Prayers Please!
- Thread starter canuckfan77
- Start date
I know you already know this but u have a special/strong lil girl there and u and ur wife should be proud of that!! You continue to be in my families thoughts and prayers.
Wow, still wiping tears from my eyes. As a father of one, and expecting our second, my heart breaks for you. Agent couldn't have said it any better. I'm praying for you and your family.
- Sep 25, 2012
- 220
- 20
- 0
I get a phone call from the officer late tonight, around 11:00. He said we need you to bring Kaitlin down to the station, and my heart stopped.
Apparently while tony was being processed, fingerprinted etc. He told the officer you might want to talk to Kaitlin so we don't have to do this all over again. Tony also said Kaitlin wouldn't have said anything because she knows the rules.
My heart broke again, and this time I broke. I couldn't keep it together anymore, so while Tina was on the phone with her sister I left to go to Ed's house to tell them and I sobbed uncontrollably . I didn't think that I should have done that at home, how can I be their rock if I have a break down in front of them?
So just when I start to think that everything is starting to get back to normal our world is shattered one more time. And now my wife is wondering if he did anything to her while she was little because she doesn't have many memories before she was 12.
This evening we went to Tammy and Damion's house (where tony was living) for supper. The kids were talking about how they were going to show unlce tony this or tell him that. We sat down with Joshua and Kaitlin and asked them if anyone had ever touched them in their private areas. Both said no and we explained that tony had done that to Aliyah and Alexandra so he will be going to jail.
Now tomorrow I have to try to get out of Kaitlin what happened before taking her down to the station at 5 for her statement.
I know that the bible says vengeance is God's so I'm praying that it takes place while tony is in jail. I really hope this doesn't go to trial and I won't be able to control myself again if he gets out.
Apparently while tony was being processed, fingerprinted etc. He told the officer you might want to talk to Kaitlin so we don't have to do this all over again. Tony also said Kaitlin wouldn't have said anything because she knows the rules.
My heart broke again, and this time I broke. I couldn't keep it together anymore, so while Tina was on the phone with her sister I left to go to Ed's house to tell them and I sobbed uncontrollably . I didn't think that I should have done that at home, how can I be their rock if I have a break down in front of them?
So just when I start to think that everything is starting to get back to normal our world is shattered one more time. And now my wife is wondering if he did anything to her while she was little because she doesn't have many memories before she was 12.
This evening we went to Tammy and Damion's house (where tony was living) for supper. The kids were talking about how they were going to show unlce tony this or tell him that. We sat down with Joshua and Kaitlin and asked them if anyone had ever touched them in their private areas. Both said no and we explained that tony had done that to Aliyah and Alexandra so he will be going to jail.
Now tomorrow I have to try to get out of Kaitlin what happened before taking her down to the station at 5 for her statement.
I know that the bible says vengeance is God's so I'm praying that it takes place while tony is in jail. I really hope this doesn't go to trial and I won't be able to control myself again if he gets out.
We are praying for you. God bless you and your family. He will give you the strength that you need.
Dont beat urself up for losing it, u have been strong since learning this and I sincerly tip my hat to that. U continue to be in my thoughts and prayers every day. I hope to god for better days for you and your family!!
Canuck, I can't tell you how many times I've gone to type something and either not started or not finished. First and most importantly your family is in my prayers.
Unfortunately I know some of the pain and feelings your experiencing. Something happened with my daughter when she was 5. I don't think you can quantify how bad something like this is but I was fortunate enough to stop what was happening with my daughter. Ours happened at a water amusement park place. The guy was a high school kid around 17 or so. I can remember when my wife asked my daughter a question and she said yes to it about whether or not something had happened. The moment she shook her head I lost it. I ran over the kid, grabbed him by his throat and slammed him into a building. I can remember choking him, people being loud but two things stick out to me. One is the look on my daughters face when I turned because her and my wife were screaming or yelling something and the other was the look on his face. For some reason the look on his face was something I'll never shake. I could see fear in his eyes but also more pain then I've ever seen. I knew the kid wasn't right and for some reason that made me let go of his throat. After that the cops came, interviewed everyone and arrested him.
