrrrr" "you have awoken the beast." If he was going to be flirty via text it would of been more obvious and direct.
JMO
The text that has "you have awoken the beast" and "grrr" on it has you guys riled up and even "flirty." .:scared BBB did say the next text talked about work. The guy could be slacking off at work and she told him to get his ass in gear. Texts can be taken so way out of context. I would not be upset about those texts. I mean seriously if I was being flirty with a chick, I would not use those words in a text.
Were these two friends before they started working together or not? I have girl friends I have known before we started working together and have remained friends. Women who I have met at work text me for only one reason and its not to chit chat and I don't start texting women at work just to chit chat either.
I really don't trust the guy, but it sounds like you are on the right track with advice from Josh and Jack and a few others. I just don't think you can jump to conclusions by "grrrrr" "you have awoken the beast." If he was going to be flirty via text it would of been more obvious and direct.
JMO
:mj07: ull see FDC ull see. Well, maybe u won't and i won't but it is gonna come. U would be surprised what these university's are teaching these women. There isn't gonna be just one Gloria Allred and Nancy Grace there are gonna be millions of them.. It all started with our Daddy's. treating woman basically like slaves. U see who is fuking u on ur job don't ya? White male pricks. Same assholes who are fuking up the country and we happen to be one of them. There will come a time when women will feel like the only thing we are good for is our seed :mj07: Why u think they are dating each other at an alarming rate?
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well, I downloaded some text message extract software and got all her texts from the last year. Good news is, I dont see anything really alarming. She has worked with this guy since 2004. They are in the same department group, next cubical over. But for the past 3 years, they have been texting. A lot about work, some stuff outside of work but not much. Projects they are working on, inter office drama, where their workgroup is going for lunch, etc. Then there were a few photos of random stuff like when he wrecked his car, his wife was in the hospital, his golf score with his wife from a few weekends ago, etc. Recent texts were 2-3 about the bracket contest they have at work going on. I didnt see any late night texts either. Maybe a few around 8pm but rest were 8am-6pm during the week mostly.
Is this guy just in my wife's Friend Zone? I hear that when women put guys in there they are good friends, and nothing more. I mean my wife told him stuff about me 2-3 times in the past 3 weeks about "I told BBB (me) to get us this to work on this project at home" or "BBB and I are going to look at this this weekend" so she does bring me up a decent bit. And the guy did wish us a happy christmas, told her that he hoped we had a good weekend, etc. Weird, but nothing big.
Is there a software or something that will let me see her call logs from an Iphone 4s?
I mean a lot of this is probably because of me, or the lack of me being there the last 7 years of our marriage. I was not the best to her, not there emotionally for her, was there physically but nothing really more until recently. So I have to take some of the emotional disconnect blame if there is some. At least now this is a wakeup call and im making our marriage what is SHOULD have been.
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You really should let it go now. If there was going to be something to find...you would have found it right there with your snooping. just chalk it up to your own paranoia and the fact that even you yourself know that you weren't being the husband you used to be. Look at yourself and make some changes.
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agree with all this
back the fawk off now BBB or you will be in a world of chit if she finds out you did not trust her and were checking on her
cover your tracks
hell has no fury like a woman scorned
been there done that
Yep....you're right KOD. Ironically, she could be doing absolutely nothing wrong right now, but because BBB decided to take the route he did (and if his wife found out), she could end up doing exactly what he hoped she wasn't doing. Funny how that works huh?
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we both have been around long enough to know that is exactly how it works.
to a woman if she is doing no wrong and you break her trust for any reason, they go off the deep end. Expecially if pregnant .
holy chit
She will also assume that if you are checking into her.....a guilty conscience is what is making him check into her. So she'll automatically think that he's doing something he shouldnt be. Snooping is just not the way to go.
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yeh its called the double whammy
bart - I think we pretty much have this resolved
hope BBB takes the hints
