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Going to Meksiko's tonight!!!
Margaritas!!!!!!!
I'll toast to your new start brotha!!!!
:toast:
As I know you would do the same for me brother!!
There are better days ahead for both of you, you are a quality individual brother, as witnessed by the convoy we had at the last golf outing. No man left behind brother!!!
21 Ways to Overcome Disappointment
By Therese J. Borchard
Associate Editor
?We would never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world,? wrote Helen Keller.
How I wish she were wrong.
Disappointments leave us with the unpleasant task of squashing, crushing, and pinching lemons to extract any and all juice.
Here, then, are a few of my techniques to turn sour into sweet, to try my best to overcome disappointment.
1. Throw away the evidence
Albert Einstein failed his college entrance exam. Walt Disney was fired from his first media job. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Get it?
2. Stay in the mud
?The lotus flower blooms most beautifully from the deepest and thickest mud,? says a Buddhist proverb, just in case you thought all crap was bad.
3. Make a pearl
Allow your disappointment to form a pearl just as an oyster does when an irritating grain of sand gets inside its shell, but grab the pearl before the sand gets in your eyes.
4. Ignore the critics
Success is one percent talent, 99 perspiration. Take it from a writer whose eighth-grade paper was read aloud as an example of how NOT to write.
5. Grow your roots
Although the bamboo is the fastest-growing plant on Earth, it looks lazy at first because there is no branching ? just growing lots of deep and wide roots. At the right time, though, the evergreen is capable of surging as fast as 48 inches in 24 hours. So are we ? if we grow strong roots.
6. Persevere
?The greatest oak was once a little nut who held its ground.??Author Unknown
7. Don?t rush the process
Only in struggling to emerge from a small hole in the cocoon does a butterfly form wings strong enough to fly. Should you try to help a butterfly by tearing open the cocoon, the poor thing won?t sprout wings, or if it does, its friends will make fun of it.
8. Protect yourself
Avoid the highly educated relative who might tell you ?all things happen for a reason? or that you somehow attracted this disappointment with the wrong thoughts. Build an imaginary bubble and hide inside.
9. Stay big
Newspaper columnist Ann Landers once wrote, ?Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life, and when it comes, hold your head high. Look it squarely in the eye, and say, ?I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.? For once in your life, the bigger you are, the better!
10. Allow cracks
A crack in your marriage, career, or personal plans doesn?t mean that your life is broken. According to Canadian singer-songwriter Leonard Cohen, ?There is a crack, a crack in everything. That?s how the light gets in.?
11. Write about it
Recent research by Dr. James Pennebaker, chair of the psychology program at the University of Texas, has concluded that writing about painful feelings and emotional events relieves stress and promotes healing on many levels. So keep a journal.
12. Back up
Sometimes you can?t make sense of a picture until you back up. Up close all you see is dots ? lots of them in different shapes and colors. But with some distance the painting comes alive. It tells a story.
13. Stand up again.
A Japanese proverb says, ?fall seven times, stand up eight.? Notice there is no mention of sitting down when you?re tired, or crawling when you?re scared.
14. Join the race
That?s the human race I?m talking about. Because no one is perfect. The human experience is an exercise in collecting disappointments and mistakes, ruminating on them for a little bit, and turning them into wisdom.
15. Take the fork
Yogi Berra once said, ?When you come to the fork in the road, take it? ? meaning: it doesn?t matter which direction you choose as long as you keep moving.
16. Start over
Every disappointment is an opportunity to start over. A white piece of paper. And if this time you still can?t color within the lines, you get another blank sheet, as many new beginnings as you want.
17. Be gentle
Don?t scream at yourself. Speak to yourself with loving kindness, the same way you would to your friend who was just dealt a big, fat, unfair blow.
18. Get directions
Oprah Winfrey was taken off the air in Baltimore at the start of her career, then she was given a shot at a talk show. Says Oprah: ?I have learned that failure is really God?s way of saying, ?Excuse me, you?re moving in the wrong direction?.?
19. Dance in the rain
My mom once told me, ?You can?t wait for the storm to be over. You have to learn how to dance in the rain.?
20. Believe in miracles
I?ve witnessed enough miracles in my life to know they happen ? usually when I least expect it.