That was 5 years ago and I still worry about it and what long term ramifications it might have on her life. She went to quite a bit of counseling and I can't tell you how many hugs and I love you I gave her.(more than the normal which is already a lot) I spent a good week just being numb and having the feeling like I might throw up at any point. I pray often that it was small moment in time that she's forgotten and doesn't have to live with.
I always said that if something happened to one of my family members that I would kill that person. It's amazing when something does happen what emotions can do to you. I started out wanting to choke the kid to death and was well on my way but then you see what something like that does immediately to you family. I also felt something I NEVER EVER thought I would exeprience and it was sadness for the young man. I actually cried long and hard about him that night. For some reason I couldn't get the look in his eyes out of my head. I knew at that moment when I was choking him that he was in pain. Not from me choking him but from the things in his past. Maybe I'm wrong but I've always felt like someone wouldn't do things like this if they hadn't have had it happen to them as well. That night I cried because I knew that young man had probably had horrible things happen to him in his life. I was still angry with him over what had happened but in the middle of the night I prayed that he could find peace in his life and that someone would help him.
Today my daughter is a straight A student, plays at a high level of soccer and tells me she loves me at least 5 times a day. In my eyes she's a perfect gift from God and nothing but an absolute super star.
I don't have time to re read this and I know I rambled so I apologize if this doesn't read well. I wanted to get this out there to you so you'll know you're not alone and in the end everything will be ok because you still you have your family and the ability to show and tell them how much you love them.
Unfortunately I know some of the pain and feelings your experiencing. Something happened with my daughter when she was 5. I don't think you can quantify how bad something like this is but I was fortunate enough to stop what was happening with my daughter. Ours happened at a water amusement park place. The guy was a high school kid around 17 or so. I can remember when my wife asked my daughter a question and she said yes to it about whether or not something had happened. The moment she shook her head I lost it. I ran over the kid, grabbed him by his throat and slammed him into a building. I can remember choking him, people being loud but two things stick out to me. One is the look on my daughters face when I turned because her and my wife were screaming or yelling something and the other was the look on his face. For some reason the look on his face was something I'll never shake. I could see fear in his eyes but also more pain then I've ever seen. I knew the kid wasn't right and for some reason that made me let go of his throat. After that the cops came, interviewed everyone and arrested him.
That was 5 years ago and I still worry about it and what long term ramifications it might have on her life. She went to quite a bit of counseling and I can't tell you how many hugs and I love you I gave her.(more than the normal which is already a lot) I spent a good week just being numb and having the feeling like I might throw up at any point. I pray often that it was small moment in time that she's forgotten and doesn't have to live with.
I always said that if something happened to one of my family members that I would kill that person. It's amazing when something does happen what emotions can do to you. I started out wanting to choke the kid to death and was well on my way but then you see what something like that does immediately to you family. I also felt something I NEVER EVER thought I would exeprience and it was sadness for the young man. I actually cried long and hard about him that night. For some reason I couldn't get the look in his eyes out of my head. I knew at that moment when I was choking him that he was in pain. Not from me choking him but from the things in his past. Maybe I'm wrong but I've always felt like someone wouldn't do things like this if they hadn't have had it happen to them as well. That night I cried because I knew that young man had probably had horrible things happen to him in his life. I was still angry with him over what had happened but in the middle of the night I prayed that he could find peace in his life and that someone would help him.
Today my daughter is a straight A student, plays at a high level of soccer and tells me she loves me at least 5 times a day. In my eyes she's a perfect gift from God and nothing but an absolute super star.
I don't have time to re read this and I know I rambled so I apologize if this doesn't read well. I wanted to get this out there to you so you'll know you're not alone and in the end everything will be ok because you still you have your family and the ability to show and tell them how much you love them.
Prayers sent! Having 2 daughters, 7 and 4 this really hit home. You're doing everything right IMO. Things WILL get better
Thank you so much for sharing this! I can't tell you enough how much I appreciate you sharing something this peronal and how much it has encouraged me.
Thank you sir :0008
Kaitlin said that he touched her over her clothes, but we suspect more...
They let the sick fuck out on $1000 bail !!!
What the fuck is wrong with our justice system? :facepalm:
They let the sick fuck out on $1000 bail !!!
What the fuck is wrong with our justice system? :facepalm:
Maybe he will off himself!!!!! Layinwood, WOW. Prayers to you as well. Something foe canuck to look forward to. Thanks for sharing and God Bless