21. Hang on to hope
There is one thing that never, ever disappoints. And that?s hope. Hold on to it forever.
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By Therese J. Borchard
Associate Editor
?We would never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world,? wrote Helen Keller.
How I wish she were wrong.
Disappointments leave us with the unpleasant task of squashing, crushing, and pinching lemons to extract any and all juice.
Here, then, are a few of my techniques to turn sour into sweet, to try my best to overcome disappointment.
1. Throw away the evidence
Albert Einstein failed his college entrance exam. Walt Disney was fired from his first media job. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Get it?
2. Stay in the mud
?The lotus flower blooms most beautifully from the deepest and thickest mud,? says a Buddhist proverb, just in case you thought all crap was bad.
3. Make a pearl
Allow your disappointment to form a pearl just as an oyster does when an irritating grain of sand gets inside its shell, but grab the pearl before the sand gets in your eyes.
4. Ignore the critics
Success is one percent talent, 99 perspiration. Take it from a writer whose eighth-grade paper was read aloud as an example of how NOT to write.
5. Grow your roots
Although the bamboo is the fastest-growing plant on Earth, it looks lazy at first because there is no branching ? just growing lots of deep and wide roots. At the right time, though, the evergreen is capable of surging as fast as 48 inches in 24 hours. So are we ? if we grow strong roots.
6. Persevere
?The greatest oak was once a little nut who held its ground.??Author Unknown
7. Don?t rush the process
Only in struggling to emerge from a small hole in the cocoon does a butterfly form wings strong enough to fly. Should you try to help a butterfly by tearing open the cocoon, the poor thing won?t sprout wings, or if it does, its friends will make fun of it.
8. Protect yourself
Avoid the highly educated relative who might tell you ?all things happen for a reason? or that you somehow attracted this disappointment with the wrong thoughts. Build an imaginary bubble and hide inside.
9. Stay big
Newspaper columnist Ann Landers once wrote, ?Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life, and when it comes, hold your head high. Look it squarely in the eye, and say, ?I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.? For once in your life, the bigger you are, the better!
10. Allow cracks
A crack in your marriage, career, or personal plans doesn?t mean that your life is broken. According to Canadian singer-songwriter Leonard Cohen, ?There is a crack, a crack in everything. That?s how the light gets in.?
11. Write about it
Recent research by Dr. James Pennebaker, chair of the psychology program at the University of Texas, has concluded that writing about painful feelings and emotional events relieves stress and promotes healing on many levels. So keep a journal.
12. Back up
Sometimes you can?t make sense of a picture until you back up. Up close all you see is dots ? lots of them in different shapes and colors. But with some distance the painting comes alive. It tells a story.
13. Stand up again.
A Japanese proverb says, ?fall seven times, stand up eight.? Notice there is no mention of sitting down when you?re tired, or crawling when you?re scared.
14. Join the race
That?s the human race I?m talking about. Because no one is perfect. The human experience is an exercise in collecting disappointments and mistakes, ruminating on them for a little bit, and turning them into wisdom.
15. Take the fork
Yogi Berra once said, ?When you come to the fork in the road, take it? ? meaning: it doesn?t matter which direction you choose as long as you keep moving.
16. Start over
Every disappointment is an opportunity to start over. A white piece of paper. And if this time you still can?t color within the lines, you get another blank sheet, as many new beginnings as you want.
17. Be gentle
Don?t scream at yourself. Speak to yourself with loving kindness, the same way you would to your friend who was just dealt a big, fat, unfair blow.
18. Get directions
Oprah Winfrey was taken off the air in Baltimore at the start of her career, then she was given a shot at a talk show. Says Oprah: ?I have learned that failure is really God?s way of saying, ?Excuse me, you?re moving in the wrong direction?.?
19. Dance in the rain
My mom once told me, ?You can?t wait for the storm to be over. You have to learn how to dance in the rain.?
20. Believe in miracles
I?ve witnessed enough miracles in my life to know they happen ? usually when I least expect it.
21. Hang on to hope
There is one thing that never, ever disappoints. And that?s hope. Hold on to it forever.
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:0074 :00hour
Bart I was going to text you back but I needed to google how to spell chlamydia
i`ve read this stuff...all the crap that bart`s suffered heretofore.....ergo,being the perceptive old fart that i am,i have two predictions....
1)after a readjustment period,that you(bart) will be snookering more coochie than bill clinton....
2)that after a period of time,YOU WILL hear from this young lady again.....
don`t grovel...don`t beg...don`t contact....just go about your business....
mark my words,my brother....
all positive vibes and good karma that i can muster are pointed in your direction...
1)after a readjustment period,that you(bart) will be snookering more coochie than bill clinton....
2)that after a period of time,YOU WILL hear from this young lady again.....
don`t grovel...don`t beg...don`t contact....just go about your business....
mark my words,my brother....
all positive vibes and good karma that i can muster are pointed in your direction...
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Bart, you're a great role mode. Got into a great disagreement last night with the wife, but remembering how you handled things in a civil manner got me to put down the threatening knife (literally).
Thanks for sharing.
Best of luck moving forward.
Thanks for sharing.
Best of luck moving forward.
Again, the outpouring of support that you all give is simply amazing. Thank you all so much for being there.
She made it a good ways yesterday and was up bright and early driving this morning. She's already through Chicago and she's eyeing Fargo, ND as her stopping point for tonight. I was worried that all this driving would be hard on her, but she's really handling it quite well, which makes me feel better.
As for myself, I'm actually doing ok this morning. I've had the morning coffee and now I'm planning my weekend. I think I'm going to go see my lil Nephew, Eli, today. He's about 2 and a half now and he loves his Uncle Bart. He's such a great kid. Maybe I'll take him out to the park....he loves that.
Saturday is up in the air still but I have options.....and Sunday I'm getting together with a couple who are just the best kind of people They are the type of couple you just can't help but like....real salt of the earth type folks. He sent me a message last night asking if I wanted to get together Sunday and hang out at the pool, get some drinks, and grill out with him, his wife, and his parents (who I have met several times). To me, that sounds like a great time.
Let me reiterate something here......without my Madjack's family, I'd be in a lot worse shape. you guys really are the best. Thank you so much.
She made it a good ways yesterday and was up bright and early driving this morning. She's already through Chicago and she's eyeing Fargo, ND as her stopping point for tonight. I was worried that all this driving would be hard on her, but she's really handling it quite well, which makes me feel better.
As for myself, I'm actually doing ok this morning. I've had the morning coffee and now I'm planning my weekend. I think I'm going to go see my lil Nephew, Eli, today. He's about 2 and a half now and he loves his Uncle Bart. He's such a great kid. Maybe I'll take him out to the park....he loves that.
Saturday is up in the air still but I have options.....and Sunday I'm getting together with a couple who are just the best kind of people They are the type of couple you just can't help but like....real salt of the earth type folks. He sent me a message last night asking if I wanted to get together Sunday and hang out at the pool, get some drinks, and grill out with him, his wife, and his parents (who I have met several times). To me, that sounds like a great time.
Let me reiterate something here......without my Madjack's family, I'd be in a lot worse shape. you guys really are the best. Thank you so much.
They are splitting as friends which can make this a helluva lot easier. Why does he havve to act like it doesn't bother him lol. Jack was right your advise sucks :mj07:
Bart,
Hey brother, why don't you shoot down to Texas for a long weekend. I can ask a few buddies if they can offer up a buddy pass or if you want to drive or whatever. We can hit Tour 18 and catch some trophy bass!! Plenty of room at the fat cool one's bachelor pad. I even have a bed that nobody's even slept in or even been rufied in. Lol. Seriously dude, I have some time off at present.
Hey brother, why don't you shoot down to Texas for a long weekend. I can ask a few buddies if they can offer up a buddy pass or if you want to drive or whatever. We can hit Tour 18 and catch some trophy bass!! Plenty of room at the fat cool one's bachelor pad. I even have a bed that nobody's even slept in or even been rufied in. Lol. Seriously dude, I have some time off at present.
If anyone knows how to move on it is u bro. I think of u from time to time when im dealing with the mess i have in my life that is kinda similar to urs. :0074
Why do you continue to give out advice?
Do you not realize then NO ONE listens to you.
You have zero idea how to run your own life, but can't wait to tell others how to live theirs.
